QuirkyPretzel
QuirkyPretzel

Folks who are 30 y/o and above, do you still have dreams or are following your dreams while responsibilities pile up in life?

I have always dreamt of playing an electric guitar on stage. I started to learn guitar in late 2020 and it's been 1.5 years since I stopped playing it do to multiple reasons like bad time management, upskilling for switching, work etc.

I always wanted to work in companies not directed towards IT such as Mercedes Benz, Philips, Samsung, Siemens, Ather etc and work in areas where UI/UX design overlaps with physical product design. Physical product design is my first love and will continue to be so as that field still fascinates me. Not everyone is privileged enough to pursue their passions and might have to work in certain areas where they are partially interested and pay is good coz, hey! We gotta pay bills.

I wanted to learn multiple languages and was learning German a couple of years ago. Again, due to the reasons listed above, I had to drop out. I want to travel abroad for work, work in multi cultural teams etc.

I always wanted to run marathons and reach the top of Nandi Hills (a hill on the outskirts of Bangalore) by cycling because I was once a obese kid and wanted to prove myself wrong. Now, I have to loose 13 kilos and I'm on working on it. But I sometimes wonder if I can do these things as I had so much to work on.

I was pretty good in sketching. In fact, I was pretty good once upon a time in my design school. Now, I barely sketch. I don't want to loose that part of me who use to sketch day and night. I want to have an Instagram page with all the digital illustrations I wanted to make.

We live in times where one has to consistently switch jobs, upskill everyday, spend time with family and friends (not that I don't want to, but I also love my personal time), take care of aging parents, take care of kids, take care of household, travel to work, get enough sleep for 6-7 hours a day- basically be an adult.

I sometimes wonder if life is nothing but a graveyard of dreams. I understand that one can't do everything in life and sacrifice is inevitable in life.

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DancingDumpling
DancingDumpling

Start with checking your Phone Screen Time - if it's anywhere over 1 hour per day, fix that first. You'll see there's enough time and much to explore.

QuirkyPretzel
QuirkyPretzel
TCS7mo

......Continued

How does one make peace with this fact? I just don't want to loose my creative side chasing money, positions at workplace, etc. I ma not denying the fact that money isn't essential- it undoubtly is the most important thing. How do I still wrap my head over this?

SparklyNoodle
SparklyNoodle

I was once disheartened when I couldn't achieve what I had planned in college, then once I met one 82 years old uncle, he was so jolly and rebuild his wealth from zero. And follows his hobbies at that age also

Just keep tab on your health and keep hustling

DerpyQuokka
DerpyQuokka
EY7mo

Once we cross 30, it’s hard to follow just our dreams. I mean if someone dream is too become rich, own a business, get married and raises family, then that’s perfect. But whatever dreams or hobbies you mentioned are really hard to achieve. Not because they are hard, but rather it’s more of a societal thing. Family and society will not like it, you will see your friends who are just working and working for family will eventually go ahead when you were busy in dreaming about playing guitar or sketching. Especially in India, life stops at 30! That’s what most people start accepting. After 30, it’s all about family, job, money and societal expectations, that’s it. Very very few discard all this and might end up achieving their dreams. But they get it at a cost of their loved ones who don’t care about their dreams. That’s the hard reality in India. Go with the flow or get ostracised by the society if we try to break away from these unwritten rules.

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