Do you have colleagues like this ?

- Fun at work is necessary. - We all must laugh, crack all types of jokes, silly ones, nerdy, matured and some good ones too. - Taking joke on yourself is also a sense of humor. That said, cracking a silly joke with the intention of showing cool or smart is not funny. Some people are in continuous pursuit of getting browny points and they pretend to be funny & cool. They are under the illusion they are smart. Do you have anyone like this in your team?

Rather than experiencing this being done by someone else [especially your good friend(s)]

I earn a decent living ~32LPA as a Software Engineer. I really enjoy my work and it is always a joy working with smart people around you. I sometimes wonder if I didn't exist would it matter in the world. At work, I come up with great ideas and insights which my peers appreciate and support, but there hasn't been one thing that they took seriously and moved ahead with. My peers around me constantly belittle me, some unprofessional jokes about my competence and intellect, even though I am actually good at what I do and more. The backhanded compliments and sarcastic replies in front of other people in my company makes me sad beyond belief. It is almost like I give so much of time to this company and although everyone cares about the work I do but no one cares about me. My colleagues constantly try to one-up themselves by bullying juniors and laughing in their glass-walled conference walls. Incidents like these make me want to give up on work. I think the mix of giving all of myself at work(intensity and long hours), constant berating on my competence and the time I spend away from my family and "real" friends(not these fake work colleagues) makes me depressed as fuck. I am now understanding that you can never be happy in life because you can never have all that you want. You will give up something for the other. You think making more money will make you happier but you will just end up losing your sanity.

It's a very Indian mindset to treat or look down upon people who make a lot of money. We find some or the other reason to bring them down. We call them names. Though most of our life problems can be solved by money. Just like there is an American dream I think the Indian dream is to stay middle class and bitch about people who do the hard work. I understand that there are certain classes of people who are truly disadvantaged in terms of caste or patriarchy but for others it's just being lazy and reluctant to change. Bitching about people who are successful just gives them a sense of achievement without actually putting in the effort.

Have noticed over the course of time, one of the clearest marks that somebody might be an asshole: 1) In front of seniors: Extremely nice, subservient, "How are you doing", "How was your weekend hehehe", They'll aggressively try to match lunch times, so on and so forth 2) When only juniors are around (absence of a senior): Clearly moody, won't talk properly, might even be aggressive in their asks, miss greeting them when crossing paths, avoid them during lunches, generally low energy around juniors We all know them, but it's an interesting way to gauge the people around you I feel. Anyone else noticed this/some version of this?

Here’s my story in the field of software engineering: There’s this colleague of mine who is on a pure tech role but hardly codes. The person spends his entire time on LinkedIn sharing new age tech stuff and projects himself to the world as if he is the Messiah of architecture. The guy preaches the same gyan to members of my team. For the last one year, this guy, in the capacity of Software Architect has not pushed a single line of code into our application source code and this is on record. Yet, he is highly regarded as an expert in technology. The guy has killed the careers of some genuine software engineers with his unique approach to make it look like he is taking a lead to own stuff in tech space. The guy has had tremendous career growth, got promoted 3 times in the last 5 years. In my view, the guy is a tech junkie whose knowledge carries no value. Yet he managed to butter the leadership team to reach to position that he is currently in. Did you encounter any such people? If yes, comment your story.

Hey Viners, would like to know your prespective on the situation that if you face a bunch of incompetent colleagues who dont take their work seriously and the manager constantly asks you to maintain quality because of your seniority and you end up cleaning their work, how do you handle it ?

There is one guy on my team who handles feedback so poorly that they engage in narcissistic tendencies. I've seen them bootlick the right people due to their closer proximity and utilize crony wordplay to show that they are harmless. When in fact they try to advance their own agenda to further their own gain. Every company on their resume is a checklist and the megalomania in them is palpable. Unfortunately most people on the team are too naive and won't realize it until it's too late. Which means by the time he is done using everyone else, he will bounce and do it at their next company while completely f'ing over their current coworkers. Anyone had a similar experience?

Has anyone come across this situation and how would you have tackled them to have a peace of mind. A guy is frustrated with some colleagues who resist better suggestions, acting like we're challenging their way of doing things. They waste days on tasks that could be solved quickly with a little help. When asked, they respond defensively, questioning our capabilities and dismissing ideas as unnecessary. It's irritating how some take everything personally and seem to think they're superior. Instead of being open to collaboration, they insist on overcomplicating things. Sure, they have four years of experience, but that doesn't mean they know everything. We should be able to ask for help without being judged. It's important to stay humble and learn from those who have very good hands on/grip on certain tech or taught processes. These are good engineers as well but they have the above issues