Exactly, isiliye main koi expectation rakhta hi nhi 🥲

Wo theek hai, but you still need to try things. That's when you get pleasantly surprised (sometimes).

Generalist

Software Developer

Hope is what keeps people alive and they look for the next day. It is exactly what keeps us going and get us started with our day.  Accepting reality is different. These 2 are different responses to situations but it should be seen that hope doesn’t become a source of denial.

this journalist should first accept reality that he isn’t a good journalist. So many flawed economic concepts he puts forth 🤦🏻‍♀️

Chartered accountant 

Exactly, to hope is to live in delusion. There's a very fine line between the two that most people miss. It's easy to mix the two.

Best advice ever. Stayed in two roles in two different companies simply holding out hope. Currently stuck in second of these. Won’t happen ever again.

System Engineer

Low expectations actually help increase life satisfaction imo

Low expectations actually help increase life satisfaction imo- Grapevine

Welcome to Office Gossip's Private Community

Disclaimer: I have nothing against high earners in this group who are doing exceptionally well and earning big bucks at young age. You have my admiration. 

Target audience of this post: Everyone else who is doing okay in their job, earning an average salary for their age. 

Why have I posted it?: To not feel I am the only one who is a normal regular person doing just average in his life in this hyper competitive rat race. 

My thoughts: I clearly remember the moment, it was April 2007, I had barely completed the board exams of class 10th and joined class 11th. It was my first week into class 11th when a fine looking gentleman walked into our class to make us think of our future career path. He was from a coaching institute for IIT JEE and AIEEE. He told us about all the high salary packages at these premier institutes. I excitedly told my parents about it. 

Like any middle class parents, they dreamt of their son cracking the exam and securing good placements from IITs/NITs. They enrolled me in coaching. I worked hard for those 2 years, 11th and 12th. But what was harder was the constant stress and pressure I was put in, both intentionally and unintentionally. These ideas that 'I must crack JEE to have a good future', 'if you don't get through JEE then you are a waste' etc, were hammered into my mind day in and day out. 

I didn't crack JEE but got into a well reputed private engineering college of India.. Fast forward 4 years, did my MBA from  tier 2 college only to join a service company at salary that would be considered too low for most of the folks here who compare salary like a plague. Recently joined a product company with good jump. Realised all that pressure I was put under in high school wasn't necessary. I am doing ok in life. 

 I think it's okay to be earning an average salary, everyone of us is on his own journey of growth and comparing ourselves on basis of packages seems myopic

Too much gyaan? Getting a perspective on late Saturday night!!!

It's okay to be normal and ordinary

Product Manager

I think mine was helping metro travelers out with directions, many newbies and even locals find it confusing and need help with stations and where to change metros.

When was the last time you did a random act of kindness for a stranger?

Reality > Expectations

Growth Manager

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Have you ever got the feeling that you can do a lot more out of the current role you are in, and that so being inside your current org.

For instance, say you are a senior eng who definitely can have a linear growth in engineering, but that doesn’t feel like enough.

And if there was, say, a role (a more responsible and accountable one) which needs strong interpersonal skills too besides engineering, where you feel like you would really thrive. 

If yes, has anyone of you have broken out of this by doing certain thing(s) and has been successful in it?

If yes do tell.

Do you feel like you can do more?

Let me explain, managers or senior folks who reply/slack/email or do any form of communication outside working hours and especially over weekends… I hate it. If u do it without the counter party explicitly expressing such urgency then you are way worse. 

Just because their current lifestyle or situation allows them to do it… They do it without a second thought. They do not realize that this sets the benchmark or expectations for others who may not be able or like to do same. 

You might say they’re not coercing others to do it then what’s the harm? Well this little thing is what sets the chain reaction to unhealthy WLB. The stakeholders or their heads get the wrong impression and create unhealthy expectation from others. This is just a rant and if u are such a person… Stop doing it without thinking of its unintended consequences.

Hate can do attitude

Software Engineer

I work with Swiggy and as many of you already know the culture has become extremely toxic in Swiggy. Expectations of working 12-16 hours per day, be available on weekends, play dirty politics, blame other to save yourself , get really really aggressive, all of this with a constant fear of losing your job. The leaders are saying this culture change is required to achieve high growth targets for IPO.  They say a culture like this is required to raise the bar & keep people on their toes. But looking at Byjus it appears that this may help in the short run but eventually things fall apart. Employees are human resources not machines. But these toxic leaders don’t really care, as there is always some people available to replace the previous lot who left due to the toxicity. I really hope the leadership of companies like Swiggy open their eyes & realise this before it’s too late for their business. 

