Analyst

Better be pragmatic about these things 🤷‍♂️

Generalist

Software Engineer

They might be thinking about you, like what you're  doing right now.

Software Developer

This feels like what Ted Mosby from HIMYM would be thinking.  
  
 I don't wonder about the future spouse, as that would mean there's a someone somewhere for us which doesn't feel right

Consultant

Dimag mein aur sapne palne ki jagah nai ..mere hisab se tum b mat palo

Brand marketing manager

Do you guys sometimes wonder like I am here at this place in this moment, what is my future cutie doing at the moment 🌴🤔

Where is my future spouse right now😱

Where is my future spouse right now😱- Grapevine

from a guy's point of view:

1. You will get rejected by girls you want and you will reject the girls who want you, it's an endless cycle. 

2. Caste/religion/job/location/money/face : everything matters.

3. When you start talking to a girl, assume she is already talking to 5 guys at least, that's how it works.

4. All the things you want in a person, will start vanishing with each person you talk to, so don't be rigid. You don't know what you want, it will keep changing.

5. People are going to lie about their age/salary/past etc, do your due diligence properly. They are going to pretend to be someone they are not.

6. Be ready for rejections and getting ghosted, hearing absurd rejection reasons.

7. They like to keep their options open, you are not their first priority, sooner you find that out the better or you need to put efforts to become their first priority. 

8. Keep your expectations to a minimum, otherwise it will become the reason behind your frustrations.

9. Don't be desperate. Keep your attention to a limit, if you gave too much, then you would come off as desperate and not likeable.

How to deal with it?
1. It is what it is.
2. If it didn't work, it wasn't meant to be.
3. No effort is a sign of no interest, stay away from such people. They are putting effort for someone else.

If you have someone in your life, keep them close, put in efforts, don't come to matrimony apps.

Matrimony Apps Saga

Senior software engineer

I might delete this post later but recently I came across a tweet that says the average body count of girls in Mumbai, Pune and Bangalore is more than their age.

So are hookups these common? I myself live in Mumbai and I am 21 year old guy and still virgin and I feel left out seeing the people talking so much about sex online and telling that they are hooking up and all. I want to know who are these people, like most of the girls I know in my friend circle are virgin and they are not looking for hookups, so who are these people having sex and what is the average age of these people because I can't find the age mentioned anywhere. And should I be worried because although I am 6 feet tall and handsome guy and still virgin and single, if yes then please give some advice.

Are hookups these common?

Such a dull Saturday!
Please share something interesting

What's the latest gossip? What's new f* up you did?

To all single grapeviners, how and where are you searching for life partners? 

To all committed/married folks, how and where did you find your life partner? 

I tried the AM route, but so far no such luck and really exhaustive. 

Thinking of going for a relationship manager in shaadi, but not sure. Anyone had any luck with the vip/elite services?

Me: I am a 28M, living in Bangalore, doing well career-wise.

Where to search for life partners?

I recently came across this post by a very popular Instagram page. 

I personally believe love is coincidental, doesn't matter where or how you find it, what matters is you find the one. 

But I'm a hopeless romantic, y'all may share your opinions here.

Finding a soulmate, online?

Want to move away from hookups to dating but everyone is just to hookup on dating apps. Really how should i kill time here? Doing gym for 4 hours currently but getting bored. Thinking of trying swimming.

What do you do to kill loneliness in hyd or blr? Cafe or pub runs, gym, dating, hookups?

AI Engineer

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I have a job that offers a permanent WFH. I am not married and want to spend the next 12 months working out of different places around the country. Looking for suggestions where I can 
1. Work for 8-10 hrs, 5 days a week
2. Good WiFi
3. Healthy homemade food

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Product Manager

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Honestly I had a very very bad experience with the app !!! 

Though they have a very strong sales team, who keep pushing. I guess their product manager is the dumbest of the dumb. 

Do you even care about your baby (product) ? Do you think you do justice for the fat paycheck ?

They have a preference option wherein mandatory and secondary can be input...

Oh my god shittiest implementation.... App Gives right opposite to selected preference.

Funny part is there are profiles, with religion as Hindu sub sect as Sunni... Religion Christian sub sect Brahmin :facepalm:

If any one is seeing this just install the app and use it for week dumbos...

Review on Better Half.ai

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Basically some of my work friends and I went to Thailand. We had a gala time there and explored a ton of places. All of us stayed at this really nice hotel which had a beautiful swimming pool. We went swimming there quite a few times. 

So, I have a DailyObjects bag that I got for free on my purchase. I use this primarily for carrying towel, undergarments, swimsuit, sunscreen etc. Another colleague of mine has the same bag with the same colour. 

He accidentally took my bag and I took his. I got to realise this when I opened the bag and saw swimming trunks and a book. I called to tell him about it and it was too late.

His wife picked up the phone and enquired about why I had placed my undergarments in her husband's bag. I clarified that it is just a mistake and that we accidentally swapped our bags but she was not budging. So I hung up after getting scared.

She has called me 5-6 times in the last week but I am too scared. What should I even do? Whenever I try to explain the situation she starts screaming at me again. It was a simple mistake but this woman is overreacting and my colleague also agrees. 

She's completely psycho and thinks that I am trying to steal her husband.

Colleague's wife is screaming at me on call.

Had never told him, was never gonna get married to him anyway (different religion)
Just that his wife isn't as hot as him, kinda let down 🫠

My ex-Office crush got married, why am I sad though 😢

I've been trying to actively avoid Social media platforms for the past few years but spending time here feels much more productive and useful compared to most others (bakchodi and comedy is bonus ofc).

Anyone else in the same boat? 😂

Feel like deleting grapevine because I'm spending too much time on it T_T

I’m finally in Bengaluru and this city seems glitzy yet underdeveloped. What a weird dichotomy. 🫨

Grapevine folks: What are your weekend scenes?

