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Well said..

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Very well said

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I’m decently pally with my coworkers but there’s no way I’m pally (or rude) enough to ask them their salary but I’m really curious to know bcz my company is not on glassdoor and I have no way of knowing if I’m being paid at par or generally what the pay scale for different roles looks like. What can I possibly do?

Is there any polite way to ask your coworkers’ salary?

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Once Wiseman Said that , Health is wealth

Satya Vachan

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There’s never been a better time to be a DINK, according to Business Insider.

In our death beds it's not the bank balance that would give us joy but the core memories that we made makes us feel we lived a great life. At the end that's important 
  
 If you are compensating for your choice of not having kids through other core memories like traveling or other experiences then go for it. Optimising not having kids only for saving money is a dangerous thing. As I get older I realise that joy comes from giving and not from accumulation.

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Discipline is what separates people. Embrace it

Well written but unfortunately I am on my way to have 6 beers one after the other

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One of my female friend recently got in touch with a young guy. Age difference is about 10-15 yrs. Both are currently single boy being about around ~25. Both re enjoying each other's company and conversations. While the girl has a troubled past (divorced) the boy is actively looking for marriage prospects. 
GV community - what are your tips for the female friend and things she should keep in consideration. 
Would be keen to hear the guys' perspective as well especially how you deal with relationship vs friendship with older women

Friendship between young boy and adult women

Founder

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I grew up with a stay at home mom but I have plenty of friends who grew up with “power couple” parents. If anything, the kids with working moms were better prepared for school and were more... polished? And I know plenty of fuck ups whose retarded moms stayed at home and/or whose parents ended up in nasty ass divorces with their “helpless” moms cleaning out their dads.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with nannies and having help. You grow to love them in a different way and they give you another perspective as you grow. It’s not like kids with nannies automatically assume that their parents don’t love them, and it’s rare for both parents to be completely absent all the time unless they never wanted kids in the first place. I feel like the argument against nannies and career women is usually made from bitter people who can’t afford them

I won’t settle for someone who doesn’t have a career. Not a job, a career. Maybe she’ll make the decision to stay at home for a few years but I don’t want to bankroll the seamless and reality show watching habits of an intellectually lazy partner for the rest of my life. I’ve seen firsthand the type of woman who doesn’t want to be challenged, what happens to the men who marry them, and how their kids turn out. Fuck that noise. This isn’t the 1980s

And if you think you can maintain your lifestyle in Bangalore/Mumbai once you have kids on a single income, think again, especially when your friends have paired off with those dreaded career girls.

Power Couples?

Times are different now. Kids raised in Delhi/Mumbai don’t give a shit if you didn’t make it to their events, they give a shit if you don’t buy them the new iPhone every year or make them take the Metro/Local instead of ordering an Uber for them like their friends’ “power couple” parents.

Trust me, I’ve seen it firsthand with my useless excuse for a sister. Wasted my parents’ money on a shitty expensive degree she didn’t use before making them pay again for a shitty masters degree she didn’t use. They paid her rent and vacation bills through her 20s because she made shit in her “career” (lol) until she tricked my Brother in Law into marrying her. 

They had to move to the Greater Noida because she is both unemployable and has no desire to work, only post photos of her unruly spawn on Instagram. He has to wake up at 5am everyday to commute into the city and doesn’t get home until late. 

I’m sure she whines or cries or bitches when he does, because that is the kind of bitchy she is. He makes decent money too, so I’m sure he daydreams about what life would’ve been like if he wasn’t living in hell. Fuuuuck that kind of life, I’d rather die alone

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Paisa ho to kya kuch nahi ho sakta

Software Test - QA

A lot of folks working at startups seem to be "passionate " about their job. Some of them possibly, truly are. Some foolishly reverse engineer this passion because they're paid really well and they've been doing a good job and it's good personal PR to say "passion".  A few reality checks.

1. Your cool Bangalore lifestyle is a result of investment risks/bets taken by VC's .

2. Your salary is as much about the market demand as it is about your " passion " and talent.

3. Startups will generally lower the bar for hiring processes to meet their demand for talent. Why need so much talent? Because the startup  needs to spend that 100M$ Series C that just made them a unicorn. That's how they convince the VC to give more money. "We are going to 2x revenue by 2xing our salesforce and buying 10M$ worth of Saas that will increase our productivity by 5x. " And boom ...100M$ transferred into you SVB bank account.

4. You are as replaceable as a garbage bag on your dustbin. The HR is probably flirting with 10 other like you over linkedin.


5. The "values" this startup apparently espouses are mostly nothing but a honey trap and positioning to lure talent.

It's great to have a nice tech job that pays well and allows you to gloat on twitter like a techbro but don't let it fool you into getting an inflated sense of entitlement. You're probably living on borrowed time....and money. :)

" Passionate " Startup folks

All of us at some point of time go through this phase, fortunately/unfortunately I am going through it too!

Just wanted to know from experienced people, how do you find the right person on the basis of just a few questions?

Or what questions you should preferably ask when you are choosing for a better half?

Choosing right partner in Arrange Marriage?

DevOps Engineer

I am penning this post because so far working in corporate I have realised that somehow we all are going through the same shit. Not everyone needs an adventure in life and start a business. Some of us like our stability. But with that stabilty comes loneliness. 
Everyone in corporate ( talking about bachelors) is looking for meaningful relationship with good sex. Approaching the other person in office is difficult. Half of us don’t believe in marraige but will get married to someone else’s love one day. 
I dont know what is the solution to this. More importantly I dont even know the problem. But something is missing. 
I see everyone in the morning wearing badges sipping coffee trying to gather energy just enough to survive the day. 
There is no gaurantee of job, life and happiness. 
Somehow we all have become incapable of living. We are just surving. 
These are mixed thoughts just like my morning mails.

