Need advice/suggestion
29 M, IT professional in Bangalore earning around 65k/month. My parents are looking for girl(non-working) for my marriage later this year.(already knows girls family). But I am worried about all the expenses post-marriage as Bangalore is already a costly city and I will only be sole-earner. Need your honest advices here on how to manage expenses or look for a working partner.
FindingHorses
Stealth
6 months ago
Don't marry a non working girl.in this day and age. Its not possible to be the only working person. Its always better to be a dual income couple
FindingHorses
Stealth
6 months ago
Please for Godsake take your stupid advice to yourself
Being a women myself don't need your judgement
StanleyHudson
Stealth
6 months ago
@FindingHorses I am glad to see ambitious and practical women like you in comment section. Kudos !
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Search for a working partner. But make it clear to parents and to yourself that she won’t (mostly) be giving time for household chores etc. There is already a lot of stress from office, travel, health and what not. Person needs time for herself as well.
What a sick mind. You cannot afford to feed another person who has left her home her relatives her friends and everything.just to be with you as a life partner. If you can't then don't marry. Open a partnership firm. You are marrying a girl for your own happiness. Don't be so selfish. Greediness has made society living hell. There are lakhs of girls sitting at home just thinking about how their parents will arrange for marriage expenses and dowry.
Bro, be a man and accept her. Work will be there and in seconds it's gone. Look for happiness not for World worldlygone.
Qwerty2398
Stealth
6 months ago
its not a sick mind, the guy is just afraid on the unknown. Women tend to be emotional and competitive. They usually tend to demand what their friends/ neighbor has. If the neighbor goes n a foreign trip, she will ask for it too. someone she knows buys a car, she will dream for it too. Its human nature.
If you get a woman who is grounded to reality, its a gods gift.
BTW- controversial statement - you say there are 1000's of women worry about how their parents will manager her marriage, yes, that mostly poor people. educated woman have their threshold very clear. Thats why you find a lot of single woman in their 30's still waiting for their "prince charming". they would rather hit the wall than marry some one "beneath their status". They will mask this nonsense by saying " we need to find the right person".
Empty mind is devil's workshop. It will simply lead to complications at home.Also with increase in diversity hiring, I think it's easy for her to get a job.
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Bro switch asap and get hike than again switch in few months get another hike than think of marriage
LokiPen
Stealth
6 months ago
If working is a non-negotiable quality for a partner you want then you can look for a working partner.
Otherwise if other qualities which you want from a life partner are matching with the girl the parents have found for you, then do engagement and convey to your parents, the girl and the girl's family that you will need more time for marriage as you want to give her a better quality of life than what you can provide right now.
And in the meantime search for a better paying job and switch.
Wishing you the best.
Look for working partner and try switching too otherwise u will be putting financial burden on urself which ultimately affects ur health too.
StanleyHudson
Stealth
6 months ago
Look for another partner who understands you .
(Although being a man who should never expect anyone to understand you, people always misjudge, but do give it a shot)
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