I have been a little caught up with numerous things in my life lately and have finally found some free time to open up myself to new experiences. 

I had a wishlist of shows and movies that I wanted to watch but as soon as I start watching them, I get bored and feel like turning it off. 

No, its not the content
No, its not the genre
No, its not the actors
No, its not the taste either

This is pretty ironic as considering the fact that I have spent a fair share of my youth chasing academics and career, my heart had always craved for life experiences. I had to let go of the woman I loved simply because I was too focussed on my JEE. I wont be able to forgive myself for that EVER. It almost felt like I had lost a limb, without which , I would be rendered disfunctional. Thats a separate story tho.

Nothing excites me (yep nothing)
Nothing amuses me 
Nothing feels lively

I have no clue where my life is headed

I understand that as we age, our triggers of happiness change. I have put concious efforts into knowing what those new triggers are. But I cant find any plausible sources of happiness.

I am performing pretty well with my career.
Even got a double digit hike.
But didnt feel that kick of joy.

Have I approached a dead end?

Losing Interest In New Things

Data engineer

Disclaimer: This is not a dating post

Started casually speaking to this guy from Grapevine. I got the confidence that he is genuine, so we chatted (no long chats or daily talk) over Instagram for 4-5 months. 
He had to fly to Bangalore for some work, so we planned to meet. He was all excited and decided the place too. We met for lunch; nothing shady or that would make me uncomfortable, he had some work so left after that. 

We had exchanged numbers, and I thanked him over Whatsapp. It was all cutesy and funny for a day. I even shared some ice cream place I went to, the next day with friends. 

And then talks went to zero. Anything I shared got a one-word responses. 
So I stepped back; no point being pushy even in friendship. We haven't talked for over a month now.

But he was (is) such a nice person. I don't know why he would just stop talking for no reason. 
Is it something I did or said? Was he expecting something different that I didn't do?

Do I send him some meme or something?
Am I overthinking? He could be simply too busy to talk to someone he met once

Need Help decoding this Situation - Guy suddenly went silent

Growth Manager

When I go to the office, all of my colleagues talk to me very kindly. It's as if they're reassuring me that if anything were to happen, I have nothing to worry about because these guys will manage everything, including my family. However, when there's a need for teamwork, these guys behave as if they belong to different departments and do back bitching all day.

Outside of work, clients try to get close, almost like cousins (I know they want referrals), but during review meetings in front of their bosses, these guys act like FBI agents or like they are doing some type of favor on us.

In college, when our group of friends used to go on trips, we would enjoy every time like kids. But now, everyone is more interested in knowing how much we earn and Judging based on the brands of our clothes and watches.

People often ask me why I don't go home on long weekends. Well, I live in a joint family, and when I go there, everyone bombards me with questions about when I'm going to get married. Man what the hell, I don't want to get married, plain and simple. My uncle, every time he sees me, asks about my annual salary increment. What's the deal? Didn't we have this conversation just three months ago? Who gets a raise every quarter?

Finally, I decided that I'll take some time for my personal life, and if I find a soulmate, I'll consider marriage. But here's the thing (sorry if it's not appropriate): it seems like everyone these days is only interested in one thing, yes Se*. What's wrong with our generation? Doesn't anyone want emotional support anymore? Isn't anyone interested in enjoying the sunset with someone they love or gazing at the sky while lying on the grass?

People often ask me why I don't go outside or try to be more social. Well, I've tried everything, and I'm really happy at my home in my favorite pajamas.

Everything's Awful These Days

Hello! 

I am 26y old currently living in Bengaluru, working in startups, fair compensation. I am looking to find a partner for the intention of marrying in around or less than 2 years of time. 
Have used Bumble and Hinge a lot, went to like 30+ dates in past 2 years, dated few girls but nothing serious came out of it - I think it’s the platform’s problem (anyways, there can be a separate debate for this)

There are old platforms like Shaadi.com, jeevansathi and new platform like betterhalf. I am not very sure on how to go about it? 

Can anyone guide me on this???

Where to find a partner for marriage?

Welcome to Movies & Music's Private Community

I'll go first - 

Shut laptop, get in comfy clothes and watch Amar Singh Chamkila!
Imtiaz Ali after 4 years!!

What are your Friday plans?

I'm at that age where is tremendous pressure to get married. Can't even put in words the kind of torture I go through every day. I'm a woman. I have met people mostly through AM set up. I didn't click with anyone. I don't have faith that I'll be anyone compatible through AM route. Tried dating app, quickly realised it's not for me, the compatibility is even worse there. I go to events and such, didn't really meet anyone. Idk if it's just the Kannada culture, everyone is just so shy! I enjoy being by myself but would prefer being with a partner. I realise the importance of having a companion. At the same time, I also don't want to just get married to someone for the sake of it. 

So Bengalurians, especially Kannadigas, where did you meet your partner/SO/spouse? 

What is something I should be doing that I'm not doing?

On the work front, I'm doing quite well. Looks wise too, I don't think I'm ugly.

Bangalore folks, and particularly Kannadigas, where did you find your partner?

Medical Expert

So i am software engineer working remotely and situated at my hometown (Tier 2) , after signing off day I go to a public park daily except Sunday’s for run there i found a girl who comes to the same park with her dog for max 10 min and then leave i am highly confident she is giving the positive sign that she is interested but i am damn sure she will not initiate . I go there  we have long eye contact none of us utter a word then she leaves . I feel sad daily that i have missed that chance to speak i need help how should i approach her mind you there are other people too have walk in the park

I really want to speak to her and i am that introverted man when it comes girl

Where is my future spouse right now😱

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