What am I missing?

Somebody had to say it.

I saw a friend tweet about how Bangalore is full of connected but lonely people jumping in to join every Meetup/WhatsApp group that becomes available. This is my problem with the meetup / conference culture. Meetup culture is all about optionality. You think you'll meet someone new who's cool. Someone who can help you build your network. 

You would rather join a meetup with 100 other strangers than build stronger connections with your friends. In life there are only a few people who really matter. 

People who you can call at 11 PM to rant about your workday. People who you know will be genuinely happy about your promotion. People you share screenshots from work with. It is not probably the 100 strangers in that Whatsapp group that you think of when you are having a health issue and want to share your fears. It also means lowering your ego, which I'm happy to do with my old friends. I'm always happy to ping them when I get the chance, and I'm the one asking them to call me. 

I'm the one who asks them to hang out with me. I used to think, "Why bother?" but then I realised that it doesn't matter who reaches out first. It is not about keeping a count. 

I realised it's for me! If I have a chat with a friend of mine who I have known for over 10 years, my mood improves immediately. Everyone is very busy. Everyone is stressed with their jobs and their personal lives. Some of them are married now. Some have children. But that's where you've got to work to keep connecting with the people who matter to you. Friendship is also about being vulnerable. True friendship is built on vulnerability. 

Being able to share your dreams, your failures and your demons with each other. While the meetup culture is all about bumping into people for 5 minutes to judge their worth and whether they are worth your time, my preference is for long 1-1s. Either on the phone or face to face. I am happy to meet just one person over the weekend and have hours of conversation about work, life or wha

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Friends sabke paas nahi hote Lakshman 🥲 
 Translation (in spirit,not literal): Not everyone is lucky to have friends, Lakshman (edited dialogue from Main Hoon Na)

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Do you think a caste census is very important in Indian IT especially from the managerial level upwards as they mostly belong to one particular caste?

Caste Census

Disclaimer: I have nothing against high earners in this group who are doing exceptionally well and earning big bucks at young age. You have my admiration. 

Target audience of this post: Everyone else who is doing okay in their job, earning an average salary for their age. 

Why have I posted it?: To not feel I am the only one who is a normal regular person doing just average in his life in this hyper competitive rat race. 

My thoughts: I clearly remember the moment, it was April 2007, I had barely completed the board exams of class 10th and joined class 11th. It was my first week into class 11th when a fine looking gentleman walked into our class to make us think of our future career path. He was from a coaching institute for IIT JEE and AIEEE. He told us about all the high salary packages at these premier institutes. I excitedly told my parents about it. 

Like any middle class parents, they dreamt of their son cracking the exam and securing good placements from IITs/NITs. They enrolled me in coaching. I worked hard for those 2 years, 11th and 12th. But what was harder was the constant stress and pressure I was put in, both intentionally and unintentionally. These ideas that 'I must crack JEE to have a good future', 'if you don't get through JEE then you are a waste' etc, were hammered into my mind day in and day out. 

I didn't crack JEE but got into a well reputed private engineering college of India.. Fast forward 4 years, did my MBA from  tier 2 college only to join a service company at salary that would be considered too low for most of the folks here who compare salary like a plague. Recently joined a product company with good jump. Realised all that pressure I was put under in high school wasn't necessary. I am doing ok in life. 

 I think it's okay to be earning an average salary, everyone of us is on his own journey of growth and comparing ourselves on basis of packages seems myopic

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It's okay to be normal and ordinary

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In my corporate experience, I have observed two kinds of leaders - 1) A hard task master, very high on IQ but more often than not low on EQ and 2) High on EQ, above avg on IQ. I as a manager/ leader fall under 2) and usually get work done without authority but I do experience at times, some peers and reportees taking advantage of my behaviour

 In my view, anecdotally I see type 1) leaders succeed more in corporates even if it comes at the cost of facing flak/hate from directs/indirects. One of my previous managers was unpopular for his toxicity but somehow I kind of built a decent bond with him. Once over drinks and dinner, he candidly told me, I'm not here in this organization for making friends and I'm here only to get results and he did deliver on results every year.

My question is, can type 2 leaders even climb up the ladder specially where cut throat competition exists. Sometimes I do feel I need to be more like type 1 leaders obviously not at the cost of toxicity - disrespect, shouting etc. 

What are your thoughts?

Task Master vs Empathetic leader

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Everyday there's a new post on this app of "Who will you vote for" then few chamchas or it cell guys come here to defend them.

Let me tell you this is wrong platform for your propaganda. People here are good at english as well as concepts like confirmation bias and mass psychology. If you give vote to bjp in polls no one on this app will give a damn as we all know opinion polls are different and it's manipulated to show that people will vote BJP so everyone will think BJP is doing something good. It isn't like that.

Wrong platform guys. Twitter/X or instagram is better for you. I won't recommend reddit since it's filled with teenagers who wannabe dank.

Can we stop with daily elections post? It's getting really annoying now.

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https://www.instagram.com/reel/CzL40RYNTF4/?igsh=NWQ5enkwNjB1bTJu

Not saying i agree or disagree, but interesting pov.

Well said..

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