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Some thoughts on faith and belief

Something’s been on my mind over the last few months – how we tiptoe around faith like it's taboo. Never got why. GV just seemed to be the right place to talk about this since I didn't want to get gaslighted elsewhere on social media and maybe we get more perspectives here. I grew up in a religious household, but not the stuffy, orthodox kind. My parents found joy in their beliefs without forcing them on others. Mom still joins her hands when we pass a church - it's adorable, really. We'd go to the temple a couple of times a week, and it was just... normal. Then college hit. Suddenly, faith was awkward af. Kept quiet about my beliefs, and it felt weird, like hiding part of me. I noticed this went both ways. My atheist friends were equally hesitant to open up about their non-belief. It's like we were all tiptoeing around this massive aspect of our lives. Now, after living in five countries, I've realized something big: faith isn't just personal, it's about community. These days, I'm more open. Not preachy, just me. I'll join a puja or chat about atheism, no big deal. Checking out local worship spots when I travel is eye-opening. When I was living in Thailand and felt homesick, there was this Gurudwara I used to visit - it was mind-blowing. People from everywhere, sharing a meal. No questions asked, just humans being bros. That's faith at its best - bringing people together, inspiring kindness across boundaries. Here's my take: Your faith (or lack of it) is your thing. But the community it creates? That's gold for everyone. I'm done hiding, but not here to convert anyone. Being faithful doesn't make me less smart or scientific. It's just part of me, like loving cricket or needing chai to function. Feeling weird about your beliefs? It's cool. No need to hide or apologize. Just don't be a jerk about it. Also, have learnt 1 thing in this journey - faith >>> religion. Faith whispers truths; religion shouts instructions.​​​​​​​​​​​ Btw the food at the langar was pretty bomb - here's a picture from 2018!

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"Beta, your room is always waiting for you." Mom's words echoed in my head as I lugged my suitcases up the familiar stairs of my childhood home. At 29, with a master's degree and five years of corporate experience under my belt, I never thought I'd be back here. Not like this, anyway. The decision to move back wasn't easy. My startup had failed spectacularly, taking my savings and self-esteem with it. Mumbai's sky-high rents suddenly seemed impossible. When Dad suggested I come home "just until you figure things out," it felt like both a lifeline and a step backwards. The first week was a strange mix of comfort and chaos. Mom's cooking was a welcome change from my diet of Swiggy/Zomato. But the luxury of home-cooked meals came with a side of "Why aren't you eating?", "You've become so thin!", and unsolicited advice on everything from my career to my love life. My old room, now Dad's "home office," was a time capsule of my teenage years. Faded cricket posters shared wall space with his collection of business books. At night, lying in my childhood bed, I'd stare at the glow-in-the-dark stars on the ceiling and wonder where I'd gone wrong. The hardest part was the loss of independence. Suddenly, I had to inform my parents if I was going out late. Dad would casually inquire about my job search over breakfast. Mom would remind me to make my bed, as if I hadn't been doing it myself for years. But amid the frustration, there were moments of unexpected joy. Like when Dad and I stayed up late discussing startup ideas, his eyes lighting up with an enthusiasm I'd forgotten he possessed. Or the afternoon I spent teaching Mom how to use Instagram, both of us laughing at the filters. Slowly, I started to see my parents not just as "Mom and Dad," but as individuals with their own dreams and quirks. I noticed the silver in Dad's hair, the new lines around Mom's eyes. When had they gotten older? Had I been too busy "adulting" to notice? There were adjustments on both sides. I learned to bite my tongue when Mom rearranged my carefully organized closet. They learned to knock before entering my room. We all learned the delicate dance of sharing space as adults. The turning point came three months in. I landed a new job, and my first instinct was to start apartment hunting. But as I sat at the dining table, sharing the news over Mom's special biryani, I realized something had shifted. This house, with all its quirks and challenges, had become home again. Not in the same way it was when I was a kid, but in a new, complex, adult way. I ended up staying for eight more months. In that time, I not only rebuilt my career but also rediscovered my relationship with my parents. We argued, we laughed, we shared silences. I learned that Dad makes a mean omelet at 2 AM, and that Mom's got a wicked sense of humor I'd somehow missed growing up. When I finally moved out, it wasn't with the desperate rush I'd initially imagined. It was a practical decision - I'd saved enough, found a place I liked, and felt ready. The send-off was a simple family dinner, where we laughed about some of the awkward moments from the past year. As I settled into my new apartment, I realized those months at home had taught me a lot. Sure, there were tough times - privacy issues, disagreements over household rules, the occasional feeling of regression. But there were also valuable lessons: 1. My parents are people too, with their own lives and challenges. 2. Independence is more about mindset than living situation. 3. Family relationships can actually improve with some close quarters and open communication. 4. I'm more resilient than I thought, capable of adapting to unexpected life turns. Would I do it again? Maybe, if circumstances required it. It wasn't always easy, but it was far from the disaster I'd feared. If anything, those months gave me a new appreciation for my family and a better understanding of myself. So if you find yourself packing up to head back to your childhood bedroom, don't panic. It's not a step backward - it's just a different kind of move forward.