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Hi Folks I'm graduated in 2023 from a Tier 3 College with 7LPA at a startup I'm working here in automation but framework is company built and I'm feeling like I'm learning nothing I want to switch to dev But these DSA and everything scare me I'm good to nothing And I don't see a scope in Quality Engineering And I have a student loan to pay of its of sum around 8 Lakhs I want to switch to a high paying job Because I live with my family I pay rent 15k Sister takes care of groceries and stuff I need high pay job but I feel I'm good to no where What should I do please, tell me how to handle stuff Sometimes I panic and cry alone Need your suggestion please will matter a lot to me 🙏

Feeling worried all the time I am 28 year old, unmarried and staying at Bangalore working at Cognizant Problems in my life 1. I am fighting with my own parents because I love a guy from different religion. He is my school mate and very good person. We both are at IT firm. He earns 38LPA and I earn 16LPA. Financially we are good and we both have very good understanding of each other. 2. I have health issues like pcod , thyroid, gas trouble and digestion issues. Constantly taking tablets and feeling exhausted all the time. 3. I have very toxic work culture at office. My manager literally forces us to work like hell. She doesn't concern about our health issues and treats like robots. I am always thinking about work and getting anxiety issues. Currently I feel like taking break from everything and focus on myself but money is also important because i want to financially independent. My brain is constantly worried thinking about future like work, health and money. Nothing really helps me and I feel worried all the time.

was neglecting my mental health for long time...due to unrealistic deadlines and pressure today got a panic attack at work felt light headed and almost passed out.. currently i am not having any offer in hand so should i quit?.. don't want to my physical health to deteriorate more but i am really confused..not having any responsibility as such..having around 5 6 months corpus and can shift to my home and save more but still that uncertainty and fear is there which is making me miserable day by day

29 M, IT professional in Bangalore earning around 65k/month. My parents are looking for girl(non-working) for my marriage later this year.(already knows girls family). But I am worried about all the expenses post-marriage as Bangalore is already a costly city and I will only be sole-earner. Need your honest advices here on how to manage expenses or look for a working partner.

In relationship with her for almost 4 years. Although relationship is kind of toxic but there're lot of emotional memories. She's bit of abusive when in anger and on the other hand I also made lot of mistake by giving hope & all. It becomes kind of hard for me to handle her anger. Now I trying to fix things up for our future. I tried connecting with lot of my friends & psychologist, but didn't get balanced solution. By balanced solution, I mean both of us should not suffer unfairly and live life peacefully. Both of us come from lower middle class family and both approaching 30. she's not working. 1. I have few responsibility for my family as well. So, one of my friend suggested "to do breakup and not continue because of these family responsibility. If I go with her, then in the end I have to sacrifice one thing in my life (sacrifice means not good future), either my family, her or my career. and not being true to my family responsibilities in future will give me more guilt than breaking up with her. and they told It'll become hard for me with family guilt. In chess, sometime you have to sacrifice queen to win. Also, they asked me to read geeta that duty comes first than anything else. and family didn't make any wrong and deserve the best in future." 2. My judgement around this is kind of messedup right now. Although i understand the logic part of it and completely agree with this. but Emotional part of this is kind of making me feel guilt. that i did very wrong to someone. and Even i understand that it'll be hard/impossible for me carry all these burden in future, still I think lets go with her just that I dont want her to suffer things. 3. Above 2 solution feels very biased to me. In both solution, one of us have to suffer badly. Posting here to get your solution. I know both type of people exist here. Someone will feel more for her and other will prefer family. for more context - https://grapevine.in/post/98de98e6-d9fb-48ea-90ce-b05c82214362

Almost 12 years experience Current ctc 50+ Savings liquid around - 10L Was working part of Wells. Got PIPed Quit because of office politics. Got three comparable salaries at three startups in Bangalore Joined one with 5% paycut because of a promised better work life blalance and almost remote opportunities (1 day a week office) Now for last 2 months working 15-16 hours a day with constant work Asshl manager asking to work and complete every jira at night 9 o clock scrum everyday Last 2 weeks we are working both the weekends Having bad health issues. Started having chest pain.. dizziness Donno what to do?? Shall I take a break?? Please suggest as a friend/brother. What would you do if I were you??? Help.

I am working as a senior product manager in a fintech startup. I am under a lot of stress due to work pressure, continuous badgering from business and tech stakeholders and loneliness. I always think of going home but staying in stressful job mainly because I don't want to be jobless. I can only post my views here anonymously because I don't want to be seen as loser. Request members if they can provide their suggestions. PS : As far as my profile is concerned it's B tech + MBA from tier 1 college and 3 years of tech experience followed by 7 yrs into Product Management and living alone in Bangalore.

Hi everyone, So in the week, I’m chill in office but on the weekend , I’m completely lonely and I live near airport because office, and I don’t have enough money to afford a vehicle and the whole clothes washing drying takes up the whole Saturday cause living in a pg. I’m on the verge of crying every Saturday night and Sunday and felt like a dead person throughout. Sunday I’m coding cause looking for a job change and parents about to retire. So I’m looking for some trustworthy friends to help me grow and with whom I can be happy with. Would be grateful if someone help me in improving the quality of life. Thanks in advance

I am working atleast 12 hours daily for the past couple of months and now i feel this is taking a toll on my mental health. Increment was pathetic variable is slashed and I don’t see any light at the end of this tunnel. What should i do in such a situation. Any suggestions please. The fact that things have gotten so bad that i am now contemplating a change in career. IT sector seems good from outside with all the money and stuff but from inside its a dark dark place. I need some suggestions what should i do? Should i leave or continue to work hoping that things might get better after a certain point of time?

I know it's not a good platform to share a personal story but wanted to express myself. I am a software engineer with decent earnings working in Accenture and going to join Deloitte! My family environment is getting worse because of my father's drinking habit. We are not able have a normal topic with happy moment. Every-time I tried to have a discussion it gets into bad fight. I already had a pretty hard heart break and only option I have is family where I am not able to make things right. I am feeling as a failed as a child and not having any expectations from future. I am tired of toxic environment not sure till when I can handle this. I don't want to have any partner in my life as they will face things which I am facing. I suppose leaving life alone is good for me. Alone and happy. I know sharing this will not change anything. Just wanted to tell everyone keep your family first priority. Without family high paying job will also not give any satisfaction.🙂