1. A good storyteller 
 2. Kind 
 3. Motivator 
 4. Writer 
 5. 100% self dependent 
 6. Speaking without any inhibition (so brutally honest to myself and everyone around)

Kind like your cat? 
  
 Long time, no see!

Growth Manager

Hey! Yeah long time no see. I would say my cat is kinder than me, even kinder than most people I have come across in life.

Senior Data Scientist

Hopeless romantic (curse) 
 Memer 
 Ambitious 
 Writer 
 Music composer

Chartered Accountant

Data engineer

Overthinker - ✅  
 Memer - long time, no see 
 Traveller - ✅

Consultant

Art , movies , books , road trips , ginger tea

I don't even know who I am without all this

Product Manager

1. Good communicator  
 2. Reading books, investing time & effort to improve myself  
 3. Self awareness  
 4. Being honest & vulnerable

Software Engineer

Romantic lover by heart, kind human, technology enthusiast

Analytics Manager

1) Content with myself 
 2) self aware  
 3) a person with no regrets 
 4) a child who has no inhibitions

Staff Engineer

Machine Learning Engineer

This is a reminder to yourself.  I'll start: 1. Maybe a good painter/reading books/comics 2. A good athletic/fitness freak 3. An alpha character/quick finisher/a role model  4. I'd help more/photog...

This is a reminder to yourself.

I'll start:
1. Maybe a good painter/reading books/comics
2. A good athletic/fitness freak
3. An alpha character/quick finisher/a role model 
4. I'd help more/photographer/method actor/racing 

Help yourself in answering them amidst this busy schedule :)

P.S: I saved this picture long back but barely answered myself. Today I took 30+ minutes alone.

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Something that you reserve for yourself or very close people/special occasions

I used to sing for my gfs, but now only for myself

What's a skill or talent you don't share with the world?

Generalist

Millennial and Gen Z face mood swings due to multiple reasons. 

Generally I do below stuffs...

1. Listen to music or watch fav movies 🍿
2. Read a book 📖
3. Swimming or Gym or a sprint run. 
4. Biking at 20kmph and 80kmph also, both have separate zones.
5. Talk to parents or close friends.
6. Sleep
7. Sunsets or birdwatching

Attaching a snap of sunset from my today's bike trip, covered 130km in 2h. It feels so rejuvenating.

Watching reels/shorts is the last option.

What's your method for refreshment?

What do you do to stabilize amidst mood swing!

Posting hypothetical, unrelated questions on Grapevine 🤭

Senior Consultant

So went to tier 1/1.5 , EE branch , during placement I never really found interest in DSA. Thought I’ll do a simple job but now when I see my peers getting into big product companies , with great pay I feel so sad. I feel like I should have prepared better. And then after coming to Bangalore it feels even more sad because whenever I go on dates the other guy is always an IIT guy earning more than me 😅. Even among my friends I kinda envy them that they have chill wlb plus better pay . 
Is this how life is?

How to not get jealous of your friends success

Your situation isn't too dire. You can always prepare now, upskill and switch to better openings. With more experience, your compensations will standardise with the median. 
  
 But you should also address the underlying feelings behind this jealousy. There are always going to be a ton of folks ahead of you so this feeling probably won't go away unless you make it.

Software Developer

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

Was thinking about our lives. Ever since you are in school, you have something to look forward to. When you’re in 1st grade, you know next year it’s 2nd grade and so on till you finish your undergrad.

Suddenly, you could be everything or nothing at the same time.

Those who are good at this game of eternal growth end up grinding their lives away in the PCM -> Engg -> B-School -> Consulting hell loop.

Weirdly, the determinism in growth fades away suddenly and you see people finally pursuing diverse fields.

Then, the realisation kicks in. You’ve been conditioned to chase eternal growth. That is what brings meaning to you in every part of your life. Today has to be better than your yesterday, or else it feels like you’ve failed.

I wonder how sustainable that is but till then we will continue to throw our youth away. 

