The girl I’m dating is a perfect match but she doesn’t care how she looks. She could easily be 8/10. She has poor dressing style and awful eating habits so she started becoming fat. How do I ask her to change without breaking her confidence and heart? I really love her but this could be the deal breaker.
maybe you love her for yourself, not for her
if you have those issues with her, no you don't love her
What a fuqall logic honestly. It's not demeaning to 'prefer' a healthy and good looking partner. The OP should talk to her about his thoughts in a subtle way, giving her a disclaimer that it's a discussion and not a debate.
@LegalizeSlavery This guy (@ssamosa) is just trolling us.
And how do you rate yourself on your looks and dressing style ? 🧐
Imp question this is.
Bro asking the right questions!
Ask her to lose weight for her health. F Body positivity when you will die from cholestrol.
Support her and be her gym buddy. Play sports together and deepen that bond.
I agree. This seems really good way and totally engaging and fun
This. Be the supporter without blame. Start with the eating habits, start changing them slowly and then move on to the exercises. Enjoy the process. Fixing the dressing is quite easy just gift her something which you think will look good on her. But buy it in the size a bit smaller. So she wants to wear it and in the process wants to lose weight.
Looks - fades away after 40’s and you are left only with your personality and mindset
Dressing sense - as long as dressing appropriately, whats the correct style? She’s not trying to impress Tyra Banks
Eating awful - maybe she is going through some issues or problems- alot of people are stress eaters. How have you helped her improve this?
“I really love her” BUT - well there’s a but attached so nope, you don’t love her - you love the physical idea of her. If its a deal breaker then break the deal if thats not what you want - you cannot change others, only yourself. Take care! 🙏🏻
Looks fades away but not the cholesterol related issues. Body positivity is more dangerous than cancer.
Lol your comments are too superficial- something a random guy on podcast would say. Clearly you haven’t understood my comment in the context in which it was said.
What has “looks” i.e. facial features that have been given by birth/god/genetics got to do with cholesterol? In the post OP mentions thinking of leaving his GF cause of looks. If he was worried about her health he would have suggested or helped her get that checked instead of making a vain post here.
Sure whatever your definition of body positivity is? Probably you think thats its just about fat people. It can be about anything- being comfortable in the clothes you wear, your height, your skin colour, maybe you are disabled, etc.. but no - just throw in some fancy statement about cancer. Which im sure you must have never had someone close to you suffer/die from it to be making this statement. Let’s say Im positive about my body skin colour which maybe dark - so that’s worse than cancer? 😂
Having to explain in such layman terms cause clearly you missed the point. Take care and please interact with people whose lives are ruined by cancer before making such tone deaf statement. Take care