Why dating sucks these days? (also a Rant)
Hi I’m an above average looking and average height guy. I’ve been looking out for a serious relationship for years now and it really sucks. I mean career wise, I’m doing great. I’ve a stable career with a good car and my own house. Something that women consider for serious relationships turning into a marriage.
I’m also very religious, super good at heart, loyal, caring basically too good to be true. I’m so loyal that I stop looking at other women even at talking stage. Send flowers randomly etc etc.
Now the problem is, apparently if you don’t play mind and manipulation games, or basically be toxic, you won’t get a good partner.
Every woman out there says she’s looking for 90s love and nice guys who care for her etc etc. Then why are people like me single? Not only me i know many men who are good at heart being played by such women. Why are you lying girls?
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The reason they lie is because they do not know what they want and are super confused. They say that they want a loyal guy but when the time comes they will choose a toxic guy over a loyal guy and when the relationship with the toxic guy doesn't work they will return to the loyal guy for emotional support and other needs and then this cycle keeps repeating. In short Loyal Guy is their backup option.
As a woman, reading all of this gave just a narcissistic vibe. If you’re calling yourself “too good to be true” on an anonymous platform, what all do you hide in real life?
People who want to be in serious relationship are unlucky be it man or woman
Haha, have seen many people like you. I treat women like shit, have affairs with multiple women, although I'm honest about things that I don't want marriage but these educated, good looking, high earning girls will keep falling for me. Sometimes they get jealous/possessive and start acting out.
Bro very honest advice would be-
1- don't be too available
2- give them the thrill of chase
3- spend your time wisely, be very particular about how you like things and do only what you like, no need to go for that chick flick movie when you have gym
4- when they cry, no need to be supportive
5- always pay wherever you go
6- be assertive and a little arrogant
7- show risk taking- for eg if you go on a drive, drive above 160( or 140 at least if that's too much)
8- be a little sexist, treat them bad
9- flowers only for special occasions, in fact no flowers at all is great.
10- chocolates - never
11- even if you're available, never reply immediately
12- please get a little fit if you're not already. No need of 6 packs - just broad and in shape shoulders and below 18 percent body fat would do.
You'd be able to get any good looking girl in 3 weeks. Also there would be women calling this misogyny and what not- no one wants to marry them anyway!
Also never be too loyal and caring, even if you are internally like that- never show it.
You show them that you care and they'll start taking you for granted and walk all over you!
Reading these comments made me realise that there are some terrible people like you out there.
You don’t know it yet - but you need therapy and some actual love from a lover, parents, friends.
Rule #1: what women say and what women actually want are completely different.
25M The girls whom I don’t care about much are the ones that get attracted to me and want a serious relationship meanwhile ones with whom I really want a serious relationship run away or friendzone me because I think I become too nice or caring or start giving too much attention in the friendship stage. And it’s not like the girls I want to be serious with are out of my league they are often objectively speaking less attractive than the ones who show interest in me 🤷♂️. Kya malum kya chutiyapa hai ye ma chudane gaya jindagi jiyo jo hona hoga ho jaega. Any veteran bros here who went through something like this and wanna give some inputs here?
Bhai yahi ho raha mere saath.. but at least in case of the other girls I give them clear indication that I’m not interested. I don’t play games with them. Whereas humaare saath ulta ho jaata h and we’re left confused.
Mene ye “game” khelne vali harkat ki hai school college me usi ka fal mil raha hai shayad 😅
People wont like me saying this but try to find tier 2-3 girls who lives with thier parents, they might not be cool as independent tier 1 girls but trust me they are more mature when its about life, loyalty and relationships.
P:S Meet girls in arranged marriage kinda setting