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But they add up to zero, why not don't experience any

You can't have a better side, without having a worse one.

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Software Developer

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Did i write something? 
Sorry, i was just inking out loud.

In this world of irrational chaos, it's better to divide my disbelief between artificial intelligence and human intelligence.

I only call my haters broke. 🤬
Everyone else is just a victim of capitalism. 🫡🤌

In conclusion, I've neither relaxed nor been productive during this weekend. And i feel guilty about both. 

Meh. Fuk it. Consequences of my own actions.

Welcome to Personal Finance's Private Community

DINKs, (dual income no kids) have been gaining traction a lot lately. I want to know from the members of gravevine, what are their views on being a DINK couple or a DINKWAD( double income no kids with a dog). From financial prospects like having a huge disposable income to emotional aspects like not having a legacy or going against custom Indian tradition. Do share your thoughts 🤔💭

What are your thoughts about being DINKS?

We are a DINK couple (live-in, will get married soon) and absolutely no plans to have kids. Maybe be a DINKWAD someday by adopting an indie. Also no plans to buy a home or spend on our marriage. This is not a financial decision (both of us are doing decently well in our careers) but we don't want to have a child knowing how nothing around is improving and we don't want to sacrifice the best years of our lives by doing this. We are building a large corpus to be financially independent and travel without any financial restrictions.

Growth Manager

What is the worst thought that your mind has ever conceived?

Data engineer

Please bear with me while I'm dramatic. 
I'll be normal again in a few hours, i promise.

This realisation is purely a selfish thing, which led me to think of reasons behind my friends supporting the BJP.

I absolutely hate BJP's hate, religion, divide&rule politics, and I'm sure most BJP supporters themselves also hate that, but they don't have a choice like most of us. 

If you are supporting BJP, you fall in one of the following categories for sure:

1. Your family supports them, so you have to.

2. Someone in your family is a small/big BJP related politician.

3. You have seen/used the perks of supporting them i.e local influence.

4. You are a businessman/entrepreneur who benefited from their policies and believes they will help you further as well.

5. Brainwashed blind faith in Modi.

6. You are a Hindu and you blindly hate Muslims. 

7. No trust in the opposition party. 

What other reasons? Tell me in the comments, what were your reasons to vote for the BJP. 

Now coming to my reason: 

I don't want to see the stock market bloodbath, i have invested a lot and for sure the market will go down 20-30% if the BJP loses. 

But glad i didn't vote for them.

[Realisation] I don't support BJP, but I want them to win.

Senior Software Engineer

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I don't know if this post would make sense, but does anyone ever wish they were less? Less competent, less "bright", less "smart"? I'm not being braggy but I am pretty smart (not book smart but smart smart) and while objectively I am doing pretty good, I just constantly feel like I'm not living up to my fullest potential!

Should I be on the lookout for a better job (the present one is fine) or preparing to study more or, I don't know, to scale and scale? It feels like everyone has such high expectations of me and I hate making mistakes, even if it is a typo in a document

The anxiety that I'll never live up to my potential becomes so crippling, it becomes counter productive and like Dr. Strange, I forseen like a 100 different possible outcomes of every decision because I can't seem to turn my brain off! Ignorance is bliss and I so wish I could be ignorant

Does anyone ever wish they were... Less?

Lawyer

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So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how.
 Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

I shut down under pressure

My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.

Product Manager

Fu** , marry, kill -
But
It's just me, you gotta do all three.

Ironically, the true art of listening is to hear clearly what was not said.

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Today's thoughts

Tldr: title
Living with my parents has allowed me to save a decent amount and invest while enjoying time with friends. My job is fun; I work with a tech stack I love (Golang) and learn new things regularly since it's a scratch project. My manager is great, an expert in SQL, and doesn't scrutinize my code much. My salary is around 9.5 LPA, and I have close to two years of experience. 

Being part of the tech community, I strive for a better salary. However, my efforts to switch jobs have been inconsistent. I dedicated two weeks to practicing DSA and applying for jobs but received no callbacks, which was tough to swallow. My goal is to achieve a salary around 14 LPA in my next jump, but sometimes I wonder if I'm being delusional.

I know there are amazing folks who get 20 or 30 LPA straight out of college, and I wish them the best. Comparing myself to them hasn't been effective. Even trying to dislike my company, thinking about how I barely make $10,000 while the company profits millions, hasn't motivated me.

what might be your strategy you if you were in a similar situation?

How do you fight complacency?

Backend Engineer

Do you think that shampoo and conditioner are actually good friends, or is it purely professional?

The obsession I regret the most in my life is the all or nothing behavior.

Where, 
- I'll apply for a job only after knowing everything there is to know for a role.  This is why I used to see people with half my knowledge applying and getting jobs and moving ahead in life. I used think it's so unfair that they achieve in all aspects of their life and I in none...
- I'll date someone only when I know I am the perfect version that I envision for myself 
- I'll only take photos when I am in my perfect shape. If I don't have 8 abs, I don't deserve photos!
- I'll stop questioning whether I am good enough only when I achieve everything else I am a loser

I just was very cruel to myself for my own imperfections!
This instilled a fear in me that shattered my spirit, self confidence and self worth.  I ended up being afraid to pick anything up. 

If I couldn't stay course in something and for some reason I wasn't able to do something for a day or 2, my perfectionism mindset said, that's it, I am a failure and I thought, nothing can be done now and gave up

This resulted in I procrastinating in things. 
Why to work hard, I am never gonna make it...
I have 100 things to do in life else I am failure but I don't have time to do all that in this lifetime. Perfectionism results in not doing anything!

After meeting people, self introspection and podcasts from people, I realised its okay to mess up, its okay to fall down. I should dust myself off and continue! 
It is so hard now to change yourself after years of disappointment. You need so much positivity and letting go of perfectionism. You need self love and kindness... 

TLDR -
Don't be like an OCD person obsessing over things to go exactly the way they want!
Don't reject yourself due to failures/setbacks. Dust yourself off and move ahead!
It's okay to be imperfect as long as you promise to be consistent!

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