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I joined a gym to gain weight. I took measurements initially and also today. 1.5 kg weight gain and lost a little tummy fat other than that no noticeable other changes. I discussed my diet with one of the gym trainers, He says it is good. But now all my motivation is gone.

It's been 4 months now, going regularly almost 5-6 days a week. Training single muscle everyday from past 2 weeks along with deadlift every alternate days. Bench press (flat, incline, dec)- 40kgs (8-10reps) Dumbell bench press - 15kg each (12-15 reps) Deadlift - 50kg (8-10 reps) Leg press - 70kg (12-15reps) Chest press - 40kg (6-10reps) So overall there's a slight increase in weights that I have been using which is nice. But the body weight isn't reducing much. I want to reach the 70kg which would be my ideal weight and I could still see a lot of fat that needs to be burned. But overall it's greattt. I am a bit irregular to cardio in gym but I walk almost an hour every day. Comment down your progress below and any tips for reducing weight that have worked for you.

I need to know if people here received comments like- you look weak, thin and dry. No glow on face. You were better before this. This is after I adopted a healthy lifestyle since April 2023. My calorie intake is just notch higher than my maintenance calorie count. Sugar intake is extremely low. High water intake and no stress. What could be the reason?

I feel I've wasted years of my life in being inconsistent in whatever I take up. I've been working out for approx. 4 years of my life but have been super inconsistent in going to the gym, and sticking to my diet. I'm in the physique that I was around 4 years ago. All the inconsistent effort I had put in these 4 years has gave me nothing. I've wasted thousands on supplements, personal trainers, gym subscriptions and in the end, I'm back to square one. The same goes to my hobbies. Been trying to learn an instrument and have been inconsistent with my classes. In the end, I've wasted my money on time on the classes. Have also bought 2 instruments and both the instruments are just gathering dust. Enrolled myself to a foreign language class and I failed to complete the classes- it's because of my pathetic time management skills & the inability to be inconsistent in practicing and working on the assignments, Upskilling- LOL! I have no idea how many thousands I have spend on courses and I'm sure I haven't completed ONE- at least ONE course. Reason- pathetic time management skills & inability to focus on course. I am extremely impatient, I get distracted easily and I fail to complete the given tasks. I'm married, I'm a 30 years old obese guy and I'm earning just 15 LPA. Not that I'm dumb coz I believe I have some intelligence in me but I feel I'm doomed for life if I continue to be like this. I realised that the key to overcoming these issues is being consistent in whatever I pick up. But i fail to be inconsistent in whatever i pick up. I've also realised that I have pathetic will power. I lack will power to an extent that if given a change to fight for my life or just die, I would prefer just dying as it would take less effort compared to fighting back to live. How can I work on my will power and save my ass from getting fucked by life? I am already suffering due to my actions and lack of actions & I feel it's high time for me to stop continuing to be the way I am.

Picture: After 4 months of DUP, my progress. Alright, so I used DUP—Daily Undulating Periodization. DUP is all about varying the intensity and volume of your workouts throughout the week, not only to avoid plateaus but also to boost muscle growth and strength. I tweaked my strength training days so I was hitting different rep ranges and intensities. Let's break it down. Weekly Schedule with DUP: Monday: Upper Body Strength Training (Heavy) - Warm-Up: 10 minutes (dynamic stretching, light cardio) - Bench Press: 4 sets of 4-6 reps (Heavy Weight) - Bent Over Rows: 4 sets of 4-6 reps (Heavy Weight) - Shoulder Press: 3 sets of 6-8 reps - Pull-Ups/Assisted Pull-Ups: 3 sets of 4-6 reps (Weighted if possible) - Dumbbell Bicep Curls: 3 sets of 8-10 reps - Tricep Dips: 3 sets of 8-10 reps (Weighted if possible) - Cool-Down: 10 minutes (static stretching) Tuesday: Cardio/HIIT - No change here. The plan is solid for burning fat and improving endurance. Wednesday: Lower Body Strength Training (Moderate) - Warm-Up: 10 minutes (dynamic stretching, light cardio) - Squats: 4 sets of 8-10 reps (Moderate Weight) - Deadlifts: 4 sets of 8-10 reps (Moderate Weight) - Lunges: 3 sets of 12-15 reps per leg - Leg Press: 3 sets of 12-15 reps - Hamstring Curls: 3 sets of 8-10 reps - Calf Raises: 3 sets of 12-15 reps - Cool-Down: 10 minutes (static stretching) Thursday: Active Recovery (Yoga/Stretching) - 30 minutes focusing on flexibility and relaxation. Crucial for recovery and mobility. Friday: Full Body Strength Training (Light) - Warm-Up: 10 minutes (dynamic stretching, light cardio) - Clean and Press: 4 sets of 8-10 reps (Light Weight) - Deadlifts: 3 sets of 12-15 reps (Light Weight) - Pull-Ups: 3 sets of 8-10 reps (Assisted if needed) - Squats: 3 sets of 12-15 reps (Light Weight) - Push-Ups: 3 sets to failure - Plank: 3 sets of 60 seconds - Cool-Down: 10 minutes (static stretching) Saturday: Cardio/HIIT - Same as Tuesday. Keep the heart rate up and metabolism fired. Sunday: Rest/Active Recovery (Light Walk) - Perfect for shaking off any residual fatigue and resetting for the upcoming week. Nutrition Plan: - No changes here. Balanced, nutrient-rich diet. Tracking Progress and Tips for Success: - Follow the same method for tracking progress and stay consistent with your workouts and nutrition. - Rest and recover. The varied intensity will be demanding, so take recovery seriously. - Form and technique are non-negotiable. Stick to proper forms to prevent injuries. - Keep the right mindset. Stay positive and trust the process. This variation with DUP will keep your body guessing and change your physique.