At the risk of sounding weak, this has become more and more rampant with me.
It feels as if I am living someone's elses life.
Somedays I just feel like living a life thats pointless. These are the days when I feel very prone to these emotional impulses of sudden "lonlinesss" (despite having few of the most amazing people in my life) or "emptiness" or "anti-gratitude/self-destruction". So much mental lethargy behing these useless chain of thoughts.
Am I the only one? Have I lost it? Am I sensitive? Is it a bad thing? Am I overworked? Am I too critical about my thoughts?
Man this is so confounding.
I have been going through the same thing for many years. I have been on anti-anxiety medication for 2-3 years but stopped last year. Sometimes its tolerable, some days not.
Trust me when I tell you its directly correlated with physical health, let’s start with basics:
Get all your vitamins levels tested -D3, B12, etc. regularly. Often anxiety/depression issues due to low levels. Take multi vitamins and omega 3 fish oil daily - THIS IS A LIFE SAVER - and anyone who says otherwise trust me has no knowledge of this.
Breathing - start by commiting 10-15 mins daily to pranayam. Stomach breathing exercises are essential for anxiety.
Physical activity- its fine if you dont wanna go gym - do basic warm up, body weight exercises, then stretching. Even 20 mins of this every day with improve your life ten folds.
Find some mission that is selfless and greater than you - For me, I take care of the street dogs in my lane. Feeding them daily, vaccinations, doctor visits. I don’t do it to improve my anxiety but because I genuinely love them - and in that process I realised how cathartic it is. It can be anything- helping out in old age home, teaching poor children, even cleaning your house! It gives you a purpose that no matter what you’re feeling, there are certain duties that HAVE to be done.
Stop alcohol and smoking completely - this is not from a preaching pov but biological. All of these release drowner chemicals in our brain.
This is what I do to keep myself in check- its not perfect but works for me. Hope it helps!
Pretty much this. This is very well put and something I have gone through as well. I wouldn't recommend starting with meds though. Do everything else and if all else fails, go to meds.
Great list! I would like to add my two cents too.
Experiment with your caffeine intake. Due to a few circumstances, I stopped consuming caffeine altogether. It was bad for a few days but after that, life had never been better. My anxiety levels are under control now. Exercise, pranayama, journaling, along with no caffeine, no alcohol and no smoking, have helped me feel so much calm. I had been suffering from severe anxiety for 7 years and was even on meds briefly in between.
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My therapist feels that its normal and I should not pay attention to it.
I am sorry but thats the most pointless advice I have ever recieved. Its like saying "if youre homeless, just buy a house"
She never made an attempt to feel my thoughts the way I do.
I just feel that no one understands me despite being as articulate as I can. Sometimes I feel really abnormal
Get your blood test done.. eat and sleep properly it helped me it will help u.
All days are not same. Same are happy, some are bad. So wait for happy ones.
Waiting since the past 23 years
Only 23 yo? There is a long way to go and experience different things. You never know what future has for you, why to feel like this. I sleep a lot or hit the gym when depressed and it helps me. You also try to find what works for you.
Can you run me with few situations of yours?
I feel disconnected with people.
My mind automatically assumes that people around me have nefarious intentions about me. Iss chakkar me I am not able to make meaningful bonds. I dont even trust my shadow anymore. I feel ki I lack social experience although I have been decently social throughout my life.
For instance, there used to be this friend of mine, who used to be quite empathetic towards everyone. She would always lend an ear to listen to other people, the ones on pain to be precise (rare trait). One fine day, she saw me sitting alone in the cafeteria. She stopped by and placed her hand on my arm and told me "you can count on me, I am here to listen". I couldnt control myself and I ended up telling her about my emotional issue. I ranted for a out 10mins. The next thing I saw was she totally started to ignore me. I suspected that that could be because now she thinks that I am being a pussy and lack the courage to face the real world (immature, in a nutshell). I confronted her indirectly and she was like hey you know what, everyone's got problems, its fine. Learn how to face them. Dont expect people to be nice. I was crestfallen to hear that. Mainly because this is not how she usually responds to others. With others, she has always been empathetic and chill. Why was that priviledge masked off from me then? It just made me think how foolish I am. How easily I trust people and how bad my metrics to gauge people are.
I still dont feel like talking about these issues. People might sound curious and "ready to help" but I know people would be reading this long ass thread and secreatly laughing at me. I am sorry I couldnt provide the popcorn fellas.
See a psychiatrist. Getting professional help helps the most. Do not go around finding remedies on your own and waste your time and energy
I just feel that most therapists are scammers. I have been going to therapy since the past 8 months bro. My therapist isnt very empathetic and never makes an attempt to understand me.
She is very mindfull of time as well. The moment I cross that 45-Minute mark, she is like HEY YOU EXCEEDED THE TIME LIMIT WHAT RA. Sis calm tf down. How can someone be so stringently professional while listening to others? Can you tolerate +5mins? I get that youre doing it for money but bro seriously. I havent had the best experience with therapists.
But thanks for the advice, means a lot !
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