Time to face the truth!

I got huge love and support from Grapeviners on my wedding posts https://share.gvine.app/xmMLoy48oRDNkJ7G7 So me and my beautiful lady got married last week, Friday. Earky morning 14th, I along with my close friends left for wedding destination. All of this was conveyed to my family (Mother & Sister) and on the morning of 14, my mother said, “Do think one last time.” I replied with the same to her. On our way, my Sister called me and said, stleast you should have met me before going. But post this call she called my to be wife and asked for her Mother’s and Brother’s mobile number. In reply my to be wife(now wife) replied that “Why? And I have to ask “me” for this”. She then called me. I called my sister and she started spewing things against her to me. She started convincing that if she is not respecting us today how will she respect us in future. And they also threatened to book a tickets for them to come to the destination. Then my maternal uncle called my friend and told him “Whatever is happening is wrong, and if you can stop it plz stop”. Lot was happening over phone. My mother and sister were continuously asking me to cancel the marriage and come back home. I was getting worried, what if they come tomorrow. They are in process of taking any step to halt the things. We all reached destination, got a warm welcome from my to be wife’s family. Few events started happening and we all started enjoying them. In evening I met my to be wife and she was worried and fearful. What is they(my mom, sister and Maternal uncle) come at the location. They will create a scene and there are lot of family members over there. To escape this, I took a call to tell my family that I ran away from the marriage. I kept them involved in this till the marriage got over. But even till now, I have not told them that I got married. Now I want to tell them this but have to figure out how?

Few days back I shared the issues with my love marriage: https://share.gvine.app/MqNSaoaojCmwsXbB7 Lot of love and support from you people. So finally the day is near. Not much change in my family’s stand! Few conversation where they started becoming supportive of me but that came along with the question of postponing the marriage. Again after every support, their was push to not do the marriage. You will regret later, she is not good etc etc. My mom, today she even asked that the girl need to leave her well paying job! I am feeling so so ashamed of all this happening around. I am feeling guilty for both the family. I am feeling guilty that I should not have carry forwarded the relationship. Over these, I have started realising that how societal powers can make a human sacrifice their own self. If I choose to not marry(Assumption) how I am going to sacrifice myself only for my mother’s happiness. Idk what happiness she will get by marrying me to someone of her choice. I am sure of all the marriages that are happening around, more than half of it must be broken or shallow marriage. I am greatful to have friends who are around, who are coming to attend marriage and are supporting me. I am also greatful to girl’s family. They are supporting the relationship! Plz share your nlessing for us! Will share a pic from marriage!

I joined AmEx Gurgaon in 2015 in PoS Fraud Strategy as a Business Analyst. I was having a rough time at AmEx as I really wanted to pursue my passion of Mathematics in the US. I had secured an admit at Univeristy of Illinois - Urbana Champaign and UT-Austin in their MS programme and was totally checked out at work. During my tenure at AmEx, I was mostly bored. Looking at internal tools and spreadsheets was the worst. This coupled with the fact that I was travelling to and fro between Noida and Gurgaon meant that I was commuting a solid 4 hours everyday. In this time of mental agony, I met this charismatic young woman, she was an Analyst in the Credit Underwriting Team. I don't know what got into me and I asked her out to coffee. We went to the Starbucks in CyberHub the next morning and she was the most delightful personality ever. Sweet and elegant, she talked of her passion with vigour, from her ideals to writing poems. I left that conversation feeling uneasy though. She reminded me of what I wanted but also of what I was scared to lose in her. We continued to date for the next 6 months in a hush-hush manner to avoid any suspicion at AmEx. I had to start the process of getting my F1-visa for the US and when I told her about it she was extremely disheartened. In my heart, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her and life without her was nothing but an empty void. She came with me to the US Consulate Office, and I don't know what got into me but I kissed her. I knew that I wanted her more than anything else. Decided not to give the Visa Interview and applied to ISB with my GRE score. Got into it and ended up becoming a Management Consultant in MBB. We got married in 2019 and welcomed our daughter into this world in 2021. I wonder what life would've been living in the US. But whatever it would be, it couldn't be better than being in her arms when we come back from work. Have faith. Everything will turn out to be okay. Trust the process

29F, I still stay with my parents Working, earning >1lpm, remote work Over the years, I have realised I own no assets. Everything has been bought by parents EVERYTHING My mom would always make sure she or dad paid, saying you can keep your money for yourself (which I initially thought was very sweet) Now I see how I am dependent on them for all What ever I have bought can be put into a polythene bag and that's all my life (I generally spend on food and stuff that goes away) I have bought certain items for family or the house, but that isn't mine obviously I need to get out of the house, my mental health is at the edge