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What is a fear you have overcome as you grew older?

What is a fear you have overcome as you grew older?- Grapevine

I'm afraid that time is flying and I will not be able to do things which I thought I will do for my parents. 
What I'm doing- recently moved closer to them and will try to use extended weekends for doing those things (mainly experiences). 
Go ahead and tell us your fear and what are you doing for that

What's your biggest fear in life

Product Manager

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Introverts and anxious people of Reddit, I need your help. I'm preparing for an important presentation at work, and public speaking has always been my Achilles' heel. 

What techniques or strategies have you found most effective for improving your public speaking skills? Have you overcome severe anxiety about presenting? How did you do it?

Overcoming the fear of public speaking

Digital Accessibility Technologist

It's when you are incredible at solving any situation after the situation is over and you replay it in your head.


Did anyone overcome it? How?

Anyone with "Replay Syndrome"?

Growth Manager

You are 35. What have you stopped believing in that you totally believed in when you were 25?

Life lessons

Business analyst

Welcome to Software Engineers's Private Community

So I might get some hate for this. I know this is weakness and the feedback I've gotten is toughen up. But I've never known how.
 Is there anyone else whose body and mind had accepted that they're not going to amount to anything but fought their way through it? Can you tell me your story? Or give me any book suggestions?

I shut down under pressure

I used to be a creative guy in my mid 20s. I learned to play a guitar, could sketch pretty well and also used to work out pretty regularly.
Lift has changed drastically in the last 2 years and I now find myself no time to spend on my hobbies. I tuned 30 recently and have been under slight shock that my responsibilities are bound to increase due to family and work.
I had no responsibility till now and had lived a care free life.
Now that I am engaged, I've realized that I need to dedicate my time for my family, my well being, my upskilling and also some to to evaluate my finances. This has also made me realize that I won't have enough time for my hobbies/interests. I badly want to learn to play an electric guitar and the fact that I won't have much time terrifies me as I need to make a choice of doing something that I love (learn to play a guitar) or doing something that helps me to live a life and pay off my bills which basically is my full time job.
I might have a child in another 4-5 years and the responsibility of having a child terrifies me even more. 
I don't want to make a choice between being there for my child and being there for my work.
I'm not sure if I'm over thinking or just being realistic but not having enough time for yourself due to work and family has been bothering me lately. 
I'm 30 and the fact that responsibilities are bound to increase in my life terrifies me.
Is this a common and a normal feeling or is this unnatural?

Folks who are working in your 30s, do you still find time to work on your hobbies? If yes, how are you able to manage your family life, work life, upskilling, working out and making time for your hobbies?

Product Designer

(I know Osho type question hai but just curious)

What is it about life that scares you at the moment?

Data engineer

People over 35 what is one thing you regret from your younger years?

Guys please give me some tips to become fearless.  I alway fear in every work. Whether it's joining new company,taking some tough work, doing something new, you name it and I always have fear. Fear of what will happen next,how will I manage that, is it even possible, what if they don't like me etc etc etc. I am currently in my early 20's and I don't want to spend my life fearing from everything.  Please peeps guide me or give some mantras based on your life experiences how not to fear or how not to get that feeling.

Guide your Junior on Adulting

Data Consultant

I've been in startups for the last 8 years. From Series B/C onwards to even a unicorn, over time worked at 3. 
One of them was an outright scam, raised many millions of $s from top investors, and then ultimately died. 
Also close with CXOs at decent sized startups, and there is a pattern out there. 

A few thoughts:
1. Being a startup founder is tough. There's pain. Some people thrive in pain. AKA Masochists. Know how to spot a founder who works 15 hours a day because they love their vision vs. somebody who works 15 hours a day because they're masochists. These people thrive in pain, and hence love to see you miserable as you slog away the hours under their leadership. 

There is absolutely no vision for the future that they have. They do it for the fame, money, and cause a lot of pain in the process. Nothing good comes out of it. Investors love this breed.
   
2. I wish I'd done more than just leave the scammy startup. At the point, I decided against whistleblowing. Because I thought there's so many people employed here, they would all be impacted. Over time, 200-300 people more joined after I left. Once the scam was caught, all of them lost their jobs.
   
3. I'm not a coder. I'm a generalist. Over time, my pay grew but not in line with my peers who went into consulting/VC and then came back to big tech/startups. Over time, you disadvantage yourself if you stick around as a generalist in startups for too long. The next team pays you at some premium over the last one, there's no step jump. 
You need to somehow find a successful startup early, and genuinely, that is impossible to game - even VCs have to bet on 20 to get it right.

These are a few disjointed thoughts. I hope they give some insight.
My only takeaways:
- If you work at a scammy startup, don't stand it. At least, don't stick around. 
- I earn lesser than my peers (tier 1 undergrad), but I regret nothing. I love my work, and I'll never get over the kick. I cannot imagine working at a larger company ever again.
- Ultimately, you have to be optimistic. Believe that India will grow, good founders will come around, magic will happen ❤️

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