My 2 cents: You have a brief moment in history. Don’t spend your 10 years of prime in doing things that don’t bring you any joy. Don’t make the same mistakes all of us make chasing joys because others are chasing them.

Find your own meaning to this eternal growth.

Is life a race for eternal growth?

what would you tell in response to "tell me about yourself" without mentioning anything about your job/work ?

Senior Software Engineer

Never Have I Ever...

Intern

Mostly a rant but I guess also a cry for help that I have been subduing for a long time now.
I have never felt alone at times in my life as well as lost, but they have always been at 2 different times. Never together. Always it has been a purpose or the company I am in (not work, social circle) that kept driving me forward. At times both.
But now, its neither.
Ever since I was a kid, I had dreamt up a picture of my bachelor life.
A great social circle of close friends. A place to live in most comfortable way possible. Finances so stable that I don't have to think twice before getting something I wanted and felt needed. Working or doing something that kept me excited for it.
And here I am today, sitting and wondering, I have achieved just the 2nd part of it. Everything else is still a dream.
I lost the close knit friend circle and I think its a huge list of misunderstandings and small mistakes that caused it and I can't see a way back. Financially, I have no savings and I have spent money like there is no tomorrow for past 5 years. I have a job that doesn't drive me at all, while just 2 years back I was excited to face the new challenge I am gonna get the next day.
I have no idea what to do and where to go. 
I feel in my gut that this is going to be a similar phase in my life that I have faced before. This may go on for the next 1 to 2 years and then I would emerge out of it and value what I have more than ever.
But still this phase eats at the inside of me at times and I just feel empty.

Thanks for reading till the end.

Feeling lost and alone

Product analyst

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Women of grapevine, if you had to share one advice with your younger self what would it be?

Human Resources

Hello everyone!

We all are very busy with our daily corporate work. But everyone has something, something that interests them. Like for me it's writing.

Let's share with each other.

PS: ik this isn't that kind of platform, but still let's :)

Side interest/ Hobby

This app has been my go to place lately. I can interact with fellow viners of my age or in the same age group so casually and in a candid way without hesitation. Put forth my thoughts and discuss anything literally. Irl it would have been difficult for me to become that expressive. 

Also I have realized this lately that our generation is more mature, kind and understanding as I came across the posts and the comments on them made by fellow viners. People here are awesome and feels real good to be here.

We often hesitate to speak openly in public gatherings or anywhere we don't find known faces. So, just wanted to know what holds you back from being your true self or putting yourself out there so candidly irl as you are on grapevine.

What holds you back?

One can never really be fully honest with everyone all the time. It can be used against you.  
  
 The trick is to know what to share with whom and when.

Let me start by listing mine
1. Get into shape 💪 - I’ve set a target weight for myself, and a target muscle mass and body fat percentage 
2. One book a month 📕 - This is something I’ve tried over and over but never seemed to achieve.
3. Delve deeper into devops 🔄
4. Complete a few side projects I’ve had in my backlog for months
5. Quit smoking 🚭

What are yours?

Grapeviners, what are your goals for 2024?

I have only one goal for 2024. 
  
 No. More. Procrastination.  
  
 It has ruined my life enough already. 🙄

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

3 years back I used to sleep like a dead body 🙂 but now it's been around 3 years I sleep late and even when sleep I m around 40% aware what's happening around me and when have little sleep I have many vivid dreams like blood shed people crying and I m just trying to help them ...and just normal thoughts in head keep striking like fan is moving, I drove bike fast it was nice turn .. just random and simple thoughts.
About lifestyle 
I don't exercise at all already left gym sometimes back.
Sleeps late.
Wake up late because If I sleep at 2 or 3 then waking up at 9 will still feel dizzy, so wake up at 11 and start my day.
And having few bad habits too.
😂 Yeah I can see what I need to work on but my brain is tricking me asking for assurance that it will be better if i work on above issues.
Don't know how to start how to plan how long it will take. 😂😂😂

Why can't I sleep like I used to sleep before?