And people who are considering to join Swiggy. BEWARE. This isn’t the place it used to be. People have left within 1-2 months because of this culture. And nearly EVERYONE is looking out to switch.

Do extreme toxicity & inhuman working hours actually deliver growth?

Product Marketing Manager

Is the garage getting closed? Just received one survey: how would you feel if the cred garage is closed? Disappointed, somewhat disappointed and '''don't remember the 3rd option'''

cred garage

Equity research

I’m decently pally with my coworkers but there’s no way I’m pally (or rude) enough to ask them their salary but I’m really curious to know bcz my company is not on glassdoor and I have no way of knowing if I’m being paid at par or generally what the pay scale for different roles looks like. What can I possibly do?

Is there any polite way to ask your coworkers’ salary?

From my experience, I see 7 out of 10 desi people working with people in the US suck at English, some despite living there for 5, 6, 7 years or even more.

 And the reason I call them mediocre is they don’t even realize how bad they are at English. They take their non-native English speaking background as an entitlement to suck at English.

What irks me more is desi people communicate with their clients & counterparts in the US but still don’t realize the need for polishing their English language skills.

“English is not my native language but I will work with native English speakers, and suck at English.” How is this fair?

What’s your experience like?

Desi folks working with people in the US suck at English! Why?

Software architect

Was thinking about our lives. Ever since you are in school, you have something to look forward to. When you’re in 1st grade, you know next year it’s 2nd grade and so on till you finish your undergrad.

Suddenly, you could be everything or nothing at the same time.

Those who are good at this game of eternal growth end up grinding their lives away in the PCM -> Engg -> B-School -> Consulting hell loop.

Weirdly, the determinism in growth fades away suddenly and you see people finally pursuing diverse fields.

Then, the realisation kicks in. You’ve been conditioned to chase eternal growth. That is what brings meaning to you in every part of your life. Today has to be better than your yesterday, or else it feels like you’ve failed.

I wonder how sustainable that is but till then we will continue to throw our youth away. 

My 2 cents: You have a brief moment in history. Don’t spend your 10 years of prime in doing things that don’t bring you any joy. Don’t make the same mistakes all of us make chasing joys because others are chasing them.

Find your own meaning to this eternal growth.

Is life a race for eternal growth?

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I have observed this( at least with my self) that whatever goals you set for your self ( X salary, Y net worth etc etc.) once you're there it becomes ordinary extremely fast and it starts feeling normal again and on you go towards the next milestone.
I was wondering when does this end? Do any of you have reached a point where you don't have the lust for more? You're happy with what you have? 
Did you do something actively to make that mindset? Or were you a "satisfied with what you have" kind of a person all your life?

How do you fight the consistent dissatisfaction?

Backend engineer

Is FIRE the latest obsession because people have no other passion in life? Is it because they have aced school, college, High package(due to recent surge in salaries) and now don't know what is the next mission in life?

One argument is that they want freedom to do great things, but as I see the drive to do great things comes when people are put in constraints and difficulties. Not when they have freedom..

Why is everybody chasing FIRE?

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Our team has hired a new PM who is a huge micro manager. We don't really have a sprint planning so all the tasks are decided based on availability. Tasks that do come from him are of unrealistic deadline and most of them need to be done by EOD even if the task comes in at 7pm. Dude just mentally skips the time needed for testing and other processes. Also constant pings regarding the status updates is really frustrating. This is one of those bad PM/Managers meme cone true. I would have quit if I was not in a bond until next year July. Need some tips on how to survive this asswipe for the next 9-10 months without being under constant stress and going into severe depression.

Surviving unrealistic expectations

you don't want to change your current life with someone, you look to or aspire to. Huh.....what?  Assumption: Given the chance to exchange life with anyone in the world.

Why would you still choose yourself? 
Or you will exchange with someone? Who and Why?  

Interesting thought, right? Please think for a while, introspect wisely. 

(Personally, I look to and aspire a few but I cannot/won't  exchange with anyone. WTF is wrong with me with my miserable life. Trust me, I have a miserable life, enough to have rice daily, and already failed at what I always wanted to be since sixth grade. Now, I am just trying to do what I am good at and struggling with, frustrating on a daily basis.)

Aren't you the most happy person if;

Solution architect

Do you know the reason for getting up everyday and working? Have you found why you wanna do what you wanna do?

