I never thought I'd go for an arranged marriage. At 29, with a good job in finance and a busy social life in Mumbai, I figured I'd meet someone naturally. But after a string of dead-end relationships, I gave in to my parents' suggestion to "just try" the arranged marriage route.
The first few months were rough. I met guy after guy in coffee shops across the city. Some were nice, but there was no spark. Others were clearly just looking for a wife to please their parents. One memorable disaster spent the entire time talking about his workout routine and protein shake preferences.
I was ready to give up when my aunt insisted I meet "just one more." Enter Rohit. He was 30 minutes late, apologizing profusely about Mumbai traffic. Normally, that would've annoyed me, but something about his genuine smile put me at ease.
We started talking, and for the first time, it didn't feel like an interview. We discussed our jobs, sure, but also our hopes, fears, and the little things that make us tick. He loved old Bollywood movies; I preferred books. We both had a weird obsession with trying street food in every new city we visited.
We started meeting more often. Sometimes with family, sometimes alone. We talked about everything - our careers, dreams of traveling the world, and yes, our expectations from marriage. It wasn't always smooth. We disagreed on things like how often to visit our parents and where to live long-term.
But we talked through it all. No topic was off-limits. I realized I was falling for Rohit not because he was perfect, but because he was real. He saw me for who I was, flaws and all, and liked me anyway.
Six months in, Rohit proposed. Not because it was expected, but because we both knew this was it. We wanted to build a life together.
Looking back, I'm glad I gave arranged marriage a chance. It wasn't the outdated, forced thing I feared. Instead, it was a way to meet someone I might never have crossed paths with otherwise.
Our marriage isn't perfect. We still argue and have our ups and downs. But at the end of the day, I'm grateful. Not just for finding a partner, but for the journey that brought us together.
Arranged? Yes. But also chosen, wanted, and deeply loved.
Maybe, give it a shot - treat it like you matched with someone on Hinge only, but with some more social markers 😅
Arranged marriages went through 15-20 years of image assassination through media, tv and movies. Those who grew up in this era see them as lesser and have dreamy perception of love marriages. DDLJ effect, we could say.
Reality has a way of reclaiming its place. With divorce rates rising after all the LOVE 💖, we are getting back to our senses. We are starting to wake up and understand arranged marriages were probably the best way of getting married.
No one way is the best way to get married, whatever helps you find the one for you is the ‘best way’ ♥️
Image assassination? It didn't need any lol, the number of unhappy and failed marriages in India is pretty high. Everyone knows at least one couple who would be better off without each other.
What does "spark" mean?
The same thing that it means in any relationship - it’s the human connection, how you feel when you meet someone.
Doesn’t matter if you met them in college or work or a dating platform or via arranged marriage :)
Spark plug… gadi main hota hain… the guy wasn’t carrying any…
Arranged marriage, especially with matrimony apps, isn't that different from 'love' found on any dating site. The only difference is that parents have a slightly higher level of involvement across all stages.
The degree of involvement differs from family to family.
Good For you... I m@rr!ed a lying s**1 who used to cheat on me and was not even a v!rg!N... I told her it's fine.. Just be truthful with me... The very foundation of marriage rests on a bedrock of Honesty and Mutual Respect... But this $cum... This c@ncer of society recurringly made up stories about her purity and used to treat me like a fool.. All the while maintaining contact with her ex... Who was saved in her phone with an alias name... Now she's left my house and is claiming alimony of 20 lakhs... As one time settlement... We settled for 10 lakhs... Now I'm divorced and broke... The irony is... I saw her with her ex at a mall... And they saw me... Shockingly the guy had a grin... And astoundingly he's cheating on his wife.... I don't know her... But that is how life is for people who are not so fortunate of Arranged Marriage setups... So please don't say arrange marriage is a boon and love is curse or vice versa... The fact is... It's your luck and choices that you make, the decesions that you take... 🙂
Seeing relationships Nowadays, I just need a genuine girl who will love me , I am 23 , lot of things are waiting for me in the life ahead , i am building it . But a girl who will love me for who I am , i am not on Instagram/Snapchat but pretty much aware about how it raised the standards of so many people out there with unrealistic expectations . I don't know whether I will get one or not , let the god and destiny decide it but one thing i know that whenever it will bound to happen, it will keep going towards a new life with minimal efforts
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I have a similar experience in arranged marriage. I met Saurav for the first time in the presence of our families. We hardly talked for 10mins and my mind felt so relaxed.We talked about our college life, friends, hobbies, work, ..I gave him my no and told him to call me. He didn't msg me. But I didn't wanted to lose him. I secretly took his number from my dad's phone n msgd him. We decided to meet at CP place. We spent around 4 hours. My happiness days of life after that..long calls, waiting to meet him. We both were in different cities. We just compliment each other alot. I used to earn more than him. After that he left his job started n sold his startup. He later joined another startup which I'd going IPO now. We fight, argue but love each other alot. We make all financial decisions together. We are now blessed with a baby girl n I couldn't be happier more than this. It's been 6 years now.
nice story. 6 months is good enough time to understand each other and come to a conclusion. All arranged marriages don't work that way as far as I know. They meet once or twice, decide, get married, and have arguments in the first 6 months to 1 year. Then after it's 50-50 nowadays. Many are going for divorce because they dreamed sometime and something else happens. Congratulations to you that you got your soulmate.
Right. In arranged marriages we do not get 6 months of time. Within few weeks and 1-2 meeting we have to say yes or no. Btw she is lucky that she got this much time. It's not the typical arrange marriage setup youngsters are afraid of.
Not to diss arranged marriage which is most definitely the most superior form of marriage union, but am I the only one who feels sad for Rohit?
Why would you feel sad for Rohit ??
Guy here, first Congratulations on finding such a person. Wish you both the best !! It's hard to find such a partner who are open to discuss about things and understand it better from all perspectives.
I believe if one has the clarity on what to expect in a relationship, they will find the right person. Be it love marriage or not.
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