I’m sure all of us are above average at at least one thing. It could range from making a mean Maggi to playing an instrument to making new friends to flirting to anything else. What’s yours? 

I like researching in depth about financial products and have a good working knowledge of common topics such as tax, mutual funds, insurance. 😊

What’s your superpower?

I allegedly have a photographic memory that amazes and creeps my peers simultaneously.  
  
 Downside? 
 Can't sleep most of time as I have HD recordings of all my regrets and rejects. Ignorance is a bliss.

Will entertain only serious questions that respect anonymity. I don’t mind humor, but trolling is strict no no.

Conducted one AMA session last week & was overwhelmed by both number & positive feedback. I might choose to skip any question repeated from last time.

Some things about me
- I love to code & go beyond coding
- Managed a team of around 20 people before
- I love mentoring people
- Presently overseeing the architecture and lifecycle of a suite of products

Don’t mind me giving you some useful gyan 😀

Presently Senior Architect, previously Engineering Manager, 18+ yoe in software engg. AMA

Software Architect

Welcome to Consulting's Private Community

I have read a few articles about it and got mixed responses from the internet. Some are saying generalists have the upper hand in this rapidly changing environment & for some specialists will be the top earners.

What's your take on this Grapevine family?

It's important because some people like me get bored easily with monotonous work. Constantly indulging in multiple domains of work keeps us going.

Does future belong to generalists or specialists?

Art. #Krishna

I've turned 27, roughly 3yoe earning 50k which is low but I'm upskilling. Currently due to layoffs, AI news and just a very unhealthy state of IT things are getting very depressing and I personally feel like I've already lost or missed in life. 
People are planning to get married around me everything is so sudden. 

People of grapevine, what advice would you want to give people like me who feel lost. 
Any general advice such as financial planning, lifestyle changes or just tech advice any advice which has helped you to live peacefully and comfortably would be greatly appreciated.

FOMO in tech

Advice : Please stop with the tutorial and enrolling in courses after course. Doesn't take you anywhere. Been there and done that.  
  
 You will end up with stupid clones which does seem like a value add in your resume. It's just there in everyone's resume.  
  
 Build one project, one solid project, maybe something to do with MFE. Not CRA react app but something with webpack if you prefer. Maybe a ecom app with seperate mfe for order and billing. Show the interaction between them, post on Twitter while you build. Share insights and maybe you will end up being in a recruiter's eye.

Frontend Engineer

How many of you have any kind of addiction? e.g. cigarettes, xxx,or anthing

Technical Consultant

Welcome to Ask Grapeviners's Private Community

I realised it today after almost 2 Yrs of working with my current firm. 

What was I doing?? 
—— Chasing numbers, building reports, finding new projects to work, Improving my personal brand within the company, perfecting and perfecting everything I work on, taking someone else’s ownership because they aren’t doing it and lot more.

Multiple people classify this under WorkaHOLYsm..

What does all these things give me?? 
——- Decent Hikes and Salary 💵 (Not much of a Financial Stress)

What did I lose?? 🥺

——- I lost my ducking feel of “living the moment” dude

I am literally realising this since a couple of weeks, I used to be fun, friendly and lively in the moment couple of years ago.

In past, People used to be jealous of how I live without any tension finding fun in everything I do —- Indeed I do have tensions then and now…!!

When I meet my friends recently, They say I was zoned-out, non-sync and no more fun and serious all time.

I have started feeling that I am not able to enjoy the “moment I live in” anymore and this is concerning to me.

Is this a Burnout Moment??

When my friends asked me what do I do apart from Work, I literally had to think twice/thrice and then answered that I watch Movies.

I currently do nothing else apart from work and watching movies.

Do you feel this is bad or am I exaggerating a normal thing..!!

Anyone with the same feeling and stuck in this freaking loop?? How did you come out of it.!!

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