BountifulFillet

Dealing with breakup

How did you deal with a breakup when you were working? I feel like I should take a break from everything but I really can't afford to lose my job. My mind's become hell.

1mo ago12K views

samosa

Stealth1mo

Deal with it, don't run away from it. Resolve whatever you need to right now instead of just hiding it. Seek therapy.

If you try to just move on with dealing with issues, they will keep coming back again and again

BountifulFillet

Stealth1mo

Yes, i had the ugliest breakdown 2 months after the breakup last night.
By resolving, do you mean I should go and talk to that person?

samosa

Stealth1mo

Was breakup mutual? Or because of some issues or something?

Cristiano_

Student1mo

Different people find different coping mechanisms to be useful for them. I can suggest you a few things:

Find a new hobby. People tend to remember their ex during those times of the day which they spent together. Pursue your hobby during that time. Watch a sport, or maybe read some popular science books, do whatever makes you happy!
Write. Whenever you feel that negative emotions are too overwhelming, just take a paper and a pen, jot down what exactly you are feeling. Later, when you are calm, return to the writing and think of it as a situation, which someone else is facing. Provide your advice, counsel or consolation to that imaginary person in writing.
Set aside time in your day for some meditation and exercise. A lot of people also find solace in spirituality, so they often meditate by chanting some religious mantras. Exercising, even as little as walking, right in the morning, sets the tone for the day. Play positive vibe music while sweating, it really feels good.
Just remember this one line, I found it on Instagram and it really helped me a lot. We often tend to search for closures, and imagine a lot of what-ifs. Avoid doing it. The line goes like, "The person you are missing today is making a conscious decision each day to not have you in their life and that's all the closure you need".
Love yourself, remember that happiness is found from within, and is not derived from someone else. Destiny knows when people will enter and leave our life, not us. We must know that life goes on. You may be facing a hard time today, rainy days for you, but the sun will shine again soon, good times will return! Have faith! This too shall pass.

Aspirer1

Accenture1mo

Thanks, post break up / divorce, people tend to isolate themselves. That only makes the mind more violent.

tenet

Hexagon1mo

Dump krne walo ke liye nark me alag jagah bni hui hai, dont worry, almost everyone has given sound advice

Keep yourself occupied
Meet friends, go to gym, get a hobby
Other relationship if you plan to go later, would be much better, trust me

TenderSeller

JP Morgan1mo

Underwent something similar few months back. I had started a new role in the company and life became absolutely mess after I got cheated upon. We were close and were even planning to get married a couple of years down. I had less work as I was new and my mind would just wander towards her...seeking a resolution that never came. I became hysterical..kept to myself and avoided speaking to new ppl.
The only advice I can provide is to keep yourself engaged with work as much as possible. Don't sit idle. If you sit idle your mind will go towards your ex seeking answers that will.never come.
Post work go and talk to your close friends. Maybe stay with with as much as possible. Don't shy away from talking to close people. But avoid revealing things at your workplace.
It does get better with time but you need to stay strong mentally in these situations. Hope you feel better soon.

BountifulFillet

Stealth1mo

thanks mate, I ignored my emotions for 2 months, kept myself busy and had a breakdown last night

Do you think ignoring emotions is the right thing to do?

SabChangaSi

Stealth1mo

There are better things waiting for you. Take it positively.

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