Life lessons
You are 35. What have you stopped believing in that you totally believed in when you were 25?
Qwerty2398
Stealth
5 months ago
Hardwork (in the office) rewards you.
HeftySpy78
Stealth
5 months ago
This is so true. Not as old as comments in this thread are, but (making noise >>>> hardwork) in office.
Till you know how to present it correctly to right people otherwise it's useless
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1899
Stealth
5 months ago
1. Health > Money
2. Looks do matter
3. Communication skills matter both in relationship and to climb the corporate ladder
4. Money > Intelligence, your success is defined by how much you make not how Intelligent you are.
5. Only your parents really care about you others just use you for their own benefits (this might not be applicable for some, as this varies depending on many factors)
japoorv
Stealth
5 months ago
Not 35, actually currently 25 but some of these seems counter-intuitive to what I would have expected to hear/read from videos asking older fellows to give advice to the younger ones.
2. Looks do matter, I think most of the folks in their 25 think like that.
4. Money > Intelligence, again most of us growing in the social media which is tuned towards hustling kind of believe it.
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I’m 30.
When I was 25, I thought that since I have a fancy degree, I am intelligent and talented compared to those who don’t have it.
Now, I’m seeking dropouts, folks from tier 3 colleges killing it, earning 2-3 lakhs per month, settled abroad where as I am on bench in TCS.
When I was 25, I thought that since I’ve worked hard in college, I might not have to work hard anymore. That attitude has screwed up my career and at this moment, I’m extremely grateful for having a job.
When I was 25, I thought that it’s okay if I chill for a couple of years as I have a fancy degree and have worked hard in college. Now I’ve realised that had I upskilled, worked Hard and switched during the great resignation, I would have been in a good place in my career and pay.
When I was 25, I was scared of people’s opinions and my impression on them. I did things out of fear and worry of their opinions. Today, I regret not being brave enough to go after what my heart truly wants than settle down for things and people my family and society thinks I have to do.
My life is fucked big time. I can’t undo a lot of things I’ve done in my life. I have no choice but to continue to live. I lost my precious late 20s by being lazy, arrogant, ignorant, egoistic and staying in my comfort zone.
I hope I’ll be a wiser and a better person at the age of 35. I just want to live a normal and an average life. I don’t mind being unhappy or contender in life- I wish I can provide enough to people who are dependent on me and make them happy. That’s it.
Nothing else. Nothing more than this.
It's never too late. I realised it at the age of 30. Along with my job, I am trying to learn new skills and giving my best at work. And it is helping me a lot to grow in my career. I think you should not worry about the past and focus on your future and be happy 😊
I am 40. Failed lot of times in life.
My life lessons
1. Nothing comes free. Nothing. Every decision you take has a cost that you must be ready to own just as fully as the gains.
2. Never give up. Yet be ready to change. Yet don't change just because world wants you to. It's a double edged sword. Never.
3. Do not make the same mistake thrice. It's a decision.
1. Thought that, the Honesty is really the best policy.
2. Getting a govt job is incorrect decision as it may force to get bribery so chose private sector path !
3. Believed that Dowry is morally incorrect and completely avoided that !
4. Believed the statement "male dominated society" is really true !
5. Believed that Women are innocents, women are suppresed etc are really true!
6. Was under assumption that following all the moral statements learnt from school will give the recognition in the society!
7. Thought institutionalized education will give a better life !
8. TCS is the most well paid company in the long run but last 5 years of inflation turning us to apply for ration card to get few of the Groceries !
DimProgram
Stealth
5 months ago
Don't want to share a debate, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on the dowry part. What's your take now and what's the thought process behind it?
I know where he is coming from... But it's more of societal lookout of it. It's a good thing to avoid it (dowry)as much as possible and stick to it.
Few elements of society in middle class, thinks - if dowry is not received by the guy , it means the guy is useless.
The guy who gets the most dowry is gold 😂.
As weird it sounds, it is my personal observation, on how fcked up the thought process is .
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TheBrahman
Stealth
5 months ago
36.
I believed that hard work only can take you places. This is wrong. Leverage comes in different forms - if you can't use the existing ones, build one for yourself.
Also fame is distraction - success is about finding freedom to pursue what makes you happy.
I ain't 35 but below 30 and learnt few things.
1. The relatives who are sweet with you will never help when on roads.
2. If you want something in life, something has to be sacrificed.
3. At the end of the day, Insane amount of money gives you the freedom of saying "NO".
4. Success has many fathers but failure is an orphan
5. You may not be punished for your current mistakes, but there is an eternal court you ll be tried and karma is real
6. Whom we are friends with is important than how many we are friends with.
7. Sense of purpose of life exceeds everything !!!
Just to clarify, is this something you believe now? Or is it something you believed earlier and not now? @HateKitty
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Majorly - I stopped believing that I will find love, I do hope so.. but the reality is far from this.
I'm 30 now.
Lessons learnt -
1. Appreciate presence in life, you tend to focus less on these during your 20s.
2. Politeness and humbleness is something one cannot fake, and that tells a lot about the person. If you're looking for a long term bond, better keep an eye open for these.
3. Focus on health, both physical and mental.
4. Life > work.
5. Always remember you're replaceable at work. So prioritize yourself, your family and not work 'family'.
6. Be a better human. It will come in glory sooner or later.
7. Become a farmer, or a gardener and try to grow some vegetables/fruits. You'll reconnect to the most beautiful side of life.
Rusty29
Stealth
5 months ago
29
People around you who have achieved something are not smarter than you, they just went out and tried new things.
VigilantToad
Student
5 months ago
MBA karke life set hai
I will be remembered for my achievements instead of how was I as a person
We don't need to match our speed with the world, everyday something new will come, you just need to figure out what's the best for you, at the end everyone wants to feel the peace in their mind
1. Work speaks for itself.
2. Pursuit of knowledge is more important than the pursuit of money.
3. Company and seniors will take care of you.
4. Working in India is better than working in US and Singapore. 😂
5. Money is not that important in life 😂.
6. Relatives do not judge you and your familys financial and social status 😂.
Invincible87
Stealth
5 months ago
Hardwork matters more than being at the right place at the right time aka LUCK
Put in hardwork now and enjoy later...there is no later..there is no end ..just death
I used to take mental health lightly, but after going through anxiety I found mental health is greater than any wealth or degree or position so too much self criticism, stress, meeting others expectation or workload is not good.