Will this happen in India too? Are you folks still planning to have kids?
This is a very interesting topic. I wonder what the impact will be on so many things.
- People get married later, have kids much much later
- Effectively you're getting fewer of your "fitter" years with your kid (although lifetime is elongated too)
- We've added at least 5 years of working as a single guy/gal to our lifetimes.
Question to the broader community: I don't see most people between 25 to 30 being super happy. Most people actually seem misguided (me/my friends - in some ways). Is this pattern actually harmful for us?
You are assuming everyone wants kids. A sizeable share of people don't.
Randomization
Stealth
9 months ago
No one is super happy, whether married or unmarried.
If you got someone who understands you then good for you and if you found peace alone then awesome.
Most of us including me, are swinging like a pendulum between these two states. We fear commitment or peer pressure or career age and if we want to commit, we are concerned about finances, other priorities.
We are all running behind something or the other and all we all need to do is take a break from the race and think about ourselves.
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Nah, I don’t think people go unmarried that much
It’s rather just late marriage
Then we need to wait for the 1995-2005 kids to turn 35 years old for more conclusive data.
Seeing lot's of people who are currently around 30yrs being single.
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Stealth
9 months ago
Millennial here, 29M unmarried. Here's the pattern I see:
Most Men in India tend to get married between 28-31 these days. While most women in India tend to get married between 26-30.
As education rises and people become more independent, I see these age windows moving up.
I think it's good for people from an emotional perspective. Age tends to bring emotional maturity in many. Might have adverse effects on women's health, as having kids post 30 leads to complications.
I never get the "playing with kids" part. If one keeps their lifestyle active, I don't see why they won't have energy to play with their kids after office 🤔 IDK, maybe I'll get it when I have kids or get older.
Playing with kids is less important than giving them a good life. I have seen couples in villages where both wife and husband are unemployed, financially dependent on their parents and yet having kids. God knows how they plan to raise their kids like this.
It’s not about playing with kids. It’s about giving yourself more time post finishing off your children related responsibilities.
I had my son at 30. He’ll be of marriageable age by 57 only (considering 4 years of grad, 2 post grad followed by 2 years of work experience) and that’s my first child. If I plan a second one in another few years, I’ll be 65 when my other child is of marriageable age.
I’ll truly be free of any responsibility post 65 only. That’s freaking disturbing.
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If the US is doing this, India will follow
We've seen it happen with almost every other demographic trend haven't we
Wow that’s 70% -> 35% within a span of a generation
What are second order effects I wonder
Hmm, based on this trend and the comments here, from a long term perspective, the natural selection seems to be eliminating those people's genes who are highly educated and moderately rich but adding disproportionately more poor and less-educated people's genes to the global human gene pool. That too a global phenomenon! How ironic!
UprightLocal
Stealth
9 months ago
Will be on the path of Japan in a couple of centuries? 🥲
FancyDraw
Stealth
9 months ago
college grad here,my thoughts, i think marriage is legal suicide for any man, i m not going to get married until i have enough money to cover any legal expenses
Aaj kal ke cases aur laws dekh kar aur shaadi karne ka maan nahi kar raha.
Arey bhai, baap mat bano! Yahan par bhe wahi bakchodi shuru kar di. Kuch aur analysis kar le bhai
False Matrimonial Cases are and will be one of the top reasons due to which marriages will decline in India.
Already happening. Seeing lots of college seniors/office colleagues who are 30+ and unmarried.
Definitely seeing this happen around me
At 27, I imagined many more people around me to be already married. From a class of 80, barely 2 people I know have gotten married (at least that I know of)
Has to do with work life.
Bhai tumko kyu khujli hai. Tumhari shadi nahi ho rahi kya. Random panchayat.
Gems_Bond
Stealth
9 months ago
Absolutely nothing wrong in marrying late. Period.
Firstly there's no right or wrong age to marry.
Secondly one should marry only when they are financially stable, if not, financial instability can lead to regular fights and even worse a divorce.
If you live in a metro city, it's a good idea to take a look at nanny's salary, pre-school, and school fees and other expenses you need to incur on your child or children.
So, if your in-hand salary is less than Rs. 1 lakh per month, marrying is a bad idea, a really bad idea.
Shitposter
Stealth
9 months ago
One thing a lot of people are missing here is relating child with marriage but that's not the case in western countries coupke have multiple kids but never get married because of the alimony thing and honestly that's the best way i feel
In this digital age, people not just Marry for sex and kids but complementary partnership and fulfillment.
To have a successful partnership, emotional synchronisation is required. If it's not available then it will be a toxic relationship.
Financial part comes next, Just toggle your CTC by 20lpa on any matrimonial app and see magic. Dating apps work inversely as matrimonial.
Marry right girl when u find and best biological age is till 33 for male and 29 for females...Else ivf and infertility centre will loot u.
Decide wisely with whom u gonna spend next 30-40y.
Kids will find their way, job and marriage. Don't worry for them and produce as per ur capacity like Elon Musk:D
WhiteBhat268
Student
9 months ago
I'm definitely getting married and having kids, good genes have to be transferred 😀
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