Anonymity is the only the reason the gives us the ability to talk our minds.

Generalist

Logic by Qwerty-bhai. Don’t be a buzzkill with the truth man. Crack a joke instead.

Product Management

Consultant

How do you interact with your subconscious?

Software Developer

Lol. I like to disagree with everyone just because it is fun.

Software Engineer

I hate my friends. I prolly want to bone a few

Product Manager

There are some people on grapevine like @qwerty2398 who i agree with 4050% of times lol. Nevertheless, mostly decent and fun interactions in good spirit.  Have a few people like that IRL too. What ...

There are some people on grapevine like @qwerty2398 who i agree with 40-50% of times lol. Nevertheless, mostly decent and fun interactions in good spirit.

Have a few people like that IRL too. What about you?

Who is someone you mostly disagree with, but still like talking to/interacting with?

Who is someone you mostly disagree with, but still like talking to/interacting with?- Grapevine

0. Try to have a call/video call before the first date. Always take their phone number/insta id before agreeing to meet, plenty of ghosters and shady folks these days.

1. Always try to meet outside for the first date. Don't go for drives. Those kinda dates almost never end up going well in the long run. Ask to meet halfway, don't go out of your way just to meet someone.

2. Don't meet someone with the expectation to start dating or getting married right away. Get to know them as friends first. Everything else later. 

3. Date for 2-3 months at least before committing to be exclusive, don't rush into things and keep your options open. 

4. Do not go for dates when you're feeling down or depressed. Meeting a stranger most likely won't help, it'll only distract temporarily.

5. Draw up a list of things you want and don't want in a partner. Should have at least 5-6 points on both sides. Pointless to date without knowing that much, but the list will also change with time. 

6. Keep an open mind, try to be empathetic, and have fun. Don't compromise just to please the other. Learn to take a stand and draw boundaries from the start.

7. Use protection always, no matter what. And also have some self defense prepared just in case (for all genders).

Having met hundreds of people through dating apps in the last decade, these are a few rules I formed for myself over time. Hope they help :)

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Congratulations and a hearty thanks to all the top writers 

We’ll also soon be sharing a top 50 list in a separate update

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I mean how do you start trusting people again?

Most of the people that I have around me turned out to be an ass. I could never fill the social void. 
My heart keeps yearning for social validation (I am not in the mood of hearing that happiness should stem from within etc etc, afterall humans are social beings, we need people to survive. We thrive on trust. Being alone never helps in the long run, I have learnt this the hard way)

Its so easy to confuse politeness with kindness.

I know it comes through practice but I have been extremely paitent. I cant filter people. 

I know its a plain rhetoric. But would love to know your perspectives.

How do you choose people?

Data engineer

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Currently I am discovering gv. I am loving it. You don't get doxxed(🤞) + you get to chat and converse with others like it's a WhatsApp group. 
Kinda love this. 
Is this just me? or 👀
If so, then what is the idea of social media. To bring more people to a platform or make it a limited area where you don't get to be toxic and making the space enjoyable

Grapevine

I spend a sad amount of time mindlessly going through Instagram. Want to cut down, and replace with better apps, that actually make my time better spent. Curious which apps you all use that make you feel better after you use them?

Which app/website do you regularly go to, that makes you feel your time was well spent?

Spending a lot of time on Grapevine now (grapes got me addicted)
It is well until the addiction takes over,

Social media can never make you feel better, they are designed to lure you into unproductive expensive experiences

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Hey Folks, I thought I should do an AMA specially after yesterday’s rumours that I have been laid off from Grapevine - this isn’t true 😂. It is however true that I have been PIPed and have a much reduced role now xD 

To be serious: Happy to answer any Grapevine questions that you may have. Features, ideas, questions on why we do what we do welcome - I’ll answer what I can! 

Cheers!

Micheal_Scott AMA

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I really liked the concept. It has best of both worlds. Easiest way to create content is audio, and consume is text.

However, I think it will suffer because it might not promote controversial stuff or negative comments.

Humans have a negativity bias. Name-calling, insults or blind hate, are things that no one likes - but also things that no one can look away from. And those engaged in it can't easily pull away. 

One of the reasons why Grapevine is so good because in an anonymous forum, people might be less likely to step in and stop negative behavior. People either promote propaganda of one company or to spread shit about other companies.


Even X is infamous for rewarding conflict. Most negative comments come from anon folks. elafda get the best engagement.  


The audio first social media app Airchat has a second order effect that people can write way more mean shit than say it aloud. Plus it's not natively anon. 

I really wish it does work, in a world where there's so much negativity, we need airchat to thrive.

Why Airchat might not work

Director Product

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Hello everyone! 

What this post is: a place to hang around and chat just about anything - without having a specific topic to discuss.
Think of it like the watercooler at your office.

Look forward to hearing from you all!

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Intern

There are a few psychological and sociological theories that can help explain why anonymous forums may naturally tend towards negativity.

The separation from real-life consequences can result in people saying or doing things they wouldn't normally do, which can sometimes lead to negative behavior.

