I blame parents for this. Not that coaching centres are saints, they suck the life out of students by making them study 24/7 but the reason that child is in coaching centre is because parents put him/her there.
And every suicide letter I have read from students mentions that they couldn't fulfil parents expectations.
They are the reason their child is in that condition, just because they want to brag and seek validation from so called society that their child is a prodigy (and want to establish that they are the creator of this prodigy) who went to medical/IIT. And if the child doesn't act acc. to their expectations, they start gaslighting them "We gave you birth" "Maa baap bhagwan ka roop hote hai how dare you blame us Or don't listen to us" I once watched a movie (don't remember the name) where actress says "As parent we determine if our child needs tuition classes but at same time we fail to know if he/she needs therapy"
Who do you think is to be blamed?
Also parents on GV don't push your child if he doesn't want to fly, thinking he has wings, he may fall to death.
The root cause of all this is overpopulation and a shortage of jobs. Coaching centers and tough parenting only exist as a consequence of this
True. Bigger the population bigger the garbage. 1% in 1 lakh is 1k and 1% in 140 crore is 1.4 crore
But that doesn't mean we can't change now. Population was something happened in past. We Indians love to talk about "what ifs". Currently, parents are the ones making it challenging to live.
Nope. The root cause of all this is stupid parents and the Indian social upbringing which has no idea about mental health.
Overpopulation hai toh sabke bacche suicide kar rhe kya? Humne toh nahi kiya suicide.
Interesting viewpoint!
At the same time, just wanna check - How many of us were clear what they wanted to do in their life after 10th?
On the other side -
I did one poll few months ago, which gave an interesting insight that majority people here are without generational wealth privilege.
So overall, want to understand how many people were able to make (decent) in life if parents might not have PUSHED.
I knew what I wanted to do. If I was in some other country I would have become that and not an engineer
I wasn't clear about what I had to do after my 10th grade. The reason being, I never had the liberty to think about it. Since childhood, I was always told, or my parents made it known to everyone, 'mera beta to engineer banega.' So, as time passed, I also began thinking that I wanted to be an engineer. Initially, I thought it was something I wanted, but later, I realized it was something that had been ingrained in my mind.
@Barney_Stinson003 Bro I agree with you 3000! (Tony Stark reference)
Indian and Asian parenting is the worst. They have no sense of mental health, no sense of individual life, individual freedom. No one goes to Kotas or other factories to learn to become an engineer, they just go there to get into IIT. In a supposed entrance test that has no connection to engineering syllabus which is attempted by crore aspirants is the fault of Indian system itself. And parents have the active choice of not getting their kid into this unnecessary rat race.
I recently watched 12th Fail. It has a scene where the mentor tells Vikrant Mhassey that it's only his struggle, it is his entire community's struggle. Though the scene was indeed emotional and well placed, it is the exact antithesis of putting over expectations onto the aspirants.
It is the failure of the Indian system where someone from a poorer economic class or oppressed caste has to dive into the deep end of competitive rat race against millions of fellow such similar people to break that cycle of poverty. A system which has kept handful of glory seats towards success. It is just an arms race towards higher sacrifices, higher grit & higher desperation wasting many prime years of the youth of this country.
No parent wants their kids to take such drastic steps. Problem is peer pressure on kids to go away from home for coaching and lack of communication when they leave their parents. Its ok to push your kids, but send them away from home only when you are sure they are mature enough to handle real world pressure. Not everyone is ready to face the world at 17 years, some mature early, some late. Parents need to control their kids' access to outside world and let them out gradually.
Nah bro. Like I told you parents are the last ones to realise that their child was in depression. Read any of the suicide articles , all these parents say same thing "He was always fine, I don't why would he do that" They send the child there to study for some exam worth more than their child's sanity.
I have a classmate friend who was in kota, after admission in college he barely talked to his parents. He hates them. He isn't wrong, he used to call them everyday and said that he doesn't feel like studying and becoming anxious. So they used to scold him, they once visited him and gave him lecture for whole day and even said his life is worthless and all. His depression grew and grew. Guy had only one goal in his life, to get away from them. He didn't visit his home for diwali too 🥲
Anyone on GV pressuring their kids please read this and then decide, suicide is another thing, beta jinda rehke agar apse baat na kare to samjho you failed as parents.
That looks exactly the case I am pointing to. Away from parents, lack of communication, not ready to face the real world. No kid will understand whether they are mature enough to take on external world, parents need to let loose slowly. You cannot till one day buy their stationary for them and expect them to go handle stress of real world the next day. Gradual exposure is the key. Not letting kids face world is as problematic as pushing them, will just have negative consequences later (in 20s and 30s)
This will be solved by having reservation for rich kids in premier institutions.
😅already happening bro. In my college a lot of people are from South Bombay and rich areas. Poor people are thrashed here, they just leave because of depression or suck it up to get average job in consulting. These rich kids play so danger game with them , blame game, they say that they come from stinky areas and because of them they have to pay whole fees, one couple said to a poor fellow (that guy was with other 6 guys from his town) ki hamare purvajo ne tum par racism kiya that's why tum yaha pr ho varna tumhari koi aukat nahi thi yaha aane ki 🥲 how can someone say something like this to a person? 5 of them went to their hometown and came back after a year.
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According to u, what are the mistakes u feel your previous generation folks did, which you will be careful and avoid at any cost. Thoughts r welcome.
