What do women look for in a guy before they date one?
Include examples, anecdotes, etc.
Usually it's
1) Enough salary so he feels like an equal. There's nothing more dangerous than dating an insecure man.
2) Peaceful vibe. No bullshit talk. A person shouldn't radiate negativity.
3) I've lived in lots of different places in both north and south india. I'd like a person with similar exposure, it makes me respect them. I don't like people who say "dosa" with a wrong "D"
4) Respects boundaries, respects my independence.
5) should want to live a minimalist/simple life. Not a huge a shopper basically.
6) In-Laws shouldn't be problematic people.
If it's on a dating app first thing i'd look for is consistent texting and common sense. Not someone overly flirtatious right off the bat. It feels a bit off to me.
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SaveBugs
Stealth
a year ago
Paisa!
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Oā _ā o kitna bhi try krlo, uske paas humesha abba nahi maanege wala nuclear hatiyar hota hai
My "best friend" (12lpa dev) just got dumped by "sanskari punjaban girl" (5lpa sales) after their 1+ year thing, just because apparently her dad found a Canada PR rich sardarji š¤®
He moved cities to blr because this girl had in office job in blr, "wasting his WFH" At the end Bro's so hurt he's preparing for foreign MBA to fetch a "high end modern partner" š¤£
majboormajdoor
Stealth
a year ago
When rejection happens due to financial status, people take it seriously.
Yeah it kinda shakes the self worth of guy, all this while the girl herself independently is worth lesser.
Does we even have anything else to suggest for him to better cope with, classic yaar dost response is "Bhai wo bhi gold digging r* thi"
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Yamprofessional
Stealth
a year ago
Vibe match, easy going, and respectful
Yamprofessional
Stealth
a year ago
Similar interests I guess? Not sure how to describe vibe. If you can talk to the person about anything and everything I guess thatās vibe match. Conversations shouldnāt feel forced
FindingHorses
Stealth
a year ago
I looked for similar interests they were top for me and good nature.
SabChangaSi
Stealth
a year ago
Are you with someone now
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Asides from physique standards that they might look for, they look for someone that can just listen instead of coming up with solutions when they rant. They want someone that can understand emotions and be empathetic.
spacecowboy
Stealth
a year ago
I have a hard time doing this. If a girl comes to me telling me about how she can't find a job and is worried as she's on her notice period etc. I say, "Yes that happens. Apply more and meanwhile keep prepping, eventually you'll land something apart from that not much in our control". To me, this looks like a perfectly normal response. What should be done here if I follow the advice of this comment?
Real talk- they will look for a provider initially who's willing to listen to them. I think that's about it. Some might be superficial about looks if it's an arranged marriage setup, in a love marriage that too is glossed over.
That said, be prepared to be judged against an Excel sheet in an arrange marriage setup to see how many tick boxes you meet. Typical ones include salary, working abroad, not living with parents, understanding, not controlling, etc etc
@SandyDrake96 The listening is commonly coming across the thread. Is it that underrated? What's the fine line between listening and simping?
Qwerty2398
Stealth
a year ago
listening is simply hearing them talk without offering any comments. Simping is agreeing to whatever nonsense they say.
Qwerty2398
Stealth
a year ago
women would want a man of Higher social status compared with their social circle.
Qwerty2398
Stealth
a year ago
usually higher social status comes with financial security. But i mean, not just money. Just being rich will not cut it. for eg - having a green card or living abroad has better chances than earning 20 or 25L in India so on... What's higher? that's decided by their social circle.
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I think this differs woman to woman. What do you look for in a woman before you date one? It depends on that.
This works both ways. In your question you have mentioned what do women look for in a guy before they ādateā one. Did you mean āmeetā one?
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@CodingSherlock what does that even mean? Can you give an example?
If she is 5/10 she will want to date 6-7/10 of guy in looks same for status
@Silverfox unable to see replies properly so putting it here. Listening is hearing them out, simping is doing everything they say. Usually it's better to give in for little things but hold your ground on big things - where to settle, kids, both spouses to work/not work and household savings and spends. On a daily basis, arguing over say where to go for dinner is not worth it, just listen to them and move on
Respect,love,time,Support,Security (Financial/Emotional),Good sense of humour.
