Nothing is Good or Bad

Do you feel that evenings and nights are really depressing when you are lonely? By lonely, I mean that you don't have a partner or roommate to talk to (you can still have an active social life). I have an active social life and I talk to people in office, but most of my past friends and roommates got married and moved on. I don't really have any interest in marriage. The mornings and afternoon feel amazing even in weekends. But evenings feel depressing and sad. Anyone else feel this way?

I am a 29 YO single male. I earn decently well for my age. Lately I haven’t been feeling well. As in, life is just passing by and nothing brings me joy anymore - No PS5, No long drives, no movies or shows. Weekends are especially lonely. During weekdays, I make sure I go to my office everyday even though it’s hybrid, to avoid feeling lonely. I don’t have any female friends to talk about things deeply as most of those friends are now getting married. (you know how is it with us boys. It feels weird to share emotions or talk about life with the same sex somehow). Same for male friends. They are all getting married. Somehow, it just feels like I focused too much on my work and didn’t invest time in finding a mate at the right time. Now, on weekends, I just lay on my bed like a loser. I was never like this. I had so much drive to work, to explore, etc. But now it all seems pointless. Do you guys have any suggestions on what to do?

Is it okay to be alone rather than being with guys I don't like. College friends are the worst I have ever had.

I am 21 years old. I have good offers (20lac+) from good companies, but I am not happy. I always feel that something is missing in life, I don't know what and why I feel so. I tried to get in a relationship, but whenever I express this feeling, things get bad between both of us. I really want to love and get loved. I have been living my life alone for about 3 years now. I want to make friends, and I want to be in a relationship, but the last 3 years have not been nice to me because of which I don't like going out and having fun. I was in a depression and a workaholic nerd for the past years and feel that now I have got wired in such a way which is not letting me have fun and enjoy life. I find myself lonely. Whenever I don't have anything to work on, I get anxious, and I get this question, what am I doing with life. Maybe I am feeling lonely while writing this post and may sound little gone case. Open to your suggestions, do share your stories if you have been through this phase. Is it normal to feel like this?

I saw a friend tweet about how Bangalore is full of connected but lonely people jumping in to join every Meetup/WhatsApp group that becomes available. This is my problem with the meetup / conference culture. Meetup culture is all about optionality. You think you'll meet someone new who's cool. Someone who can help you build your network. You would rather join a meetup with 100 other strangers than build stronger connections with your friends. In life there are only a few people who really matter. People who you can call at 11 PM to rant about your workday. People who you know will be genuinely happy about your promotion. People you share screenshots from work with. It is not probably the 100 strangers in that Whatsapp group that you think of when you are having a health issue and want to share your fears. It also means lowering your ego, which I'm happy to do with my old friends. I'm always happy to ping them when I get the chance, and I'm the one asking them to call me. I'm the one who asks them to hang out with me. I used to think, "Why bother?" but then I realised that it doesn't matter who reaches out first. It is not about keeping a count. I realised it's for me! If I have a chat with a friend of mine who I have known for over 10 years, my mood improves immediately. Everyone is very busy. Everyone is stressed with their jobs and their personal lives. Some of them are married now. Some have children. But that's where you've got to work to keep connecting with the people who matter to you. Friendship is also about being vulnerable. True friendship is built on vulnerability. Being able to share your dreams, your failures and your demons with each other. While the meetup culture is all about bumping into people for 5 minutes to judge their worth and whether they are worth your time, my preference is for long 1-1s. Either on the phone or face to face. I am happy to meet just one person over the weekend and have hours of conversation about work, life or wha

I am someone who doesn't go out too much. What do you do and how do you guys spend your life in bangalore?

I am working hard on my myself Gym study work sleep Make sure everything is completed on time So that the schedule doesn't mess up But Why? I get a feeling of someone I need To tell everything how my day went Bhai PTA hai mai ugly hoon Theek hai Par yar ek limit hoti hai in thoughts k In my WorkSpace I make sure to keep professional bonds with my team Ghar aata hoon to Kayi bar phone ko dekhta hoon Na h koi call Message Bus office wala phone h hai Jo phone lagta hai PTA nhi ye sab kyu ho rha mere sath Akele marna likha hai Phir bhi dimaag ghumta h hai Dhere Dhere confidence peace self esteem Mar rahe hai These thoughts are winning ..... Mere Ghar par koi nhi hai Na h Bhai behen 1 dost hai wo busy rehta Kayi bar marne ka bhi man karta I close my eyes and cry sometimes Ek normal routine wala Banda is had tak emotionally har chuka hai Kya pap kiya hoga maine

Don't have any girlfriend but I feel the need to have someone to speak with say about the day but there is fear of heartbreak and risk of loss of interest quickly, but again night comes but again I remember that talking can lead to attachment and attachment is not good what to do guysssssss? Whom to speak with??

Not sure if this is true to its core, life depends on the people you spend time with,even if it is just few hours in a whole month. Thanks to the digital obsession and less socializing. But I always end up realising that I end up with the wrong people or surroundings. It just doesn't align at all and even though I give my best to get what I want so that I feel confident from inside on everyday basis,it fckin doesn't just happen. Guys let's be blunt on these,where have you ended up even though other things in life are well equipped.