I just hit 30 and it feels... different. Not bad, just not what I expected. My 20s were a whirlwind of possibilities, but now I'm wondering if I'm supposed to have it all figured out. How are your 30s different from your 20s? What changes - good or bad - caught you off guard?
This post just punched me in the gut. I remember waking up on my 30th birthday and just... staring at the ceiling. Wondering where the hell my 20s went.
You know what's weird? I miss the chaos sometimes. The shitty apartments, sasti daaru, the all-nighters with friends, thinking we could conquer the world. Now I'm here, with a decent job and a place of my own, and some days I feel more lost than ever.
The other day I caught myself getting excited about buying a new vacuum. A vacuum! 25-year-old me would've laughed his ass off.
But it's not all bad. I actually like myself more now. I don't take as much crap from people. I know what I want in a relationship. Still, there are nights I lie awake wondering if I'm doing this whole "adult" thing right.
I guess what caught me off guard the most is realizing my parents were just winging it too. We're all just trying to figure it out as we go :)
To anyone else feeling this: you're not alone. We're all a little scared, a little excited, and just hoping we're on the right track. Let's be kind to ourselves. Maybe that's what our 30s are really about - let’s fucking go!
Reading this at 41, and I want to give 30-year-old me a hug. I remember that feeling of panic, like I should have life all figured out. Spoiler alert: I didn't, and that's okay.
Your 30s are a rollercoaster. I've had incredible highs - finally found a career I love, met my partner, traveled to places I'd only dreamed of. But there have been lows too - lost my dad, struggled with fertility, had to completely restart my career at 35.
What I wish I'd known at 30? It's okay to still be figuring things out. In fact, that never really stops. The difference is, now I'm more comfortable with the uncertainty. I've learned to trust myself more.
The best part of my 30s? Giving fewer fucks about what others think. Realizing that everyone's path is different. Learning to say no without guilt. And surprisingly, becoming more adventurous - I started rock climbing at 37! (Now my kids join me too!)
So to you just hitting 30 - breathe. You're exactly where you need to be. Your 30s will surprise you in the best (and sometimes hardest) ways. Embrace the journey, it's uniquely yours.
P.S.: Feels good to be back on this app after going viral on possibly all of India Tech Twitter. Thank God for anonymity - could've never shared those thoughts on LinkedIn or Twitter and still be able to roam out freely 🙏🏼
20s - I will not shift overseas, work hard and earn enough to fulfill all my dreams and run a NGO on sidelines. Full of hope and feeling if belonging to people and nation.
30s - regretting every chance of not immigrating. Everybody hates everybody else, hopeless level of corruption and gundaism. Stuck now with responsibilities, angry looking at younger cousins living in Canada, Dubai, Australia while they share reels of missing Indian street food. Fckers
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Difficulty in maintaining health in 30s isn't something I anticipated. It was so much easier to lose weight in twenties.
Apart from physical health, not much changes except kids call you uncle and family wants you to get married if you're still single.
I struggled to startup for years in my 20s, but I have two now that I need to manage. Twenties was about fking around and finding out. Thirties and beyond is mostly serious business, I'm glad I had the time to stay young and foolish for a decade almost.
Still much to learn about the world, still much to do. Miles to go before I sleep, many promises to keep.
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