A friend of mine was dating a girl, convinced his parents to offer marriage. But girl chickened out last minute, married one her father had chosen. This really fucked him up, he was determined to get married anyhow, whom didn't matter. 1 Yr later, found a girl parents found, got pregnant before first anniversary. Over 3 years, their marriage has seen divorce, domestic violence and 5 star hotel celebrations (oscillated to extremes of good and bad)
I'm seeing another such case. Office colleagues were dating, he proposed marriage, she declined. He said stuff that shouldn't have been said, she threatened POSH (did not complain officially) 2 months later, he has found someone to marry through arrange marriage route
Break ups are bad, but half of the problem were you. Instead of working on that, people take it on ego
People often misunderstand the whole concept of marriage. It's not about healing emotional wounds from a previous relationship or sexual needs or societal pressure one has but requires a genuine connection - a deeply rooted one.
One has to understand that it's about finding your true partner for life. You will spend the next 30-40 years with the same person. Disagreements would happen, sex would dry up, and priorities would change. Are you still willing to tolerate each other not out of some obligation or compulsion but out of love, mutual respect, and understanding?
It's the most important decision of someone's life and as they say about decisions - Do not take one when you are emotional or angry. Do not take one in haste. Always pause and reflect.
Agree. Something better than nothing kinda cases. I believe sorting oneself out after a relationship before entering a new one is better choice than to hurry.
I met a guy on jeevansathi, things happened and I fell in love with that person. It was a strong feeling. He felt for me too.
But his family declined because of the geographical factors.
He got married to someone else.
I was so hurt, even i wanted to get married anyhow, doesn't matter who. The prospect that were not on my list, I used to force my parents to go after them and get my shadi fix.
We used to talk even after his marriage.( I know this was wrong)
2 months after his marriage, I made a new profile on shadi.com, met a guy, at that time that was my rebound. Shifted in Live-in with him in just a month.
Things happened, he got to know I am cheating on him. And sp much drama happened.
In all the process, I realized, I never knew the meaning of love.
The guy whom I met as a rebound is my husband now!.and with my every stance, I want to spend All my life with him.
So, as long as you know that you will survive in any situation with the person, happily you are good.
I mean aure there will be ups and downs, but what matters is the person who is besides you despite everything.
People who use others as a temporary support / punchbag deserve a special place in hell.
Dont get me wrong, I am a guy who strongly believes in love but has 0 hopes from others at this point as at the end of the day, everyone leaves. This voided feeling makes people despo and they end up making terrible decisions.
Marriages with love, often fail.
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