Are you happy with your marriage?

I am a 25 year old female making 80+LPA. My boy friend, 29 who I am marrying this year earns 25 LPA. One should not think about how much their partner is earning, rather maturity, growth mindset, compatibility, mutual respect, alignment in principles and future plans, the partners ability to adapt and work together during tough times and disagreements is more important. At the end of the day having money but no peaceful and happy life is not where you would want to end up.

> at least 70% of my salary OR has an excellent academic background I'm glad you didn't say "Only candidates from IIT/IIM can apply for this position".

I might receive a lot of criticism for this, but honestly, from a woman's perspective, you are setting the wrong rule. If you are looking for a girl who makes at least 70% of your salary, then in my knowledge, all those girls are already looking for a guy who is earning at least 2x her salary. And for her, there are still going to be many options. You might need to reconsider this filter of yours. 🫠

Don't be so attached to your money and success. It can fall off any given day. Don't be so technical about finding a partner, life doesn't work that way. Just find someone whose company you can enjoy. Find someone who is adjusting and kind-hearted. 15 years from now, you will be need someone you can come home to, and nobody wants to come home to a fucking jerk. Go easy, find someone who is good hearted, baaki sab chutiyapps hai. All this 70% and 20% won't amount to much in a few years in your life.

I would suggest removing the salary bar and academic background, You are already 0.1 % in male salary holders.Even Asking for a girl who makes 70% of your salary is next impossible. Assuming you are going to marry someone who is less than your age,then she should be a fresher or someone with less than 4 years of experience. Open up Glassdoor and do your analysis. I am sorry to say this if you set too many conditions on finding someone you will end up single for the rest of your life. Look for maturity in a person who wants to get married to you. Also I would suggest you lie about you salary as well( lower your salary) or else you will attract too many gold diggers. Here is my story: I revealed my salary to my parents.My parents started flexing my salary with relatives and friends (of course they 1.5x my salary) I started getting marriage invitations out of nowhere. I talked to my parents, Now i don't reveal how much I make to them.(Only my brother and a few of my close friends know how I actually make) Of course I take care of parents,pay internet,hospital bills etc. Yes marriage is essential part of life,You decide when you should get married as long as you marry someone who is mature and hardworking. It doesn't really matter how much they make be it 2LPA or 1Cr they will succeed in life and be a better companion for you. Good luck 🤞

To test your hypothesis 70% of 60 = 42 LPA Tier 1 grad Younger or equal to 26 yo Single and never married Your marriage if not diminished has shrunk to very limited options. Let's assume, if you do find one who fits the bill, why would she choose you? Two switches and she is earning more than your package What is that you bring to the table?

Gonna make out with money ? What if she says at least 70% of the baby you need to deliver or maybe 70% of the any kind of household work should be done by you

Marriage is overrated.

Being a 26 Male is quite young to get married. Explore all kind of possibilities. Utmost thing in the marriage is your values towards life, Compatibility with each other, love and respect. If these aren't present in a marriage then that isn't a true marriage but a contract or divorce later on. Coming to your question 1. You're not being stupid, you have a vision I believe so stick to it until life experiences change your criteria. 2. If a woman is fit for you, your intuition will tell you. Listen to that. 3. Be single don't rush to marriage until you're very sure about it, again your intuition will play a vital role to discover that readiness.

Honest advice.... Bhai jo ladki mummy pasand kar ke de, wahi best hai 😜😜 kyuki tu handle nahi kar payega "70%" waliyon ke expectation (chonchle) ko.. 😅😅

Do whatever you feel like doing at present moment, if your rule is not feasible , eventually you will get to know. Your rules will change, like mindset changes with experiences.

Bro, you are not hiring someone for a role in a company. You are hiring someone for lifetime, keep everything aside and find someone u will laugh with and cry with at any moment in life, you just cant wait to meet them and tell all ur BS things and still they pay attention to and talk it out. Money, education is a good factor but not a strict priority requirement. *Find a good friend whom you can keep for lifetime*

Not as rare as a mature women! Stay single but don't lower your expectations. You're not asking for anything unreasonable. Earns decently compared to you. ✅ Intellectually gifted ✅ Should be grounded ✅. I don't see anything unfair in these demands. Don't marry because you have to, marry only if you want to.

Don’t think of marriage for next 5 years and after that as well when you plan for it - state only 30% of your salary (considering you would be earning in Cr’s by then) And best don’t get married (coming from someone who’s already into a fucked up marriage and can’t get out because of kid).

Get married only if 1. You are planning to start a family and have kids in future. 2. Get ready to take on more responsibilities from daily chores to taking care of your kid for the next 18yrs 3. If your partner accepts to be child free, then your responsibilities would be daily chores, balancing work-relationship and life. If you want to be care free then just stay single. Work, travel and hookup. Once you get old join a old age home and RIP.

While financial compatibility is important, solely focusing on income or academic background may overlook other crucial factors that contribute to a healthy and fulfilling relationship. For example, someone may have a lower income but possess qualities like ambition, drive, and compatibility in other areas that could enrich your life together. Rather than viewing finance as the primary filter, consider incorporating it as one aspect of a broader set of criteria that includes values, communication, emotional connection, and mutual respect. This holistic approach can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling partnership.

You are not ready for the idea of marriage. You will be ready once you consider it more from lens of compatibility, love, selfless partnership. What about the girl leaving her job post the marriage? Will you leave her?

Key Takeaways from the chat :) : Focus on compatibility, not just finances: While financial stability is "important", prioritize emotional connection, shared values, maturity, and honesty for a lasting partnership. Get to know someone before making judgements: Education background doesn't define a person. Dates are a great way to understand someone's mindset and goals. Be open and authentic: Don't feel pressured to disclose your salary upfront. Focus on building genuine connections. Relax and enjoy the process: You're likely younger than you think you need to be for marriage. Take your time and trust your intuition when you meet someone special. Broaden your horizons: Finding a partner shouldn't feel like a job search. Be open to meeting people from diverse backgrounds. Don't settle: It's okay to keep exploring until you find someone who complements your life. Focus on your journey: Keep doing the things you enjoy, and the right person might appear when you least expect it. Thanks to all who helped specially the experienced/(G)old( sorry :") ) folks, you could literally read their comments and figure out that they are here to help, thanks and much love fam, and to the people who were salty, "guys I already mentioned that even I am not sure about my criteria that's the reason why I asked".

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In the world of uncertainty and layoffs hitting left right center nobody knows what would be the future . Even a understanding and loyal partner earning half of less than what you are earning would stand for you and run the house at times of need . So look for someone who can stand with you through thick and thins of life . House is the place you come back to find happiness and peace from all the hustle at work .