Hi guys,
I have been really struggling mentally for 7-8 months. I'm just not liking my life for a long time. To be honest, I've thought of suicide multiple times and attempted once in October. I tried therapy, medicines and many more things. The biggest part is I'm unhappy with my job. And I know a lot of people will comment that then just study and switch but trust me I've this thought in my mind and not been able to do good mentally and physically is making it tough for me. I am hanging by thread mentally and this has impacted everything, if I'm unable to eat only then imagine the loss of my ability to study right now.
I've always done really well in academics, never below 90%, working hard was never an issue for me. I believe hard work is the key. But the way I've been mentally and a lot of physical struggle, I have not been able to focus. I have tried studying several times but didn't stick.
My brother always told me that there are things which you can't change from life but there are so many aspects that are in our control like our jobs, he always tells if you're not liking it leave it and focus on studying and applying.
As I've around 2 years of experience, never have switched, I want your opinion on this. Should I resign and take care of myself, feel better and prepare and job hunt or wait and try getting an offer first then quit? (3 months notice period)
Will it be a stupidity to quit? I really want to get better and do better.
You seriously need to practice gratitude.
I can't expose every detail of my life and since you've no idea abt what has been going on in my life and what kind of a person I am, you seriously need to practice empathy.
His is saying to practice gratitude affirmations, so that it can change your mindset and hels you to come out of mental struggle
Hello bro I am at the same piece of life where you are standing right now I also have two years of experience I don't have much skills I want to learn more and grow in life but these MNC have ruined us, we fresher join this companies and think of doing something extra and doing something that will change the life around us, we will get a chance to explo new things and work up on new things but they put US into some small small technology, and ruined our interest in everything.
At the same time at this point of life we have many things running around in our life like our relationships family friends everything is leaving apart from us , we are going through such a hard time from all of this but
But for me there was and will be always a single life rule that I will follow through my entire life that I will not let the person inside me die or the child inside me die I will never drop my weapon I will find it against each and every odd with all the might that I have I know these things will look fictional to you but I made myself like this that I will never drop my weapon. And will always smile through every situation I know sometime things are not in our hand but I promise myself that I will try my best to be happy and to give all my efforts to my life.
One thing that is always in my mind that I think we are very small part of a big thing like this sound philosophical but think about it you are a small person then zoom out like you do in Google maps , zoom out from your house then room out from you district your city your state your country your continent and then from earth from planets and from galaxy then from Milky Way then from very very far and see yourself from there do you really think that all those things happening around your life does really matter bro this is a part of life everything will happen and they will pass out to even the bad time even the good time everything will pass out just enjoy your life because this time will never come back in your life and you will praise the time in your future by looking at the pass and you will say even those days were happy when I am studying when you have everything na you still think that my pass is better even I am struggling in my past but that was better because I am living a life so enjoy every moment of your life ,one day we all go we all die no one remember not even family friends you love me know remember you after 10 20 30 40 years , so just don't give a damn to anyone , labour life on your own for your family do whatever loves you do whatever suit you do whatever gift you happiness and enjoy your life to the full list and just chill never take it anything into serious matter bro never take it anything serious, in starting 6 months 1 year of my experience I take everything to my personal to my heart very seriously not don't give us it to anything, I give my best and then I don't care whatever happening around .
So bro we have just two years of experience we are at the very young is our life this is the time to explore to enjoy to live our life go go outside enjoy do whatever you want to do the score outside work enjoy talk with people talk with good people and cut off bad people and just enjoy bro just enjoy be happy even if you are sad even if this hundred of bad things running in your life try to find a small thing to be happy small thing to be joy
Buddy technology is very vast manh.. just prepare your resume and staring hunting for good Job. I have seen people who worked in service based for 5years are now in product based company and living the life they want . This beautiful life is all about manifesting… try with your true feelings it works
Thanks for the wise words and I am manifesting the same
You are just a 2YOE, drop the paper now and even at the last week of your last working day you ll be getting calls from multiple companies but don't revoke after putting paper else you ll regret it for life . Chill the notice period by watching movies, hanging out with friends, travel some new places, have some good foods. Trust me after some 10 years down the lane you ll see how silly you were now. Drop the paper buddy, good times awaits.
Thank you so much for suggestion. Makes me feel a lot better.
Resign and relax for some day , after you feel ok then start again
Does it have any negative impact on career in the long run?
4-5 months gap is ok
Sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. What activities do you do in you free time or weekends. Do you have a hobby?
In my free time I do some sketching or DIY art or repairing or cleaning work at home. Going out with friends or to mandir. I love watching documentaries. Sometimes I try cooking recipes I see online.
I go to the gym too. Monday to Saturday.
I hope I could speak face to face to you and make you understand that we all go through rough patches in our life. Suicide is not a solution. It's ok to accept that you are not fit for job as majority of people don't do job for living. Sometimes going back to small town or village and becoming school teacher is more rewarding than anything in the corporate world. End of the day, little food and shelter is what matters and there are several easier ways for the same. Weekend just go to a orphanage or hospital and you suddenly realise your problem are too smaller than many people.
I understand what you're saying. And I know there are people who have bigger problems than me. But pain is not something we can compare, be it physical or emotional. I have appreciation for what I have but there is a big void because of some things.
I can't express the pain and void in words. But I don't smile anymore and I cry myself to sleep every night. I just don't want to feel this way anymore.
And ik 99% people will find this post stupid and weak and whatnot.
But I can't explain that I'm just surviving and not living. I just feel dead inside. I really can't explain this to anyone.
You don't need anyone's opinion on this. Do what you think you need right now. If that need means you should resign and take care of yourself, then do it.
If you are unable to take a decision and unable to do anything, take leaves for a few day, and just be. Then think what you want to do. Resigning without an offer is not a big deal. You should be a priority to yourself. If you aren't there, then what good is is to have a job?
Rest easy 💙
You have just 2 years of experience and so many thoughts. There's a long life and career ahead of you. Always think about your parents before making any reckless decision. My first job was also hectic and in support. I was frustrated too, but instead of stressing out, I simply resigned, took a break for 3–4 months and rigorously studied, and spent quality time with my family. My mental stress reduced significantly. Within just three months, I landed my dream job with the role I was looking for.
So, don’t worry. If you believe in yourself, take a break when needed.
You really need to watch NeetCode's video on Youtube - "Why I left Amazon". It will help you see someone going through worse. Anyways, if you can't quit, ask someone else to drop the email for you, your brother maybe?
Be a Man, Live live a warrior, roar like a wounded Lion, think no one in this world more stronger than you, wake up early in the morning make yourself muscular, make your face attractive, eat good food, visit your religious place, ride a bike , join gym and never skip a day,
One you adapt this daily habits then you can automatically adapt your professional situations
Buddy you don't know how coal mine worker and military personnel doing their job. So make yourself unbreakable first and love yourself because you only have this life to live.
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