Diagnosed with HIV a year ago

I am a homosexual, and I've found the dating culture here to be much better than in other parts of the country. However, I generally keep that aspect of my life private at work.

When I started dating, I was well aware of where high-risk behaviour takes you to. I made it a point to get tested every six months.

One of my tests took an extra two days for a re-run of the sample, and I received a call to meet the doctor in person. I knew that’s the standard protocol for an HIV positive result.

While I wasn't surprised, I was deeply saddened by the results. Coming from a middle-class family, I had worked hard to secure a good job, earn money, and support my family. Yet, this virus seemed to be an inevitable part of my journey ever since my struggles began as a teenager.

I've always known that I needed to be successful and strong to succeed in all aspects of life. But this is not a battle that can be won. It is a slow surrender to death. Life is an acceptance of your eventual death for everyone but mine is fated to be in my 50s.

Some close friends, family members, and any partners I meet are aware of my condition, but I prefer not to deal with the hassles and perceptions at work. Legally, NACO registration is optional, have chosen not to.

With the hookup culture increasing in the city for everyone, I hope this serves as a PSA to be safe.