BubblyMarshmallow
BubblyMarshmallow
Student

Dating in b-school: feeling overwhelmed :(

I'm a 26-30 F at IIM Calcutta, and it seems like a lot of my classmates are already in relationships. It's a cliché that you might find your partner in B-school, but seeing others dating makes me anxious. In my first year, I was all about academics, which turned out to be tougher than I thought.

Now, I'm gearing up for placements, which should be my main focus (luckily, I have some interviews lined up!). But I can't shake the feeling that time is slipping away, and I get FOMO watching friends having fun and meeting new people.

I know it's a privilege to be in an MBA program, especially at IIM Calcutta, but there's this nagging feeling that I'm missing out on the social side. Plus, I wonder if it's worth dating when people might move away for jobs after graduation.

Do people use dating apps while in the MBA program here? I tried apps like Hinge and Bumble but didn't see many fellow students.

With all this, how do people date post-MBA in big cities? I'm not into dating apps or the bar scene. How do you meet new people?

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GigglyNugget
GigglyNugget

You are too qualified for most men. You will settle only for someone who is higher and better than you. And you are beyond your biological prime, so the cream among this crop of exceptionally restricted pool size of men will unlikely go with you.

In other words, you are in a royal mess. And I totally get what you are experiencing now.

I guess corporate glory is the only thing that can salvage you. If I were you, I would double down on this because the other options are very very limited.

PeppyUnicorn
PeppyUnicorn
Student6mo

Dude what's wrong with you?

GigglyPenguin
GigglyPenguin

Ohh, please. Just because you are not in your biological prime, that doesn't mean you'd berate someone for not having a partner and label them as not being in their biological prime.

Poster only meant having FOMO clarified so this reductive narrative is not helping anyone. @IncompatibleCook being someone who went through the same situation, I can assure you, focus on the networking and the placement process. You'll have a somewhat aspirational life in some city and you'll have company. You still have a lot of time and sure, your choices will be limited but it will reflect all the choices and sacrifices you have made for your future - you'll find people and you'll get a partner. You need to market yourself according to your brand. So create the authentic brand first and get started.

Campus is just campus - it's a bubble, once you get out of there you'll see a lot of truths unraveling. In the grand scheme of life, this is just one of the things. Have your feet on the ground and then aim to shoot the shot, level by level.

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

Your objective should be to find and make friends. Dating will happen when the time is right. Until then, build your circle and relationships with friends, classmates, even old school and college friends.

Become an extrovert - https://share.gvine.app/tGsDuNV8YiPvfsGe7

ZippyMochi
ZippyMochi

Not much point getting into relationship while in MBA because placements and jobs will throw people in all kinds of directions and trajectories.

SqueakyUnicorn
SqueakyUnicorn
Student6mo

wow — good comment

DerpyPickle
DerpyPickle

Lol this looks like a reddit post I saw just yesterday. Went from M7 to IIMC😂

SillyPenguin
SillyPenguin

Lol, I read the same post! I just searched for the reddit thread and found it -

https://www.reddit.com/r/MBA/s/bx8cSVaAm9

OP, I think there'll be a big difference in the advice you get for Wharton vs IIMC :P

CosmicSushi
CosmicSushi

Listen I m a 26 F from IIM C and take it from me, focus on ur placements. Boys come and go, plus the whole world is your oyster.

GigglyNoodle
GigglyNoodle
Student6mo

You graduated from IIM C and now working at Axis bank?

JazzyJellybean
JazzyJellybean
TCS6mo

If you want a serious relationship, you won't find it by "finding". Just focus on everything you doing without over thinking and the magic will happen.

ZoomyPretzel
ZoomyPretzel

@IncompatibleCook how many dm in last 24 hrs???

GoofyJellybean
GoofyJellybean

Hahahaha, somebody cracked the game

PeppyJellybean
PeppyJellybean

🤣

SqueakyCoconut
SqueakyCoconut

Let's be real: if you didn't take time to enjoy and socialize during your MBA, you're missing out on a huge part of the experience. It's not just about the books and job offers. You might regret not making those connections and memories later on.

Time to shake things up before it's too late.

JazzyQuokka
JazzyQuokka

RIP your DMs

SqueakyNarwhal
SqueakyNarwhal
KPMG6mo

Bhaai pyaar-vyaar sab dhoka hai... padhle acche se abhi bhi mauka hai. 😅 True love will find you even if you are not trying to find it.

FuzzyPancake
FuzzyPancake
Student6mo

Hey, this is fellow IIM C student and somewhat in the same boat. Let me know if we can meet. Ofcourse no space for judging or something like that. Reply to this comment and then we will see.

FuzzyPancake
FuzzyPancake
Student6mo

DM me, I can't, as I don't have any grape, it need 50 grapes to DM.

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