I shut down under pressure

My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.

What kind of pressure? Work? Emotional?

It's a natural human tendency. The important thing is to take a break for sometime and introspect about the things. Do a retro session. Try to understand what is happening, how you respond to things, self awareness is an important thing. Try to understand both yourself at a physical and mental level. Both physical and mental health is important. We live in a fast paced world where everything is important. The co-operate world puts you under a lot of pressure. I'll suggest you to take the notebook pen. Spend some time alone. Try to write down things which bothers you, what is your short term and long term goal, are you taking care of yourself and look at physical health as well. What kind of food do you eat that impacts both your physical and mental health. Also what kind of things you consume like social media, instagram and other things impacts a lot. Try to list down what you eat, your daily schedule. The main thing is being written down which troubles you a lot , any fear in mind, any trauma. Try to find the solution to those things one by one. Observe yourself on how you react to certain situations. If your brain is unable to think about anything under pressure or getting frozen it's known as brain fog. Try to reduce your screentime. Don't over think. Stop using social media. Don't watch porn / do masturbation. Don't eat processed food / outside food. Try to sleep for atleast 7hrs. Make sure walk daily / exercise on regular basis. If possible do the mediation. Try to find the long term solution instead of short-term. Also lifestyle changes are required. Book recommendation: Hacking Health - Mukesh Bansal Dopmain Detox Read blogs and watch videos related both physical and mental health. Medicine: Himalaya Pure Wellness Brahmani for 60 day's. Feel free to slide into my DM. If you want to talk on this.

I have been under pressure for almost a year now because of overload of work. I did reach out to others but it didn't work. So, I had to deal with it on my own!! It's frustrating ik, I literally felt depressed and I still do. But, a month ago I reached my peak point, my body was tired as well. So, I decided to work hard to get out of this situation. I started investing my non-working hours into studying new skills. No matter what, my only aim is to get out of this situation at any cost. Also, listen to your body when it says let's take a rest today and then restart again. Listen to music, try yoga, watch something good that will make you happy or just sleep to get yourself back to fighting mode. It's not so easy but we can get back to ourselves. Slowly things will definitely change.

My mind goes blank too under pressure, but i do want to get out of it.

If it is a work thing and particularly related to software, start this practise. 1. Identify what the RCA was. 2. Calmly analyse how far along you were towards the RCA. If not, how deviated you were. 3. Identify the gap in knowledge or skills. 4. Read up on the gap. 5. Rinse and repeat. The part below is more general in nature and may apply to a broad spectrum of things in life. When someone says to toughen up, what they usually are referring to is to develop an attitude of not quitting g without giving it your best shot. If you are unavailable to resolve something, seek help. But don't throw up your hands in the air and say that this is impossible.

I have a similar issue. I start overthinking. And when I see that I can procrastinate a bit, I do it and start adding pressure to myself as the dates near. I also get excited by the prospect, but can't sit down and put the small incremental regular work to actually make some progress.

Fear of failure is a common trauma response and a manifestation of the situations you faced growing up, it is also a prominent symptom through which several neurodivergent conditions (like ADHD, OCD etc) are expressed. No shame in getting checked and/or finding coping mechanisms in the meanwhile (think gamifying, challenging your ego, spite, shame etc. although not healthy) But reiterating the common cliche, focus only on the inputs, the consequences of a bad output are never as bad as they are in your head, but not attempting definitely is. As a teen and a relatively young adult, I used to Chide at the mention of personal growth thinking it is an excuse against spending time acquiring knowledge or hiding from honig skills, but then once you grok what it actually means and what it changes for you, you won't leave the path. I mention this because, the returns are non-linear/not apparent for the time you spend, but stick to it and trust the process

This thread is the epitome of men (and others) will do anything instead of going to therapy. @AdeptTurret6 sounds like you might have high anxiety levels or similar issue. Consult a psychiatrist once and get a diagnosis done. If all is well, try all the other suggestions in the thread.

I’ll just share my initial experience; it might help you as well. I personally like to observe people a lot, especially those in higher positions, such as my immediate and leadership. Over the years, I have seen some things working in real life that I didn't really understand correctly when I read about them. Here are some points: 1. Doing something just for the sake of it versus doing something that will actually create an impact is very different. 2. Not every task requires the same amount of effort; prioritisation helps. 3. Breaking things down into small tasks helps in achieving goals faster. 4. Being realistic with timelines is something that, I believe, comes with experience, but practicing this in real life would speed up the process. Hope this helps.

Put your self in such situations over and over again and infact look forward for it. Se what you are missing introspect and improvise !

Agree with the counselling part. It's more likely coming from childhood trauma or something that happened in the past. Counselling helps. In the current situation, when work pressure gets high, breaking down large tasks into smaller ones is key for managing workload and keeping yourself sane. Set clear goals, break tasks into manageable parts, prioritise, create timelines, focus on one subtask at a time, and celebrate milestones. Reward yourself each time you tick one task off the list. Don't underestimate the power of reward. Feeling good about yourself enhances productivity & reduces stress. In my close to 20 yrs of corporate career and beating myself up over inability to handle pressure, I've learned that everything just needs a structure. Most of us are not trained to work with structure. It takes time to integrate that into our work-life. Sometimes it's as simple as maintaining a daily to-do calendar for self. All the best. Know that you are not alone in this. Reach out and be an ally for someone if you find them struggling similarly. It's important to do those small small things that make you feel good about yourself. Whatever that might be. Take care and all the best?

You started your post saying “might get hate” but everyone has commented in your favor and have empathized with you. This itself says that what you are going through is normal and You are overthinking and worried about external judgement. What is the worst thing that can happen ? Lose your job ? Just think so what ? Relax and loosen up your tension and automatically brain fog will be gone

I understand your point. But you have to kick in your survival skills. When im under that situation i try to escape it by putting utmost efforts

Guys I've put all these in chat gpt and summarised, I'm going to print it out and stick it in on my work all. You guys are angels for spending time on this. Thank you.

Feeling inadequate? Well well! You're not alone, we all have been here. Dive into 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck' by Mark Manson or 'Mindset' by Carol S. Dweck for powerful insights. Your journey is about resilience and growth. Have you heard the saying “something that doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger”. Good luck ✨

This is typical of today's environment and it happens for 2 reasons: 1. Work is something we dont know and have to learn to do stuff leading to frustration 2. We are good at our work but its above what we can deliver in a day. The solution which worked for me (may not work for others) was 1. If I have to learn something I account learning time in additional to working time to deliver. 2. I deliver X units of work everyday and maybe once a blue moon something epic happens then X+2 but thats a hard stop. You can offer me whatever and I won't budge. Fortunately my work isn't like a surgeon where it's life and death (so is most work). If your company asks for more than your capacity then you are maybe in the wrong company. Doesn't mean you don't improve, have some time for that. But stop work sharp everyday to remain sane and enjoy life. (Secret: nobody knows shit, everybody is coasting, so is your boss)

Tough or time bound assignments make you more tough and skilled... Do your best if it's impossible.. Give reason to manager that due to bla bla reason 20℅ work remaining. Change the job if required

I have given up under pressure in past. I am learning to ignore it. I try my best not to give in even if it is just to pretend.

Just take a break buddy, it helps when things are keeping us too busy. Do travel, go out me make and meet friends. Also family, if you believe there’s where you find peace too. Many good advises down in comments and I won’t duplicate but would like to mention , don’t let doubts creep in, we all learn, we all make mistakes .. Find a good mentor within your business unit or outside and speak of your inhibitions and have an open heart to feedback’s .. You are good .. ones who introspect are good !