There is one guy on my team who handles feedback so poorly that they engage in narcissistic tendencies. I've seen them bootlick the right people due to their closer proximity and utilize crony wordplay to show that they are harmless. When in fact they try to advance their own agenda to further their own gain. Every company on their resume is a checklist and the megalomania in them is palpable.
Unfortunately most people on the team are too naive and won't realize it until it's too late. Which means by the time he is done using everyone else, he will bounce and do it at their next company while completely f'ing over their current coworkers.
Anyone had a similar experience?
There's a narcissist hiding in all of us, justifying our worst behaviours 🤷♂️
@Fawkes That is oh so true tbh. But not more than who I am talking about. Unless you're that person at work.
Full blown Sociopaths and psychopaths do exist everywhere, just that they remain a minority (thankfully less than 5% of any population).
My experience tells me anyone can become one given the right (or wrong) circumstances though.
I doubt it's as intentional as one would think.
This is the major reason why sub groups within groups, dislikes, low transparency, secrets and back stabbers are formed. I would always recommend that you keep all your works, ideas, efforts spent on over email keeping higher ups in the team on loop. This ensures the credits are always given to the person who first proposed or thought of it. Keep as much as possible on records and avoid those toxic people who are fit for nothing.
How exactly did that person use others for gain?
@LightDestiny He will readily throw people under the bus if the idea he proposes fails stating technical challenges or execution difficulties. Whereas if it succeeds then it is all about the brilliance of ideas and the first principles thinking they've doen.
That's kind of brilliant ngl
Well most (or many) people do realise it. In fact even the company realises it. World is full of such people in every industry- film, medical, blue-collar, politics, law - we can go on..
We have to learn to work around them (or against them if you’re up for it) In case they are engaging in something illegal, immoral or unethical you should bring that forward. If not then just treat them as just another person and be indifferent.
@Donut This is the realest answer here. The problem is that these people tend to be class A assholes.
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