Dealing with shit/toxic people in tech

I recently started a new job. I would like to share some of the experiences I have had with my manager. I am wondering if these are red flags or if I am maybe being paranoid or thinking too much. It was quite difficult for me to get into this company and this job. The company is quite great and I was quite excited but some of the experiences I have had with my immediate manager have made me a bit apprehensive. I would like to share them and hear opinions about it. Here are some things which have happened which I have not liked so far - 1. I speak to a Senior Engineer one day and next day my manager asks me if anyone asked me to speak to him. 2. I shared an insight about a new tool which we can use on a deployment pipeline on the overall pod (under my skip manager). My manager immediately called me and started asking my status update and replied 'Discussing 1-1' in the group to prevent anyone getting visibility of the idea. 3. My manager pings me whenever I go offline and recently he asked me in a passive aggressive way, 'Please monitor your Teams status. It was away for most of today.' I now feel kind of paranoid to never get up as I feel my Teams status is being monitored.

Currently working for Foreign Startup, under a Indian Engineering Manager. Manager is incompetent, doesn't like disagreemets. If you disagree with him, then he goes to length to make your life diffult. Already seen few examples in the team. There are red flag all over the place. I'm not sure how upper management is not able to catch him. He does the politics, favoritism, etc... List goes on and on. Any help would be appreciated. P.S Don't want to leave the company in this market.

Lately it's been really hard trying to cope up with derogatory comments and people trying to pull you down. I build/refactored some of our codebase and things go south in terms of performance at few places. I realised the mistake and fixed the performance bottlenecks that happened because of me in least time possible. But people still look down on me on and manager keeps passing hurtful comments about the incident every now and then. Moreover there's worse happening fellow people start blaming you for the performance of code you haven't even touched. You are just utilizing some function in your codebase written by some other person. I don't know how to handle all this and what should I do to avoid this? Mistakes happen, bugs go on prod, things can break but as far as once everything stabilise, we should move on.

How do I deal with a teammate who treats every feedback as criticism and the goes on to defend his actions to the point that it’s impossible to have a civil discussion. Any pointers will help as I have tried almost everything I can think of. Talked to manager and manager doesn’t want to say anything coz he is one of the best in our team🤷

Myself working in a E-commerce firm. Where CTO is such a hypocrite, he wants to control everything and everyone. Like Micro Management to the extreme. Any suggestions rather than leaving this job immediately.

Hi, please suggest on this suggestions may helpful. i have joined in a new project but due to, too much of politics in team i can't able to continue in the team, even Team Lead is not managing the work assignment things as per the project experience, i don't know what is happening in IT i am hearing this politics problem from many people. what is the solution for it? i like the coding so that's why i am not able to quit the job, but i am not able to servive because of these kind of team politics, even project change also i am not sure everywhere these kind of people are existing and because of them silent employees career is affecting. but i am feeling sad due to these people do i need to waste my 21 years study(how parents struggled)+ the early struggles of our life to enter into this IT field and all. If i tell the real problem to higher people, it simply create negetive impression on me, I have experienced this previously. I can't stay eve one day in this team because it is affecting my mental health to stay in this team and now days i a getting physical health issues as well so what to do, i am so depressed and crying everyday i am getting shivering to login each day, what is the best solution for this pls advice. I don't have energy to fight with them and to prove every single shit so even to bench also i am fine but i need smooth handling/transition. because if we spent all our life also we can't prove this fox nature of this unethical people. Don't know in Capgemini why they will not give value to employee opnion, they will just give priority to higher position people words only.

I work as a SDE1, and have been working on a new project, and I get it the deadlines and all but this senior have been pushing commits on my PR. I get it I'm a noob but they could leave comments or maybe get on call. Even yesterday this dude pushed refactor commits, it's soo irritating as I have to go through his changes and tbh refactoring is fine but he doesn't have to change everything whatever he finds better. Talked to my manager, he mentioned its fine but not everytime. Ps: yeah ik it helps me to leaen but it's damn irritating.

How do you guys identify it ? What do you guys do ?

I am going through my notice at an early stage Start-up. The founder is extremely toxic and is trying to create issues despite me trying to work double hard. She is not even seeing my face and acting all weird - I don't know how to deal with this.

I'm feeling really stuck and frustrated at work lately. Despite putting in my best efforts and consistently performing well, it seems like my manager is feeling threatened by my progress. He’s been rejecting my ideas and work without even reviewing them, and calling me out in meetings for not completing non-priority tasks. The environment has become really toxic and it's taking a toll on me. Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.