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Fedup with dating apps.

I have recently shifted to mumbai. Thought of finding love through dating apps. So, I created Tinder profile and taken platinum subscription on the platform. Swiped many profiles. 1st match I got in mumbai after using boost feature on the app. The match I got from profile was not verified. So I chatted for a day and decided to meet. When you are chatting with girl 1st time. Everything girl says you believe and do. She told that she will meet and waited for 2 hrs hasn't got a reply. I wasted my duty hours in search of love. Then I continued to chat and 3rd day I dared to meet. She is so, specific on Andheri West location. Says some story as new to city don't know. Meet there 1st time. After meeting and my friend went there a mall. After reaching a mall she specifically send a location. It's somewhat uncomfortable for guys itself in mumbai to go there in Galli in night time. I insisted her to reach a public space like mall but she is so specific to reach a specific location. Its anyhow a scam . If you find anything like Andheri West/ Andheri East all are scamstars they don't meet just to loot a person who reachs that location. Then I have got a match from verified profile. This girl also saying to meet at same location and same area. I have blocked both the profiles. After that an unverified match came to my profile. He directly sent WhatsApp link. After chatting with that a Chinese girl just updates her messages with broadcast messages and sells her ebay networking business through whatsapp. I feel mostly malasian numbers chatting through whatsapp are scammers with some marketing agenda. Mostly tinder is for paid hookups and scammers. After that I started using Jeevansathi app in mumbai. Here a profile looked genuine and had a journey through whatsapp for 11 days. On first 2 days I felt like almost every likes and dislikes matches with her. I was in cloud9 and got my soulmate in my life. But the real thing started when I asked for voice call she ignored . Then after a day I got a what's app call with female voice. A person who hears female voice and speaks in a possessive tone with me. I thought she is a wife material as per insta videos a person who cares about your finances and discuss pre marriage likes and dislikes. I just believed and continued for next 7 days.. She had asked all the financial details about savings, and after marriage kids future corpus building.I really respected her dream and vision. I asked video call confirmation for profile genunity. She said a story that she had a dream of first meet to be life long remembered meet and showcased in video and show to kids how we met.she wants to connect emotionally first. So I asked her I want identity confirmation. Then she said I will give. Anything I ask for 2nd time she gets angry. One day she shared some identity proof matching profile picture and name. After that I shared mine after a night gap. She has shown fire in the conversation. I really feared by the way she dealt. Next day she was not the way you used to be. After this trust issues sorted slightly. I told her I am trusting you blindly. But she would everytime say she is busy and only she would chat in messages without calls and video calls . Still I continued conversation with her 10 days. I discussed same with other mumbaite regarding this behaviour as these all are new to me. She straight away said it's fake. I told her it might be potential match. She replied πŸ˜‚LOLπŸ˜‚. She said ladka baat kr rha hoga koi ladki apna document proof (aadhar card) nhi bhejti. It's fake. As she only chats, no voice calls & video calls. Then Mai pucha kyu yeh log mere saath timepass kr rhe hai. She said to look like genuine. "FAKE IT TULL YOU MAKE IT" is the marketing techniques folloed currently in today's market. On 11th day I asked to send live location. She hasn't sent yet. This confirmation is that she is fake. The Gf experience she gave is some what memorable as I was blushing whole day while chatting. One more she chats 11:30 Am morning and says she is busy with meetings. Finally pyaar andha hota hai. Aur pyaar kliye ladka kuch bi krne kliye tayyar hai.

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