It sucks
He belittles me every damn step of the way. It's even hard to have a generic conversation now. If he sees me happy or right, he gets so critical or has to ruin the mood somehow.. He's neither moving forward (he's always busy in something but got time for random shits) nor breaking up! I'm tired.
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You should take charge and break up
You can try to have an honest conversation with him about how he makes you feel recently.
If he hasn't been like this always then either he has been playing a character so far which he isn't able to play anymore or he is going through something bad & unable to vent.
To determine if it's the latter case or not, you can try having an honest convo with him or can think if his behaviour has changed with others as well or not.
If it is the former case and if it doesn't work you anymore; then unfortunately the only option I see is that you can say that it's not working for you and break up.
you seem like a good guy, find another boyfriend
Narcissist behaviour. Leave him. Simple.
Maybe he likes belittling you and feels it’s okay to do that. Tell him it’s not on face with a hint of anger and seriousness. Tell him that him doing it is enough to break the relationship. Most likely he’s gonna understand and not do it, if he still does it, maybe he’s not serious much
Easy. Move on! You deserve better!
I sat down with him and discussed all of these pain points. He agreed, listened, and when time came to test it, he was again AWOL. So those words didn't mean anything. He didn't understand or take that seriously enough to address it in real time!
Even I asked him what are the areas that we both need to work on and be inclusive of any practice that makes us grow stronger together - he and i identified those but I see he's not keeping this in his mind or trying to adhere to those. I clearly mentioned I cannot keep doing this if this conversation doesn't shape into our deeds, and it didn't.
I cannot school him, I can bring my thoughts and make him hear, that I did. But i cannot do this for him. I don't know how he is neglecting all of those days and our conversations.
I'm writing it here because idk why. Just want to know what I am doing wrong?
Learn to communicate and develop an EQ. If you can say this out loud here, you could tell him that too.
Is this your boss or your SO?