Rant post about girl and job

Its morning and I had just reached office for my work. Its my ritual to go and quickly grab a cappuccino coffee for myself and I sit for work. This time something weird happened, this girl whom I see everyday for work and I have also chatted a little with, bought me a cup of cappuccino coffee with the correct amount of sugar in it. Guys should I drink it? Idk how to decline because I dont want to be mean. She is sitting right infront of me. And why would she brink me a cup of coffee??? Does she like me? Is this some corporate hint for asking someone out?

All good in work, I have a crush on my colleague, sometimes I feel she is the one I’ve been looking for but introvert in me doesn’t allow to speak with her because she’s from another team (need a good reason to speak to her)..I usually meet her only on Fridays ( and always there are colleagues around her).. I neither can keep it inside me nor can tell her.. Also my mind reminds me about BCG when trying to speak to her😐😅

So i’ve been Noticing her for 1.5 months now.. she notices back like hell.. she is Indian from south.. im from NCR ..working in HYD.. she’s kinda cute.. spiritual, all Green flags.. but i don’t want to take risk as she is senior 1 year.. one wrong step can ruin things.. now I’m trying to not think about her.. but she’s stuck in my mind like nothing else.. seeking help.. any suggestions to get out of this !!

I know sometimes we refrain from saying too much about our company. But exes can usually be talked about, since there's not much holding back. Maybe it helps someone else avoid a mistake you did, or gain a new learning :p Shoot.

I have been talking to this woman lately at work since the past 2 months (I KNOW dating at workplace isnt a great idea but pasand aagai kya karu) . Currently, we are mere workplace buddies and not in a relationship. On somedays she is like really friendly with me and starts talking about her life and I love listening to her. On certain days she is extremely unapproachable and feels like a stranger. I know mood swings hote etc but why would she ignore me completely on some days while try to engage in meaningful conversations on other days. It keeps alternating and its very annoying. I feel like supporting her on bad days but she doesn lt want that it seems. Yeh odd even kar kar ke mai thakk gaya hu I just want her. Every single fckin day of my life. She makes my day a little more worthy every time we talk, and I feel when you find such people, you shouldnt let them go !

I met a Girl last year , when i met her i didn't know I was going to like her. But when i realised that I'm liking her i stopped my self. Avoiding office change my seat this is my personal concern and money I'm earning very low and I spent over. And simple nowadays money matters. Things got bad when our common friend who is her roommate notice me and said to me you like her ah. Well i told her I'm not into it even I'm like her she goona deserve better. Then what even she knw how much i close to her giving her daily flowers. Even I'm cooking for her. But sad part her roommate introduced her friends to her and one of boy is rich good looking and with car she roam with them for 2 days and her roommate somehow managed to close both of them even knowing i am in love with her and girl knows.. So now they are in relationship and the girl i like I stopped talking to her as she was busy always on phone with new one which is good Well i am happy he is good person. After three months in November 2023 thwy broke up. Mutually. She came to me with suprise after 4 month. We have coffee and then she started crying. I told her to talk to her boyfriend everything will be okay. Next month her bdy came well i text her happy Birthday She called me and said " ab tum text kro ge bas" Then she invited me as no one was to celebrate her bdy i logout early we go to some place and i left her at pg. Then she came to my cubicle daily for lunch ( as I'm not expecting her to here ) well I'm used as a banded i know somewhere One day after a party a called her and god know what i said only thing i remember I called her In morning i see duration of call 2:45 hr Call and 2hr vedio call Well I'm scared what i have done . After some day we met had a breakfast. I called her to my place we have a dinner my sister cooked for her And next morning i dropped her. And she said thanks for everything i know you will be there always After few day she called me and taking rudely and it is end

I met a guy over reddit few weeks ago. We both talked about our workplace issues, about mba entrance exam prep and few other things. He mentioned he liked talking to me and so did I. But he never told me his name or anything about his identity as he mentioned how people spend a lot of time in the beginning to get to know each other and this might be a distraction since both of us are preparing for mba entrance this year. Few days ago, he texted me that this texting consumes a lot of time and energy and he feels exhausted and he doesn't have the bandwidth as he needs to fully focus on his preparation for now. So he stopped talking to me and mentioned how he is still interested in being friends after the entrance exam in November. I want to understand a guy's perspective here. Do guys leave everything to focus on their career? Am I being unreasonable for feeling bad about this situation? Is it okay to sometimes prioritise career in our 20s and leave everything else? I feel there could be a balance but would like to know a third opinion.

I've been of the opinion that I don't want to marry and will enjoy life single. Turned 28 this year and for some reasons, my thoughts and perceptions changed and decided to give it a shot. Installed a matrimony app and didn't find much things happening there until I found a girl whom I thought I would give a try. I requested a match which got accepted very soon. Fast forward, it's been 2 months since we whastapped each other. The only thing bothering me is that she's working in audit and says that she's too busy for texts, calls etc. And over the course of this 2 months period, we only managed to call each other thrice(including 1 video call). I had asked her to atleast try to call me but she's too busy/ not feeling well/ tired etc. I really had feelings for her initially, but even after multiple attempts, she still keeps me waiting, I feel I'm slowly losing it and have reached a stage where i don't feel anything. What should I do? P.S. we live in different time zones with a difference of 1.5 hours and by the time I'm back from gym, it'll be 11-11:30 pm her side. I try to have food and everything very quickly and make time for her everyday, only to be disappointed most days. And most of her texts are scattered, with time gaps ranging from 10-16 hours at times. She tells me she's too exhausted and has no energy for anything but I am cent percent sure that she is using phone for insta, twitter etc even when my chats are waiting.

This is a rant post. Here is what is expected from a guy in India - Study well, go to a great college. - Get a high paying job. - Marry at the right time or else all your achievements are a waste. - Buy depreciating assets like car, houses etc - Have kids at the right time. - Give your kids the right upbringing. - Take care of your parents. - Be part of the society Whereas, for girls all of the above do apply but are good to have things and not a must have. If anything is missed from the above list, unfortunately society thinks you have not done the bare minimum. Now my question is who has all of this sorted considering at whatever point of life they are in.

Despite the "modern era" we live in, many of us still find ourselves on the path to arranged marriage—often feeling like it's the only option we have. Speaking from personal experience, I've had my fair share of bizarre encounters. Hearing similar stories from my male and female friends who are also going through this process has provided some comfort, especially knowing that I'm not alone. Let's use this comment section to share our experiences—whether they were bad, weird, gut-wrenching, blood-boiling, or even heartbreakingly disappointing