Software Engineer

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Removed 1 Rakhi as it was damaged. I am sure that the remaining ones last for more than a month.

Data Scientist

Consultant

How long do you usually wear your Rakhi after the celebration?

How long do you usually wear your Rakhi after the celebration?- Grapevine

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So, yesterday was supposed to be all about sibling bonds, but it turned into a reminder of how complicated family can be. You know how some holidays just don't live up to expectations? Yeah, this was one of those.

I've got this tradition of reaching out to my guy cousins for Rakshabandhan since I don't have brothers. Usually, it's a nice little exchange - nothing fancy, just a quick "Hey, thinking of you" kind of thing. But this year? Radio silence from one of them. Let's call him Dev.

At first, I brushed it off. People get busy, right? But then I saw him commenting on stuff in our family group chat. Ouch. Talk about being left on read.

The weird part is, Dev and I generally get along fine. He even made this sweet post about his sister today. It just hit different, you know? Like, oh right, I'm not actually part of that sibling circle.

Mom dropped some truth bombs later, mentioning how this isn't exactly new. Apparently, back in the day when we'd send actual rakhis, they'd never even say thanks. I'd totally forgotten about all the heartfelt letters I used to write too. Guess they're still collecting dust somewhere.

I'm trying not to let it get to me, but it's hard not to feel a little... I don't know, forgotten? Unimportant? It's just a text, but sometimes it's the little things that speak volumes.

Cousin ghosted me on Rakshabandhan

Muje toh real sister ne call nhi ki. Aap cousins ki baat kr re ho. 
 I messaged her late night asking if she had been busy. She asked why I am reacting like this. 
 Lol

Analytics Manager

Even though relationships aren't about money and gifts, this rakshabandan I felt hurt and sad and broke, when I had to spend a huge chunk of money on my air tickets to go home for tying my brother rakhi and got nothing much in return. 
*My brother is elder to me by 2-4 years and he's a well settled business man with a very high standard of living*

I feel so broke this Rakshabandhan!!

Analyst

I want to gift my Buaa(Father's sister) something on this Rakhi. She is 38 years old housewife. My budget is 2-3k.

Rakhi Gift Idea

Me and my partner have been in bangalore for around 5-6 months now and we are not going back to our homes in Delhi this Diwali. 

But honestly, we are quite clueless as to how to celebrate Diwali here. We have a couple friends here but can't host a party either because there's no space in the house. 

Pls share how you have been celebrating Diwali. 

The last and worst option we could think of is watching a movie in theatre to keep ourselves engaged.🥲

Diwali in BLR, a sad story

Make your own Diwali! Two years ago, we were in the same situation. We both decided it would be OUR Diwali. We cleaned/prepped the house lovingly. Planned and decorated the house to our liking. Cooked the morning breakfast and Pooja together. Went for a drive to see lights. Just hung out and had a great time. We now try to do it every year. Just us two. No tension, no drama, only happiness and joy.

Product Marketing Manager

29,M. I am planning to get married this year. My parents have not accumulated much money, plus i don't want to burden them with the expenses of my marriage, hence I will be sponsoring the marriage on my own. Same is the case for my partner, and we will split all expenses equally.

Now, here comes the twist, our parents wish to retain the "izzat" that they have in the society and want to do a big wedding. The budget that I have been told is minimum 20L. Tbh, I don't want to spend this much. I was looking for something ~ 5L.

People on grapevine, especially the members who married recently, what do you think is a decent budget for marriage. Additionally, could you help out in some money saving hacks.

Budget for marriage

Guys suggesting court marriage, please read the OPs question again. He isn't confused between court marriage or a grand wedding. He wants to understand what the budget should be.  
  
 Groom side expenses 
 Clothing: 70k 
 Jewellery gifted to girl: 2~3L 
 Return gifts (Usually sweets): 1L 
 Stay for guests (30rooms, 2 days): 1.5L 
  
 Bride side expenses  
 Clothing: 1.5L 
 Gifts to guy: 2L 
 Jewellery: 3L 
 Makeup: 30k 
 Return gifts: 1L 
 Stay( Same as groom): 1.5L 
  
 Common expenses 
 Photography (2 days): 3L 
 Venue + Food (2 days): 6~8L (Per plate ranges between 1k to 2.5k in tier cities) 
 Parents shopping: 4L (2L per side) 
  
 Total expense= ~30L for both sides. Now you can decide what to cut and what to spend on.

Growth Manager

This is probably the most personal question I can ask but trying to level set my expectations on the big fat South Indian wedding I will be having this year

How much did you spend on your wedding?

Engineering Manager

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Project Manager

If today was supposed to be your last day, what is the first thing you'd do

Hug my dad tight, mom, and also elder brother with whom I usually don't get along quite well. 
  
 Create a list of all my bank/investment details and hand it over to dad. 
  
 Meet close friends, special one and that's pretty much it.

Data engineer

so what changes happened in your life after marriage and what were it's impacts on your personal/professional/social life.

What changed after Marriage?

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Husbands, how are you enjoying/reciprocating the attention on Karwa Chauth?

Founder

I’ll go first, getting that old PSP, the one which had WiFi in built. Or maybe PlayStation 2 which was like 5k-6k back then.

Now, I could get a PS5 or buy games to play on my PC, but the feeling is lost. Just like my childhood.

I guess I lived a part of my childhood today. Went on a walk and had a Cornetto IceCream, which back then I didn’t have the money for and had to buy an Orange/Cola IceCream. Then, I walked around my society.

Saw a few kids playing football and instantly teleported back to when I was a kid.

Now that child is gone and the dream has too. 
But still, it feels good remembering that 5 year old me would be proud of adult me, and that’s what truly matters. 🥰

I made this exact post 1 year back and it reminded me of how far I’ve come. I hope it makes you feel that too. ❤️

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Product Manager

Don't feel like throwing them away, can't reuse them or keep them around me either except one or two things. All sorts of memories attached to the gifts.

Any advice?

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Product Owner

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Hello everyone! 

Good morning :) 

What this post is: a place to hang around and chat just about anything - without having a specific topic to discuss.
Think of it like the watercooler at your office.

Look forward to hearing from you all!

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What's the best birthday gift YOU have given YOURSELF?

Not celebrating birthday with friends.  
 This is for saving my money. 
 I am broke 🥲

Who all have holiday today for raksha bandan?

Holiday on raksha bandan

Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?

This is a very interesting topic. I wonder what the impact will be on so many things. 
- People get married later, have kids much much later 
- Effectively you're getting fewer of your "fitter" years with your kid (although lifetime is elongated too) 
- We've added at least 5 years of working as a single guy/gal to our lifetimes. 

Question to the broader community: I don't see most people between 25 to 30 being super happy. Most people actually seem misguided (me/my friends - in some ways). Is this pattern actually harmful for us?

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