Examples from TV series -
Naruto wanted to be Hokage because he wanted everyone to see him, acknowledge that he exists and he is someone important.

Mike Ross in Suits wanted to be lawyer to help people because of what happened with his parents

Patrick Jane in Mentalist was a CBI consultant because he wanted to find killer of his wife and Daughter

Sheldon cooper pursued physics bcoz it made sense to him and he wanted to win a Nobel

I can only quote such examples as I haven't found real life people who have any reasons for why they do what they do apart from the reason of making money.
Even here, I find most posts about making money/salary discussions. I have rarely found any post which talks about something meaningful other than money.

Disclaimer- I am not saying money isn't a good enough reason. I am trying to figure out if someone has reasons other than money. 

Would like to hear why they chose the field they chose!

Have you figured out your reason for doing what you do?

Consultant

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..unless either of the two mess up insanely bad

We'll probably get to the #3 spot if things go well. But it seems impossible that we'll ever go beyond that.

Internal reasons that are very hard to fix:-

(1) Our population TFR fell below standard replacement rate in 2023. This means we will not be able to follow the same economic growth trajectory required to reach developed status before population stagnation or declination. This is not a death knell but definitely very VERY bad news.

(2) Our blue-collar workforce skill levels are not only subpar but are slowly falling behind the world standards every year. Much of our youth aim to join government orgs like the Army or the Railways which train for the job later, not before. Despite a national shortage of skilled plumbers, electricians etc, our vocational training orgs have been unsuccessful in attracting people towards these careers as well as churning out skilled workers.

(3) Our bureaucratic environment is extremely slow with pathetic turnaround times on initiatives. This is not government specific and has always been the case so it seems like this will always be. This is not even a problem unique to India as many other countries have been facing this too but it is still a factor that negatively impacts our growth massively.

I wish it was just internal reasons but a large part of it also comes down to both China and US being aggressively great at ensuring their successes:-

(1) Chinese manufacturing seems nearly impossible to overcome - not just for India but also for the US. Yes, we might win over some industries and companies like the US, Vietnam, Thailand etc. have been doing but the amount of autocratic control in China allows them to crush competition easily. Case in point - the recent tussle between India and China on solar manufacturing which China won by autocratically lowering their prices.

(2) If de-dollarisation succeeds, it will benefit China the most because (contd. in comments)

Controversial: India will never overtake China or US

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I've seen a glaring issue with DS in India: desis don't genuinely want real insights. The boss only want insights that agree with his gut feeling. I always thought that we had to uncover truths.

The moment your analysis contradicts the boss's intuition, your work is dismissed. It’s disappointing as fuck. Unless your product is uniquely DS/ML/AI-led, you are mostly a yes-man, bending data to fit a narrative that keeps the management comfortable. The truth? They don't want innovation or disruption; they want affirmation of their outdated ideas.

This attitude fucks up creativity and growth. How can I progress when data is manipulated to pacify your ego. The truth is that ego leads to poor decision-making and business failures.

The problem with Data Science in India 🇮🇳

Analyst

I have given the 2nd round of interview for Amex which is supposedly last one i guess.. it's been a week now there's no update.. once tried reaching hr through text she didn't respond not picked up the call.. 

should i take this as no? Is it fair to assume that she saw the text and obviously would have recognised me being the candidate, thus it's implicitly a no? 

In a limbo due to this as another discussion is in final stages🤐🤐

AmEx Interview process

Program Manager

Generally speaking, I'm a little less happier than I was 5-6 years back. Is this the case with you folks too? Or am I overthinking/getting depressed?

Why has suddenly everything around us started being negative

I have all the respect for those who start their own business. But frankly that kinda advice is just so tone deaf and lazy when you are job hunting.

For starters business is not meant for everyone, you need to have an aptitude for it. More than that you need to have an ecosystem in place. Business means having to bear losses, running after clients for pending payments, dealing with crazy tax laws and regulations. Unless you are equipped to handle all this, you cant survive. There is a reason certain communities in India dominate business.

And those who quote Steve Jobs, Bill Gates at the drop of a hat, don't know that these guys had a good support system in place that pushed them. 

But basically I hate the way people aspiring for a regular salaried job or those having one are looked down upon. This was especially so during the startup boom. Why don't people get it that many just want a regular salaried job? And those businessmen, entrepreneurs, startup founders still need the regular salaried folks, corporate drones to run their companies.

Most just want a regular job, work for a fixed amount of time, go home and relax. Lack of ambition?  Yes.  Is that a bad thing? No not really.

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