How do you figure out if someone is genuinely in or using you for rebound ?
Sometimes people use certain people for the transient phase to heal themselves and then move one once they are able to rediscover themselves. While this may not be purely intentional at times, this does leave a sense of worthlessness in the other person's soul. And then the person feels "used" and breaks other people's heart and the cycle continues. It can become a vicious loop if things are not clearly communicated.
LooseGoose
Stealth
a month ago
Consider the other side of the same coin. Both of you spent some time together and weren't lonely, the person healed and was able to move on in life with your help. That's rare to find these days, truly unconditional love. Such partners are usually grateful for it and use it as a benchmark for future partners and relationships.
StanleyHudson
Stealth
a month ago
I am done healing people
LooseGoose
Stealth
a month ago
Part of relationships is accepting the brutal reality that the other person can leave at any point. If you can't accept that, then best not to engage with people at all. There's no guarantee anyone will stay in your life beyond a certain point.
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If you are a girl... Refuse him sex and cuddles....
If you are a guy.... Don't pay for her and don't give her a shoulder to cry whenever she wants.....
Everything will get sorted
StanleyHudson
Stealth
a month ago
Pretty shallow tbh
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EasyChill
Stealth
a month ago
First, I don’t think this is how it works. Second, it’s a very ‘victim’ centric mindset. Third, stop thinking people you spoke about wouldn’t have managed life without you because they clearly have.
The fact that a person is choosing to leave also means that they don’t think of you and the relationship the way you do. Introspection maybe?
If this has happened to you multiple times, maybe you’re the one that can’t see signs and patterns. You’re waiting for every opportunity to play the nice guy and help someone feel better with an unsaid expectation of that relationship becoming more than what it is. Why?
Simple hai bro. Communicate at every step. Try asking directly or ask things which help you understand the state of mind and stability of the other person better. No point becoming Uday Chopra from Dhoom or in general either.
Feel bad because somehow you haven’t yet met the right person or set of people. But it’s also exciting to know there’s a ton of happiness waiting ahead for you. The wait and all bad stints maybe painful but so much worth the real love that’s coming your way!
StanleyHudson
Stealth
a month ago
It has only happened once
EasyChill
Stealth
a month ago
Ek baar toh sabhka hi kat taa hai yaar 😂
From my exp, I feel they only talk or connect with you when they need and ignore when you need.
Bittergourd
Stealth
a month ago
If a person is genuinely into you then he or she will listen you and understands the depth of your emotions rather than only faking the words .will work on emotional establishment with you, putting their eyesball on everything related to you.
Not only for saying that I'm gonna do this that, I'm making efforts so on.
The things will happens automatically and universally.
True lovers always make sure to maintain smile onto your face with their Loyality understanding giving natures and make sure both individuals have same values for each others.
I have seen many fake peoples who tries to be into you but in reality they just relaxing their emotional burden with talking to someone.
Think rationally firstly observe the each behaviour,act ,react,what person genuinely wants from you rather saying words.
Then you will self get it .
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