Some individuals derive satisfaction from creating conflict or distress for others online aka "trolling". Anonymous forums provide a fertile ground for trolls as they can typically act without direct consequences.

The larger the crowd, the less likely individuals are to take responsibility for a situation. In an anonymous forum, people might be less likely to step in and stop negative behavior, leading to a proliferation of such behavior.

Overtime this forum will see bots to promote propaganda of one company or to spread shit about other companies. 

As a community there should be something around guidelines, rules, and constructs to reduce this. What are some of your suggestions?

Who do anonymous forums like Grapevine tend to become negative?

It has been a while since I did a thread, so busy with work nowadays. 

My answer would be Grapevine. Never experienced something like Grapevine in a really long time. Especially, considering that it has only been their first year. 

What is your answer?

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I’ll go first.

To me, it’s all about access. 
Access to authentic ideas.

The best search result you get on Google is high SEO but low authenticity. On LinkedIn, there are so many people but everyone is shilling a course or 1:1 resume reviews. 

Mostly it has become a place which started as vanity signalling 

Like
( I have started a new role…, I have been accepted at …, I have received offers from F, A, N and G and I’m joining G.)  

And now people pushing mindless content with “Agree?” or “Comment Interested”.

Somehow, everyone is truly inauthentic to please a wider audience and say the exact same generic gyaan to maximise engagement.

For now, Grapevine is where people are genuinely themselves and I get to hear interesting things that you get to hear near the coffee machine.

Kinda feels like we’re all a big community where we all contribute and learn new things about the professional landscape around us.

Godspeed Grapevine. 🚀

Hola Grapeviners! I would love to know why are you on the platform?

Grapevines grapes 🍇 are like Cred Coins

You know those type of people? The ones who believe they know everything, everyone else is beneath them, but in reality are extremely stupid?

The ones who will never admit they are wrong even if you show them why? The ones who will try to demean you at every step of the way cause it gives them pleasure? The ones who you just want to punch as soon as you see them in office?

Yeah, I know you’re thinking about atleast one person while reading this. My question is what has your strategy been in dealing with these people? 

So far in my journey, I haven’t faced any sadistic manager, so that has been great, but the people, my god, some of the tech guys in my teams have been absolutely the most frustrating human beings I’ve encountered.

Ofcourse the first thing to do is to take a step back and reevaluate whether if it is you who has been the actual asshole all along, but after that, if you are still convinced that the other person is nothing but the living embodiment of satan, how do you guys go about dealing with them?

How do you guys deal with annoying assholes at work

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You uploaded or wrote about an incident / joke/ meme on Grapevine
and a friend/family (who don't know your identity on GV) send the exact same incident / joke/ meme

Has this happened to you?

Once, I was an ardent follower of the famous YouTuber Dhruv Rathee’s words, videos but off late, I have been seeing too much of his anti BJP propaganda videos. Also, people are talking that he is funded by AAP. Though he is good with the facts, figures & logics but now I am confused after seeing a lot of videos on how he is just brainwashing the public on the basis of the research done by some anti national people, living across the globe. 
What is your views on this?

Thoughts on Dhruv Rathee?

Here's another perspective: Dhruv Rathee is a good critic of the government. We need such critics in the country regardless of who is ruling. 
  
 I have noticed a growing trend of discrediting and defaming critics instead of addressing their arguments directly. 
  
 It's crucial to differentiate between criticisms of the government and criticisms of the country. Dhruv Rathee's critiques are aimed at the Modi government, not India. It's easy to put an "anti-national", "funded", "khalistani" and other labels on anyone who criticizes to refute their arguments without validating them at first. The government diverts our attention from criticisms by using such tactics

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Business Analyst

I feel that when you open up to people about your traumas and insecurities, people are only going to use it against you in an arguement.

While you might argue that not everyone does that, and I would be the first one to agree to that. But you somehow stop trusting everyone, even your shadow , when your favorite people become your most bitter life lessons. 

The one who feels emotions always ends up suffering more. In the hindsight, it feels as if being a bare minimum "good human" is a curse. 

However,

I have been using grapevine to vent out and connect with strangers and so far I have only met supportive and empathetic human beings (most of them). 

Despite being covered in the sheild of anonymity, most people have only been respectful and kind. 

This proves that we, as humans , are only meant to love each other. Hatred is futile. Empathy is inherent while hatred is "cultivated".

I hope grapevine founders dont stumble across this post else theyll start charging premium fees when they realize how highly people speak of this platform lol

GrapeVine> Therapy

Usual Grapevine weekend 😂

Thank God! We have Grapevine ❤️ because LinkedIn makes me 🤢🤮

Hit ❤️ if it’s true: because I got saved from a 🚩 company that got “Best Places to Work” award 💀

The number of rants I have on this platform, had they been anywhere else (social media or real life), I would have definitely lost my job, friends, and followers. 

Grateful for Grapevine 🍇

Just Grateful for this platform

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