I've been reading about this being the best way to make sure you stick to your goals  mainly with self discipline. We're far more likely to let ourselves down than let others down.  Anyone else use...

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I've been reading about this being the best way to make sure you stick to your goals - mainly with self discipline. We're far more likely to let ourselves down than let others down.

Anyone else use this, and is there a network you're a part of?

Anyone use accountability groups / accountability buddies to achieve your goals?

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Anyone use accountability groups / accountability buddies to achieve your goals?- Grapevine

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I am an experienced PM in a product based company. Off late I am not very motivated on the area /procrastinating /slacking /lazy. I am looking for an accountability partner - say book common meeting invite and work for 3 hours/day on weekends to prepare for interviews or deep work. Would anyone be interested. If there are more we can create a whatsapp group.

Seeking Accountability partner

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Apart from placement assistance/guarantee, what exactly is something that EdTech companies in the upskilling/higher education space (Scaler, UpGrad, etc.) solving that can’t be solved by free material available?

P.S. Not a rant. I’m genuinely trying to understand what drives people to pay such hefty amounts to these EdTech companies. Maybe someone in the industry can help with this.

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As the title says. 

I have tried many methods of dealing with procrastination to code, there is always a constant fear of not being consistent, plus programming doesn't come easy to me or rather I don't have the grit to do it. I have seen other college mates grinding their ass off to DSA, how do I go past the stage of fear of feeling dumb and procrastination? Anytime I try to sit to do anything I immediately get this wave of overwhelming anxiety, I then start scrolling on my phone to get rid of the feeling. I can't even sit properly on a chair for long - yeah call me COVID kid or something but this has been the case for years. I only manage to do work/study at the very last moment but programming isn't like that, it takes consistent efforts. Are there any methods to achieve it?

P.S. hard scolding or stern answers are also welcomed, really want to improve myself.

How do you deal with procrastination?

I am aware of the benefits of working out and I know I should. I typically just end up making excuses and workout out of laziness.

Wondering if there's something that works for you guys?

Folks who exercise consistently, how do you motivate yourself to workout?

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One habit that you want to break? Let's see how many relate to you here.

I have been trying to get back to gaining control of my life. 
At least the things I can control. 
But maybe cuz of procrastination, I am not able to start it? 
I have been an accountability partner for a friend and I know how I somehow was able to nudge them to stop their addictions. Ok, Stop might be a strong word but at least drastically decreased the intensity of it. 
So started wondering maybe that’s something I need for myself at this point? 
And I know I am mildly competitive too. 
So if you have been thinking of something like that, maybe we can do it together?
Let me know. Cheers!

Will you be my accountability partner?

Staff Engineer

What's the one thing you had wanted to change / start / stop doing this year - call it resolution at the beginning of the year? How are you doing on that? 

I wanted to get into a better rhythm on fitness and sustain the good eating habits from last year. 

Where am I? 

After a wasted JFM quarter, did somewhat okay in Apr, May and June. July has been not too bad. Baby steps: trying to get 3-4 hours in a week for fitness. I have realised habit formation is a function of stacking. When I workout on Saturday, I want to go to the gym on Sunday too and then on Monday and Tuesday and so on.. When I miss 2 days in a row, then I degrade to saying okay, let's start on Sunday - as a fresh week. Trying to break out of that and convincing myself today is as good as Sunday. :P Definitely improved, but a long way to go.

Would love to know about others here on and hope to get more inspiration. 

As they say, one day at a time. So do you want to wait till Jan'24? :)

7 months in, how are we doing on resolutions for the year?

Growth manager

I am fed up here as I don't see accountability anywhere. 
There was a Telugu Movie starring Mahesh Babu where he being CM says, in foreign, people are responsible and accountable and they made their lives beautiful. How amazing, right? I truly resonate with that thought

We lack accountability in everything we do.
- if something goes right, it's us, if wrong, it's them!
- We don't hold our govt politicians on their promises, on delivering things of value
- Companies go on screwing us, we don't give a damn. Refunds are processed without timelines, cases in country are backlogged for years and years
- We cannot even keep our cities clean, our air pure and our water drinkable and we are least bothered by it
- We cannot maintain our own infrastructure like Buses, railways, trains. We fucking are stealing mugs from railway toilets due to which it's chained (wtf!)

We don't want responsibility and no one should question us.
How are we really supposed to grow?  
Stringent laws in place helps with accountability of companies who at all times think how can I squeeze more money from people and screw them
Accountability keeps everyone in check.

Change my view!

[Rant] We lack accountability in almost everything

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I haven't been doing mentally well since I don't know when. I've  been extremely self critical about myself to the extent that it has negatively affected my relationship with loved ones. I think I have ADHD as I strongly feel I have the symptoms that are described in YouTube or in any article online. To make matters worse, I am not doing well in terms of my career, my finances have taken a hit, have gained 12+ kilos since a year, unable to focus on work and upskilling and I have anger issues. 
I am 30 YO and I feel my life is turning into a disaster.
Can someone please recommend therapists in Bangalore to whom I can talk face to face? 
I sometimes feel I'm seeking sympathy but in reality, I just need help.
There is a lot of guilt, regret and self hatred rooted deep inside me which has wrecked my confidence, self love, compassion which has started to affect others.
So if you guys know anyone, please let me know.

Need recommendations for therapists in Bangalore

Product Designer

Let me start by listing mine
1. Get into shape 💪 - I’ve set a target weight for myself, and a target muscle mass and body fat percentage 
2. One book a month 📕 - This is something I’ve tried over and over but never seemed to achieve.
3. Delve deeper into devops 🔄
4. Complete a few side projects I’ve had in my backlog for months
5. Quit smoking 🚭

What are yours?

Grapeviners, what are your goals for 2024?

Software Engineer

Everybody wants to join a good team where you have positivity and your learning is great. But after going through the interview, before joining a company, how would you know the team you are going to join is a good team in that company?

How to know a good team before joining?

Same as title. These days due to low job security and having faced layoff last year, I always feel the need to continuously do interview prep like DSA, LLD, etc even when I am not actively looking for a job. Plus, due to new technologies coming up, I feel the need to keep upskilling too. If I don't upskill or do interview prep continuously, I feel guilty as if I am wasting time. I feel like at this point, I am just living life to upskill and interview prep. Is there a way to balance all this along with work as it gets very tiring after a while and I feel burnt out?

How do guys balance daily work and upskilling?

Hey guys so not sure if this is the right place to post this or not, but I really need help from wherever I can get. 

So I was never into pornography until college happened in 2014 and I had a single room all to myself and unlimited high speed internet. 

It started with watching porn on weekends and snowballed into doing it daily over the course of the next 4 years. 

Not only that, as of today I am spending so many of my productive hours (3-4 hours) on sites like Omegle hoping to meet someone with the same fetishes as me.  (ik foolish me) Not only that I do the same on Telegram, Instagram, Snapchat, Kik, Discord etc. I know I'll never get anything worthwhile here but I am deeply addicted to this expectation that I will. 

Today I haven't come out of my room. Since 9am when I woke up, I have only been looking at porn and at these sites doing God knows what!  (It has been 8 hours) ☹️

Not only these, once or twice I had a chance to get intimate with a girl, but I could not keep it up and ejaculated within a minute.

Guys I have ruined my life. Please guys I am begging you, I want to pick myself up and make a man out of myself and live a happy life. I am very very sad and depressed. Please help me if you can.  It has been 10 years, I am 28 now and I can't take it for one more day. 😭😭😭

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