Approaching 33 as a female in IT feel lost
My husband wants kids am still not sure if I want them.. I want to build a startup have always been very ambitious. What should I do?
BiryaniEnthu
Stealth
18 days ago
One question, girl to girl
Why did you not go down the startup path till now? What blockers did you face?
Is it was that easy to do she would have done it by now but by this age you can’t take that much risks too
I like your zeal at this age, dependencies and situation! I hope you get to live your dreams!
If I may ask,
On kids -
Did you two discuss about kids before marriage? are you and your husbands opinions very recent?
On entrepreneurship -
Did you try branching out off your jobs so far? Setup a small business? Tried freelancing?
FindingHorses
Stealth
18 days ago
No we did not discuss about it pre marriage, I want to have kids eventually
Yes I have done freelancing made good money off it
Also had a small side hustle business not in the domain I work in currently
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My wife was 36 when she gave birth to the first kid. We were told by everyone that she won't be able to conceive after 35 but our love made it possible.
So to all people saying it's risky or don't plan a baby, just don't listen to anyone. Take the decision when you are ready for it. I have seen females conceive even after 40. Don't worry and All the best dear 😊
After 40, by the time her kid will be in college she will be 60+, she will not have the energy to celebrate. Her kid will be in constant pressure that parents are getting older we've to do smthng. Also seeing babies getting older when we're active is a different thing. Also kids will have gud memories with their cousins. It's not always about the mother or father or kid it's about everyone. As a family they owe each other.
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@FindingHorses marriage and kids are not the end of the world first try to understand this.
In this country alot of half baked and pseudo intellectuals are doing startup and you will realise this once you start doing startup.
Even people who are from tier 1 institute have burning desire to startup and they actually do but they are not doing any useful neither making actual money they are just burning easy cash from VC's.
Ignore Karo ye sab apne life par focus Karo
People can startup at any stage of their life
While you are building your dream you can achieve and manage anything the way you want. Don't lose hope ...show your woman power 💪
You don't need anyone's approval and validation for that .... remember this
Having a kid might take four years of your life. This is a fact. A woman's body is designed that way... Something or the other keeps coming up during this period. If you can afford a lot of help, do it before planning kids. Even with the help, you have to be there most of the time. IMO this is a very personal matter and one should introspect each aspect of their individuality and relationship dynamics. I know it's hard but if you know what you are going to do then you'll be having the way.
Maybe tell this to your husband and form an understanding around this. Having said this, if you want to have kids in future, be mindful and consult a doctor. Have heard it’s becomes difficult post 35 and chances of complications gets higher.
FindingHorses
Stealth
18 days ago
Yes on it..
Indusplateau
Stealth
18 days ago
You are need to all things simultaneously.
Decidate hours accordingly. The school has brainwashed us into doing one thing after another.
LooseGoose
Stealth
18 days ago
If you want to have kids, now is the time. You could startup once the kids are older.
Starting up and then going for kids would be more risky, you'll have extra obligations and it'll be difficult to do both at the same time.