Men should stop defending men

The initial autopsy indicated that the victim was murdered after being sexually assaulted. Why people think that they can get away with such heinous crime? Perhaps it’s because of the lack of stricter punishment for such crimes or slow justice system I mean how morally corrupt one has to be to commit such crime? Sometimes I feel we have failed as society especially when we Indians take pride in our culture of respect and dignity towards others. Also, I think man of this country needs better parenting and maybe forced to undertake a specialised course on how to treat opposite gender. Men of this country and maybe worldwide need better education on how to treat a woman and I say this as a man myself. The below image hits hard.

A father wouldn't have done this. Attention, Fame & respect are becoming more important to women nowadays than their family. Though this is an extreme case, gone are the hearts of our mothers. No comparison.

This is a rant post. Here is what is expected from a guy in India - Study well, go to a great college. - Get a high paying job. - Marry at the right time or else all your achievements are a waste. - Buy depreciating assets like car, houses etc - Have kids at the right time. - Give your kids the right upbringing. - Take care of your parents. - Be part of the society Whereas, for girls all of the above do apply but are good to have things and not a must have. If anything is missed from the above list, unfortunately society thinks you have not done the bare minimum. Now my question is who has all of this sorted considering at whatever point of life they are in.

My heart is filled with nothing but disgust if these allegations are genuine. I hope this reaches its natural conclusion and justice prevails.

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I'm fairly new to this platform, but in last week I have seen posts appreciating men and celebrating women The posts have comments from men demeaning their own. I don't understand why. Who taught us to be like that? I am a man, I have vulnerable self doubt thoughts, but I would never put down another human (any gender) Is it something common on this platform?

From the outside, my life right now looks great. I graduated with a great GPA from one of the best universities in DU, completed my banking stint in a top tier group and am now happily working as a Management Consultant in Monitor Deloitte. I'm in a relationship with a girl I'm crazy about, I have good friends, I'm attractive, fit and have the world ahead of me. That's what the outside sees. In reality, I'm a messed up kid feeling my way around in the dark through a world that I feel wholly unprepared for. I grew up poor. At times, I was very, very hungry. The first few months my family was able to crawl out of poverty, I continued to overeat because I still vividly remembered the hunger pains that often kept me awake at night. I lost one of my siblings and I always blamed myself for what happened. I was sexually abused by a relative. I witnessed things in my city that still send chills down my spine. And then there were my parents. Sure, my mom loved me and wanted me to be happy, but unfortunately she had no idea what it meant to be a good parent. My dad was an abusive piece of shit that saw me as his competition, not as his son. We still don't speak very often. On an especially bad day, he had once again taken his rage out on my mom, but to rub in the humiliation he had her wipe her own blood off the walls while he stood and watched. I tried to intervene, but I wasn't much of a match. I, too, was a bit of a piece of shit. I was aggressive and found myself in fights very often. Though I was smart, I was lazy and didn't do all too well in high school, where homework and not exams governed your academic performance. Needless to say, at 16 I looked like I was destined for a mediocre life at best, but probably likely to end up as another case of wasted potential. I don't know what changed, but one day I started turning things around and ever since I have kept the momentum going. I had the highest grades in my class in 11th and 12th. I soon got into a college that I did not deserve and met the love of my life there. And from there I busted my ass to get to where I am today. I earned my own money and paved my own way. I didn't use my past as an excuse to fail. If I didn't make it, I knew it was nobody's fault but my own. I also knew that nobody would care. If one day I broke down because of all the stress, the world would keep on turning as it always had. Nobody cares about the struggles I went through. They care about who I am today and who I'm going to be. And, I guess, that's my message: take responsibility for who you are, where you are now and where you will be. I don't care that it's a tough economy. I don't care that you go to a shitty college. I don't care that an unlucky string of events rendered you less competitive than your peers. And nobody else does either. We will continue living our lives the same way we always had, but you will suffer the curse of your own laziness and incompetence. It's a tough world out there and if you want to compete in an environment as ruthless as India, you need to forget about the excuses and find a way to succeed. And if you can't? Well, you weren't cut out for this world anyway. Nobody is going to pamper your bruised ego and give you a job just because you want it. You need to earn it.

So aaj subah, I stepped down at Nizamuddin Station and I was walking towards the Gate number 2 exit. Usi time, ek aadmi bumped into me and that bump felt very strategically planned and groped my chest. I screamed at him and then went off. Next, I was on the escalator and again he came behind me and started catcalling me ( dash is so big and stuff like that). He even started pushing my purse around to feel me. Tab hi, I confronted him again and he got defensive. I started screaming at him and called the RPF, he then ran away. I tried catching him, he fell but then ran away and I couldn't stop as I had multiple bags with me. I feel very scared, awful and weird. I've never encountered such type of a situation. And the man had the audacity to grope someone twice and he was a middle aged dude.

I grew up with 5 sisters (1 real and 4 cousin), I am aware about the pain and the tribulation that women go through and have always been supporting women in general. I was shocked to see the opposite when I stepped into the real world. Most women whom I have met have only disposed me after using my resources. Be it a friend or even a prospective gf. Even my lady therapist offered the same solution indirectly by saying that things work differently for men. I have always responded to their rants and have comforted them. But when it was my chance to vent out, they were like YOU ARE A MAN YOU SHOULDNT BE BOTHERED BY MENTAL ISSUES, FOCUS ON YOUR WORK. I feel bottled up and sometimes end up breaking down. These are the people I have been knowing for ages. The other day I randomly started slapping myself for no reason in the washroom. I dont feel like I am being heard. I dont want such a life where I am being left alone for feeling the same things a woman would feel. I feel that the only thing I am good for is making money. Afterall, thats what men are supposed to be. This is a punishment for breaking my mould and I accept that. I have been very empathetic so far. NEVER AGAIN. I love myself and only myfuckingself nowww. There is this book called "Men are from jupiter Women are from venus" which clearly states that when women are in misery, make them feel heard. And when men are in misery, leave them alone. QUEEN , RATHER PLS K!LL US ALREADY. Why are kind men being subjected to the punishment which bad men (rapist, dowryfreaks, cheaters) deserve? Why do I see bad men getting so much attention and respect? Why are we still adulating Ranbir Kapoor's charachter for cheating on Rashmika just coz Tripti was attractive? Being emotional is such a curse for men ! Dear men, Please focus on your LPA and provide for your parents, future wife ,and kids, and when youre old enough, JUST ROT AND D!E. The moment you dont, you will be treated like hell.