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I always judged this grumpy guy. Now I am him

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I always judged this grumpy guy. Now I am him- Grapevine

This is basically a question about whether you guys always judge people around you like in any place you have been (office, parties,parks etc) and does any of their behaviour, personality, clothing, appearance (good or bad) stuck to your subconscious mind. And does this thing that went into your mind about so and so person stop you from talking to them or they talking (initiated by them) to you or maybe from you becoming friends with them.

And since you all are adults has this behaviour changed over the years as you are growing in age. Would love to know your perspectives on this topic. Thanks!!.

Do you always judge people?

Software Developer

Class clown before, funny colleague now

Dating has become the norm for relationships today, but many don't realize that it's a relatively recent development, prevalent in Western society for only about a century, and it's already causing societal issues.

Previously, Indian arranged marriages were standard (different from forced marriages). Families would arrange meetings between their daughters and another family's sons. If they liked each other, they would soon plan the wedding, marry, have sex, and start families.

Today, individuals are left to find their own partners. If you don't find someone in high school, university, or work, your chances of finding a partner diminish. There's also less incentive for marriage, as sex no longer requires marriage or even dating, leading to more people pursuing sex directly. This has created a skewed dynamic where fewer men pursue women due to competition, turning to porn instead, while women face exploitation by men who have abundant choices.

Ultimately, near 28-30 both genders rush to the arranged marriage system to get them a partner while having their feet dipped on dating apps.

In the US,
This has lead to decreased marriage rates and, consequently, lower birth rates since most births occur within marriages. A decline in families results in a decreased population, putting more pressure on younger generations to support an aging population. Western nations, therefore, rely heavily on immigration, causing additional challenges. Increased single motherhood also correlates with higher crime rates, drug use, loneliness, mental health issues, and suicides

P.S. I'm young and dating too. Just thoughts for a conversation on what the implications of dating for us as a society could be.

Dating has failed Americans, now it will fail Indians too

Your description of arranged marriages is incorrect. You are given the option that if they liked each other get got married - which was not the case in the last generation. Often times the meetings was just formality, and my own mother met father on the day of their engagement. So nope, they didn’t have the choice to see if they liked each other, their parents made that decision for them. 
  
 Now take that into today’s scenario, how many people in this generation will willingly marry someone their parents has chosen, without any say in it? None. Doesn’t matter what their income is. You yourself are dating.. why? You can ask your parents to find someone for you, if you believe their judgment. The issue is that we don’t, and people avoid admitting that cos they don’t wanna be seen as someone who disagrees with their parents. 
  
 People are free to do what they like, arrange, love, dating, single, unmarried, adoption with marriage. Literally their choice. Nothing is ruining anything, in fact the recent situation in our country, where there are no laws upheld for rich, unemployed where 40% IITians aren’t placed, religious division - are more of a concern than a person’s personal choice. My 2 cents 🙌🏻

Senior Designer

Product Manager

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

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Enterprise

Write about a time you made someone feel very nice. Hopefully it can be a collection of ideas that others can take forward. If somehow a few people do something nice as a result, that would be powerful.

To start with an example: Bought a laptop for my grandfather because he wanted to continue working post 60. Helped him learn Excel, Gmail, Chrome browsing over many days. He really picked it up, and works as a consultant for new companies in the industry he worked all his life.

Good people of Grapevine: What's the nicest thing you've done for someone? (family/friends/a stranger) 🍀

You know its the small things that you do everyday that matter - giving your staff an off when they ask and not cutting their pay, feeding stray animals, quietly paying the bill when you know the other person is struggling financially, not haggling with street vendors for 100rs (when you’re paying 800rs to eat popcorn in PVR), changing the topic of conversation when you realise someone is feeling uncomfortable yet cannot say in front of others… we all need high empathy skills 🙏🏻

Corporate Strategist

Im turning into my dad

It's been some time since I received some kindness from people. The last time I heard some kind words or got a kind gesture was very long ago. Today, whoever I interact with behaves absurdly without any compassion. The shopkeepers won't talk politely if asked about a product, the house owners will talk rudely and make random rules any day, people won't smile on the metro, in restaurants they will shout on the waiters and the list goes on. I am not even bringing up autowalas and taxiwalas. What does it take to show some compassion? How much does it take to compromise a little bit so that other person feels good about this world? Why does everyone want to just rip other off? 😞

What happened to the world?

