To all my brothers, who are struggling and looking for support or some 'words of affirmation'

I have been in this industry for 4 years now and there is not a single day that i hated this place any less. Today 9th August 2023 i am all alone in my room thinking to myself about what’s the point of this? I have no life i am all alone and tbh i have no real friends. A few of them that i do have are so far away from me busy in their life. No love life no social life. At 27 i feel wasted, done, finished let me clarify not in a suicidal way. I just feel exhausted my body is breaking down by the day i feel. I am just broken at this point and feel like quitting this profession altogether. I just don’t feel happy. The more i work the more irritated and frustrated i get. To top all that i have no one to share my emotions with here. Call it whatever you may wanna call a cry for help, a rant or nonsense. I am at that point where every morning feels like punishment. Every night that i go to bed i try to stay positive but i am not able to. I just hate everything. I am not a lazy man i work for 10-12 hours everyday and i think now that has finally got to me as i feel finished. I don’t know if anyone will read it or not i just wanted to reach out to people or anyone who feels like me. Broken tired and just done with everything.

Use this platform to pass inside information, which you think can be helpful had you known when it was your time. Revolut ( UK fintec) has three types of ranking in support specialist workflow. Graduate, junior, and mid level. Once you have gone through the test,interview, and all,they will put you in one of these three rankings based on your performance and exp. Generally Grad (0-1yoe), Junior 1-2), Mid(2/3+) . YOE not sole critera, they can be lenient based on performance Grad ( 4- 5 lpa) Junior (5-7.5) Mid (7.5-10) This is true for Fincrime, kyc, kyb , screening, and ongoing monitoring. FIU and TM crypto pass 1 -2 lac more than the other. Mid (fiu) can pay 12 lpa even with 2 yoe. This is for support specialists' production roles. A 4yoe + 2 yoe in TL can fetch you 15+ lpa as a TL. Again, crypto and FIU can fetch you upto 22 lpa. Your current ctc doesn't hold you back. Revolut doesn't negotiate hard. 2 negotiations and they offer you or they don't. Its not back and forth with them. 4.5 ctc has got 11.5 ctc there. 150% hike. 2 rounds of negotiations. Plain simple. If you are applying for any role. Don't hesitate to ask more, be your lawyer. These figures already exist. Maybe there are other higher figures too that i am yet to come across. PS : I dont work there, but 6 ppl whom i supervised do.

I feel my life is extremely difficult after demise of my beloved father at the age he should have not left us this early he was 51 and now without him my life is just extremely difficult in all aspects , people around me , relatives , career aspect marriage aspect future everything just scares me and i feel i cannot reach out to anyone for my help not even my mother with my problems I feel if i reach out to anyone they just shut it like dont overthink , please stop with your negativity I just dont know how to get on with life He was like shield to us Now i dont know even me , my mom , my sibling has changed like anything Nothing feels good anymore

So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how. Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

27M Hey guys, need your guidance on how to handle this 2016- My brother started a powder coating business which become flop by 2020 because of poor planning and spending the loan cash for his personal expenses which made us fall into a debt of INR 35 lakhs. So we sold a land near our home and cleared all the debts had some decent amount left along with it I took a home loan to renovate my home and we completed marriage for my brother also. Everything completed, My brother started to work in a Automation company and he earns INR 20k/m which is a decent salary in cbe 2024- He is again into debt of INR 5L (Online app loans, home credit, loan from friend, cc) because of his poor management,,Currently his salary is 25k. Thinking of his wife and kid, I sold some shares which was worth 1L and closed all the online loans, Even though that is done he still pays 14k EMI, balance which is not sufficient to run the family. Now he’s asking me to help close other loans. I’m already paying home loan and if I take his debt to that will be huge burden for me. I have some saving of 4L which I saved it for my marriage because no land left to sell and spend for my marriage. Should I need to give him so he can close all the debts or how should I deal this? Thanks for reading, I appreciate if you can guide me how to deal this

I just found out today I’ve been cheated on by my long term girlfriend who I lived with. Turns out she’s been cheating for a few months but she’s only just told me now because she’s fallen out of love for me and she’s fallen in love with him, so she’s leaving me for him. She says I neglected giving her the attention she needed because I was so focused on work I forgot to do the nice things for her like bring her flowers, or take her out for dinner or to just show her how much I loved her. Even though I’m so heart broken and haven’t stopped crying, I do forgive her because it’s true my work hours were bad and because we lived together I kept thinking in my head “it’s fine, ill make it up to her next time”. Plus, I was planning to quit my job once bonus comes at the end of this year to find a more chilled job so I could spend more time with her, I truly am ready to leave my job and that was my plan so I was just holding out until then. But now I won’t have the chance because she said its too late she has already lost interest in me and loves him. But this guy is a software engineer at a FAANG company earning 60-70L a year whilst only having to work 9-5 so he’s richer and has more free time to give her attention. Actually she said he only works around 3 hours per day, he does around 1 hour in morning then 2 hours after lunch and for the rest of the day he’s free to spend time with her, and his company doesn’t notice or mind. So this guy earns almost 3x my compensation for only 3 hours a day meanwhile I’m working 12 hours a day She would sneak out whilst I was at work to go on dates with him or round his house and then she would come back to my home in my bed in time for when I arrived from work so I wouldn’t notice. Now I feel really broken, I’m in no mental state to be working I can’t think about anything else I have deadline for work today and I’m just sat here crying writing this post. I know men are meant to be strong and hold our emotions together but I really am sad. I want to ask for 3 days sick leave at work but I don’t know if this normal and acceptable to do? Given most sick leave would be for grievances like the death of a loved one etc. or am I being a cry baby and I should man up and continue to work?

I work in a slowing industry (Ed-Tech!) in a generalist role (Project Management!) for half a decade now! You'd think I would be better positioned to deal with life! Heck, NO! This crippling feeling of insecurity or job loss always puts an extra stress on day to day life. I couldn't take any risks in terms of a house or a car or a big EMI purchase in life! What if I get laid off? Will this generalist role help in landing anything next? Do I need an MBA for that? Switching to any specialized roles will take extensive preparation with time being in short supply with family and kids! Seem to have been strangled in the startup world. Any cure for this? P.S : Sometimes thinking : Mommy sahi bolti thi. Govt job le leni chahiye thi. :D