I shut down under pressure
So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how. Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?
My advice is simple. Spite. Hate the situation so much that you come out of that, or conquer it with pure spite. The Hatred of ever being found in such a situation will propel you towards success.
What kind of pressure? Work? Emotional?
I struggle with work stress. When I get something new to do I get really excited but when I have to commit to deadlines, self doubt happens and then I think self sabotage because instead of thinking about the problem, I constantly think about how if I am not able to do it, what they will say, immature yes, but I'm not able to grapple with it. That's when I shut down.
Focus on progress. Trying to implement preefech solution will likely create impostor syndrome and cause self doubt and make you procrastinate.
It's a natural human tendency. The important thing is to take a break for sometime and introspect about the things. Do a retro session. Try to understand what is happening, how you respond to things, self awareness is an important thing. Try to understand both yourself at a physical and mental level. Both physical and mental health is important. We live in a fast paced world where everything is important. The co-operate world puts you under a lot of pressure. I'll suggest you to take the notebook pen. Spend some time alone. Try to write down things which bothers you, what is your short term and long term goal, are you taking care of yourself and look at physical health as well. What kind of food do you eat that impacts both your physical and mental health. Also what kind of things you consume like social media, instagram and other things impacts a lot. Try to list down what you eat, your daily schedule. The main thing is being written down which troubles you a lot , any fear in mind, any trauma.
Try to find the solution to those things one by one. Observe yourself on how you react to certain situations.
If your brain is unable to think about anything under pressure or getting frozen it's known as brain fog.
Try to reduce your screentime.
Don't over think.
Stop using social media.
Don't watch porn / do masturbation.
Don't eat processed food / outside food.
Try to sleep for atleast 7hrs.
Make sure walk daily / exercise on regular basis.
If possible do the mediation.
Try to find the long term solution instead of short-term. Also lifestyle changes are required.
Book recommendation: Hacking Health - Mukesh Bansal Dopmain Detox Read blogs and watch videos related both physical and mental health.
Medicine: Himalaya Pure Wellness Brahmani for 60 day's.
Feel free to slide into my DM. If you want to talk on this.
I have been under pressure for almost a year now because of overload of work. I did reach out to others but it didn't work. So, I had to deal with it on my own!! It's frustrating ik, I literally felt depressed and I still do. But, a month ago I reached my peak point, my body was tired as well. So, I decided to work hard to get out of this situation. I started investing my non-working hours into studying new skills. No matter what, my only aim is to get out of this situation at any cost. Also, listen to your body when it says let's take a rest today and then restart again. Listen to music, try yoga, watch something good that will make you happy or just sleep to get yourself back to fighting mode. It's not so easy but we can get back to ourselves. Slowly things will definitely change.
This was golden, thanks