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Don't let your hatred, embarass yourself.- Grapevine

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Since early childhood all I talked, watched and read was Technology. When I got home from school, I worked on C++ and built games by modelling physics, collisions etc. I frequented a ton of online forums for WebGL and other archaic tech that most of you don't even know about.

I knew all about the Silicon Valley, the stories and legends. I learned all about the history of technology and used to work deeply with my father with transistors, ECU/ECMs etc during weekends. 

I thought I knew it all. I thought I was the deal. I remember schooling folks about all of this, making them realise they are dumb as hell. I remember when I stepped into my MS in CS program and attended a club meeting, I realized that I was just like everybody else.

They were all the same as me in hindsight. They knew the same things and lived and breathed the same passion. I knew I wasn't special. For the first time, I suffered ego-death. I thought I was special, and I was not.

This is just a reminder, that you are not special. You are less unique than you think you are. So lose that attitude.

Do you think you are special?

In a nutshell, we're just mental labourers and we're paid more than physical labourers not because  we're smarter, it is done in order to compensate for the compromised health (lowers your testosterone, fucks reward system of your brain, causes deficiency, anxiety, myopia, backpain).

Software Developer

Product Manager

I am a 2023 graduate, and after receiving a decent job offer, I threw a party for my friends. One of my friends invited his friend who is not my friend, and though I didn't refuse, it later stung me when that person landed a better package. What hurt even more was that he didn't throw a party at all. Now, after a year, I've received a job offer that's a thousand times better than the package he got. I want to post a WhatsApp status flaunting my success only to him, but I'm struggling to come up with a caption that indirectly stings him. Can you help me out?

Guys please suggest some caption that would burn my friend to the core

Software Engineer

Welcome to Data Scientists's Private Community

How to handle a situation if manager humiliates someone in every meeting in front of other team members?

Data Scientist

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

As title says, I have resigned and my boss who is also the founder of the company has set up a 1:1 session with me. 
I was fed up of him because of his micromanagement and stupid asks. Basically he was just being a person who think if I have paid, I can ask anything from my employees. 

Now,  I wish to tell him all of this in 1:1 and say how he is not at all worthy to run a employee friendly company. 

Do you all think it'll be a good idea? Will it impact me in future in any way? Will my next joining be impacted by this?

Telling Boss how bad he was during Resignation

Don’t do that. Telling him all those things will get you nothing, rather he can screw up your exit, FnF, background verification. Just move on

Machine Learning Engineer

Welcome to IT Company Discussion's Private Community

I want to share my experience as a fresher at Accenture, my first company from a college placement. The first six months were fine, but then I faced severe mental harassment from my supervisor and manager. She constantly criticized my work and gave negative feedback, causing me immense stress. I often skipped meals and worked weekends to improve, but nothing helped.

Despite reporting the issue and requesting a supervisor change or a different track, my requests were ignored. The harassment worsened, affecting my physical health, and I couldn't eat or sleep properly. My manager controlled trivial aspects like where to sit and whom to talk to, making the situation unbearable. I was even forced to switch from a developer role to a tester, despite being trained as a developer.

The final straw was being placed on a Performance Improvement Plan (PIP) without a clear reason, with the same harassing individuals assessing me. I only had 1.9 years of experience then. I reported the mental harassment to HR and resigned due to deteriorating health, panic attacks, and weight loss. Despite having no other job offer, I couldn't continue. Even during my notice period, I was forced to complete PIP assignments, which led to suicidal thoughts and further health issues.

Now, I am jobless, feeling helpless and frustrated. With less than 2 of experience, I struggle to find offers in a down IT market and don't know what to do next.

My Experience as Fresher with Workplace Harassment and Forced Resignation at Accenture

Put the same on LinkedIn and tag the bloody manager.

Team Lead

From my experience, I see 7 out of 10 desi people working with people in the US suck at English, some despite living there for 5, 6, 7 years or even more.

 And the reason I call them mediocre is they don’t even realize how bad they are at English. They take their non-native English speaking background as an entitlement to suck at English.

What irks me more is desi people communicate with their clients & counterparts in the US but still don’t realize the need for polishing their English language skills.

“English is not my native language but I will work with native English speakers, and suck at English.” How is this fair?

What’s your experience like?

Desi folks working with people in the US suck at English! Why?

I disagree with you. Many of them may not be able to correct their grammar so late into corporate.  
  
 Just understand that white people are working with desi people because they are cheap and good at their work. They don’t give two fucks about who’s speaking how.  
  
 I have been dealing with US and Europeans since last 8 years and yes my English has drastically improved but it doesn’t mean I have the right to shit on people who can’t.  
  
 Have you ever spoken with Russians or Germans or a Brazilian? They are worse in English than us and yet they are proud of that.

Software Architect

Welcome to News Discussion's Private Community

Whenever I read foreign media outlets, India is the new Asian Tiger that will outpace most emerging economies in growth. But Indian media and Indian people act like India is the worst place to be.

The dichotomy is extremely confusing. Why is it that foreign media coverage on our economy is more favourable than our own hopes and aspirations from this country?

PS: I am really big on Indian Exceptionalism, the belief that India's economic development and trajectory are unique or exceptional compared to other nations, driven by our large and diverse population, thriving middle class, our entrepreneurial spirit, and the emphasis on technology and innovation.

Source:
https://www.bloomberg.com/news/features/2024-04-07/can-india-overtake-china-as-world-s-growth-engine-it-could-happen-by-2028

Why do Indians hate India?