I have shifted from banglore to my hometown in rajasthan and its lovely here. Greet everyone with ram ram /radhe radhe and people smile back greet back, its superb. I was missing this element in banglore

Software Engineer

What is one of basic things you realised too late?

People don't talk to you when you are alone, they only talk to you when they are alone.

Founder

Look at this 60y old man 😱

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

Context: I am a software engineer with 4 years of experience.

Everytime I work with a bunch of engineers (Especially Indian Startups). Most of them are workaholics.

They are just working for some company full-time. They are interested in learning more about technology, making jokes about technology, following technology news, etc. 

That is it. 

No social life. (Especially after Covid). No skills in any other part of life.

Their comfort zone is so small that they have developed a lifestyle of working, sleeping & watching something on laptops and that's it.

They make an excellent salary but don't do anything else. 

Every time I meet a 35-40-year-old software engineer, it is just a physically unfit guy with an arranged marriage who is boring as a brick.

Are most Software Engineers boring outside work?

I am in my late 20s and I feel attacked. Thank you for striking the right chord 
  
 I've come to realize that, like many software engineers, I've found myself navigating the monotony of an 8-hour job, often feeling isolated from my office peers. It can be challenging when people hesitate to open up, but the reasons for this became clear. 
  
 There are two key aspects at play: a minimal social life and prioritizing work. These factors are interconnected. In late 20s, the circle of friends tends to shrink, and individuals are busy setting up their own lives, leading to growing distances. With limited time for each other, it's easy to become engrossed in work life. I didn't anticipate that making friends would become a challenge, and I acknowledge this as a personal objective (read OKR) for myself. Despite being an extrovert, reinitiating the trust and friendship path can be difficult. 
  
 To address this, I've proactively connected with people, stepped out of my comfort zone, and initiated new activities. It's a challenging process, and sometimes it feels like I'm overdoing it, but the effort is rewarding. Engaging in activities beyond my job role, such as joining a gym or participating in public discussions, has been beneficial. I've also reduced my time on social media, realizing that platforms like Instagram reels consume a significant portion of my time. 
  
 I'd like to urge understanding for people in their late thirties. Having once criticized the habits of those in their late twenties when I was in my early twenties, I now comprehend the challenges of their situation. Unexpectedly, I find joy in shopping for groceries and organizing them neatly. It's all about priorities, and embracing change has made a significant positive impact in my life.

Adulthood 🫡

Product Designer

Account Executive

https://x.com/ishansharma7390/status/1701197822589092036?s=46&t=LufwJIK9NxElwsQegazeMw

Ishan Gyaan C***o Sharma

Data engineer

I was on a flight where a girl sits next to me, She has an iPhone and Gucci shawl. At first it was like yeah she is rich, but then I noticed her boat earbuds(for 1999..). Now I am not judging but yeah. 

Just leaving it here.

Just saying....

I’m sure all of us are above average at at least one thing. It could range from making a mean Maggi to playing an instrument to making new friends to flirting to anything else. What’s yours? 

I like researching in depth about financial products and have a good working knowledge of common topics such as tax, mutual funds, insurance. 😊

What’s your superpower?

I allegedly have a photographic memory that amazes and creeps my peers simultaneously.  
  
 Downside? 
 Can't sleep most of time as I have HD recordings of all my regrets and rejects. Ignorance is a bliss.

Growth Manager

If you're guilty of this, please stop. It helps no one.

Iykyk

Generalist

The award for the most disgusting person goes to..

Bro farts in his ego balloon to keep it inflated

Try out the test in case you haven't.(it is not exactly scientific but it is super fun) What are some of your personality types? I am an ENTJ.

Also, how do you guys deal with the negative attributes of your personality? I feel that the more stress I am under the better I get at the expense of becoming more aggressive and irrational. ( I once bought a second hand Royal Enfield Interceptor 650 without even knowing how to ride a bike because this girl I liked then said that I couldn't pull off that vibe)

Now I have a mental coach to help me through the wild wild west of being me. and yes, I sold that bike soon after.

Only 10 minutes to get a “freakishly accurate” description of who you are and why you do things the way you do.

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Instagram drives fomo have created epidemic of status driven consumption like ₹2500 for a one hour class of pottery, strawberry picking for Rs. 2000.

What happened to free activities like playing morning cricket or enjoying IPL finale with your best friends / family . 

Bangalore economy is running on fomo

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Finally someone said it 🙏  
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Just trying to understand which influencer do you love and why? Could be an artist/entertainer/knowledge influencer on any social media platform.

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