Fairy Tale Expectations -
Movies and novels set unrealistic expectations for marriage. People expect a perfect life and avoid dealing with real problems together. Thanks to internet - Real life communications made it more complicated
Individualism - Selfishness:
Building a strong marriage takes lot of compromises and time together. Many people love to spend their time with ofc colleagues, but refuse spend with family. Two jobs in single family, built a confidence that money can save you from all problems
Too Many Choices:
Thanks to internet and dating apps which made it easy to meet new people. This literally gives confidence to leave relationships without fear of being alone for lifelong.
Bad Habits:
Alcohol, weed, and drugs are normalized, but they destroy a person’s inner self. When you lose yourself to these habits, it’s hard to be a good partner because it gives you confidence to do every shit
Late Marriages:
Marrying at older age often means having rigid mindsets. It’s harder to adapt and change, which can hurt the relationship.
Men want stability from marriage. Women want excitement and drama in life. One can’t coexist with the other. Men usually get their share of excitement and drama from sports + politics. Women tend to get it from people around them. Now that divorces are easy, it is no surprise that they are happening so often. Modern marriages are failing cos it was hard to separate from a failed marriage earlier.
Modern marriages are like smartphones, everyone wants the latest model but they forget that it's the strong signal and reliable connection that really matter. Maybe we need fewer upgrades and more updates to the love software.
Social media has created a bubble of how the perfect happy marriages look like. But, when reality sets in, people are not able to adjust and compromise on anything which is a major reason of marriages failing! It’s definitely not a fairy tale rather accepting each other flaws, work on growing, understanding each other’s perspective and sacrificing to certain extent!
That’s what I mean, people don’t want to compromise & seeks happy endings in married life..!!
The marriage life is all about contributing to the civilization with lot of compromises, & fostering comprehensive companionship
Aptly put. Can attest to this since I am suffering from one. We are now too much outward focused then inward.
The FOMO era we are in and showing off is such a fade. Also, the recent equating of sadness with depression or overusing mental health too often has lead to frequent victimisation and giving up on relationship is an easy option nowadays.
Embracing imperfections and working together towards mutual growth can lead to more fulfilling and resilient partnerships.
It's not always a bad idea to divorce when not happy. The saddest part is live with someone all life always compromising over happiness. It's better to get divorced if two people are incompatible, unhappy then just surviving under societal pressure of what people think like older generations. And then making their kids life a hell. If there is no love between partners, where will kids learn love. I'm very happy that genz prioritizes their happiness over anything and anyone and at the end of the day that is what matters - happiness.
People are driven by a notion of how perfect marriage should be. Social media, your circle etc are the catalyst of it. The day your notion is challenged, you feel it’s not working and you choose to separate. Its not only about celebrating or showing off in a relationship its also about finding perfection in each other’s imperfection.
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“You should get married on time”
To the married folks, would it be different if you would have married later in life? From a personal or objective POV, what’s your take
32+ M here and not yet married.
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The vision of working from scratch to build wealth has made so many families be in middle class Dowry also pushed families from wealthy to working class Raising kids as frustrated, tired individuals - Such a shitty arrangement imo