Lack of opportunities, too much competition and no support from government (unless you know someone who knows someone) 
  
 It is just not India, you speak with natives of other countries they will not paint rosy pictures. Happiest country Finland has such gloom in population and they accept it

I have all the sympathy with people laid off
I have been laid off before

Denial just prolongs finding a new role.

Instead of posting how many applications have been turned down, how interviews are not converting
Use the same space to put out your skills, talk about things you worked on
You must be good at something to have survived in the market 
If someone is looking for your profile, your whine post won’t make a cut because it doesn’t even tell them about you

Unpopular Opinion: Please don't cry for work after layoff, talk why you should be hired

Please don’t cry why the other party is does not deserve to be the ruling party, instead talk about why your favourite party deserves to win the the elections. 
  
 Please don’t cray after a local goon illegally occupies the property you bought with your hard earned money, instead talk about why you deserve to be the rightful owner of that property.  
  
 Please don’t cry when your wife/husband abuses you, instead talk about why you deserve not to be abused.  
  
 I hope you and people with similar thinking get the message. Sometimes you get treated they way you don’t deserve to be treated. A layoff doesn’t mean you are not good at what you do, there are variables, internal politics, mediocre managers safeguarding mediocre talent due to their personal connections. So, let people cry, dil halka hota hai usse.

Product Designer

Corporate Strategist

Never reach anyone for help.
Suffer in silence.
Infact make your problems worse.
Destroy yourself.
Don’t be a coward.

Happy Birthdays to Me!

I Hate Everybody

Security Analyst

A few colleagues of mine who got promoted in the mid year cycle had ordered a few snacks yesterday. But I didn't go there due to the fact that I wasn't promoted in this cycle.

I know that this attitude of mine is going to hurt me but I don't know how to handle this.

Any suggestions because frankly speaking this feeling is killing me from inside and I can't stop thinking about this even after my office is over.

Jealousy is killing me

Research Specialist

Unrelated/pseudo-related info:

She is really fond of caffeine (Frontend developer rituals). She is like one of those coffee geeks. She has a spam account specially dedicated to various kinds of coffees around the globe. She also has a scrap book about various coffee beans.  Kinda absurd (creeped me out initially when I saw it in her bag, she keeps them in those CID waale little  specimen zip bags) but its her thing and I value her quirks. 

I am not really a fan, but I do enjoy cold coffee once in a blue moon when the mood strikes.

But for her, I would. 

Thankfully, she isnt into tea, because I just HATE chai (might trigger a lot of people, but it tastes like cardboard to me for some reason).

Every time I get stumbled by coffee aroma around me, it immediately reminds me of her voice. 

Ok enough about my weaknesses. Now give me solutions.

Can I ask my crush to "casually" join me for a cup of coffee after 6-7 interactions? Will it sound too despo? What if it gets too late if I wait?

Data engineer

I have lost all the trust and dont even trust my shadow  anymore.

But then,
Human relationships thrive on trust.
Its forms the fulcrum of every bond.


This puts me in a difficult situation where I cant offer trust but seek a deeper and lost lasting connection

I just feel that people leave me.
Most of them did,
When I hit my low.

But as they say,
The comeback has to be stronger than the setback. I am moving towards bigger things in life and am still haunted by this fear of not being able to connect.

Crippling Trust Issues : Why cant I connect with fellow humans?

Is it difficult to live without a partner or find the right one, especially when you are introverted, at the age of 29?

Singelhood

Stay single till you find a right match, not having a partner may make you feel lonely sometimes but having a bad one will become nightmare.

Technical Specialist

I think we all face this, how do you deal with relatives who always try to put you down in every possible way, constantly compare salary, foreign tour, abroad jobs, new car, new home, education institute, vacations , like they are the people who feel happy by making someone hurt or feel bad about themselves. I can't have a comeback because my parents just tell me to bear them for the time being. But sometimes it just piles up and I feel like thrashing them like hulk.

Someone please help me with this. Help me to deal with this, hulk toh ban nahi paunga.

How to deal with taunts of relatives?

Welcome to Indian Startups's Private Community

I earn a decent living ~32LPA as a Software Engineer. I really enjoy my work and it is always a joy working with smart people around you. 

I sometimes wonder if I didn't exist would it matter in the world. At work, I come up with great ideas and insights which my peers appreciate and support, but there hasn't been one thing that they took seriously and moved ahead with. 

My peers around me constantly belittle me, some unprofessional jokes about my competence and intellect, even though I am actually good at what I do and more. 

The backhanded compliments and sarcastic replies in front of other people in my company makes me sad beyond belief. It is almost like I give so much of time to this company and although everyone cares about the work I do but no one cares about me. 

My colleagues constantly try to one-up themselves by bullying juniors and laughing in their glass-walled conference walls. 

Incidents like these make me want to give up on work. I think the mix of giving all of myself at work(intensity and long hours), constant berating on my competence and the time I spend away from my family and "real" friends(not these fake work colleagues) makes me depressed as fuck. 

I am now understanding that you can never be happy in life because you can never have all that you want. You will give up something for the other. You think making more money will make you happier but you will just end up losing your sanity.

You can never be happy

Hang in there, friend. I can assure you that you can find happiness in the workplace. What you're experiencing is common but definitely not the norm. There are many places out there where people are decent and you wouldn't be treated so pathetically. I hope you find the opportunity to move out and cut yourself off from the vile people at your present employer.

How can I reach out to my office crush any suggestions girls?how to approach 😐

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