Never shared this with Anyone, but since this keeps me Anonymous, let me tell you my side of take on this. I am not making this about myself, but about the experience and the thought of marriage.
I was 29 when I got married to a viciously toxic wife. It was arranged and manipulated along with lies and the kundli and all. My Parents were too Decent to care for a BGV of the bride, because apparently they knew someone who is a relative of the family I am getting married to. FFS.
So, 4 years into the marriage, The abuse was too much, I shivered to the thought of returning home after work, My career went to Dogs for all the 4 years, it was a living hell.
Fake Cases were filed, all disproven, Due to constant influence and manipulation by their family, I and my parents shifted the town, abandoned my childhood home that we lived in for more than 30 years.
Constant police calls, summons to court and I started getting panick attacks, severe anxiety and depression. Used to shiver whenever I got an unknown call.
Fought through it all for two years in multiple legal processes and Finally divorced her with a Huge alimony that cost me Mom's entire superannuation fund. Guess what, 2 weeks into the divorce she married someone she had in line not so surprisingly.
Thanks to my mom for such a big sacrifice and God for always backing me and trusting me, Now I am happily Divorced now and Considering never to think about the marriage. I am happy to be able to return to my parents whenever I want to, in less than 12 hrs from the City. I hope to take care of them through their Retirement. Live is good and I now understood that I need to take care of myself to. Work pays less, but what the Heck, I am a survivor. It is a new found freedom and I am loving every bit of it. Money doesn't matter. I managed to collate my savings and with home loan, Now purchased a new home for my parents to live in later. Father now rebuilt his childhood home in his hometown, his dream was to retire in it. Which he did.
I travel places now, Exercise daily, Eat mindfully and still enjoy delicious foods every weekend. Living out of a PG(I know it's bad, but I don't get paid that we'll) , I found new friends whom I roam around and celebrate life. I am still working in the same company that trained me 10 years ago, Hoping to switch soon with a bigger role, preparations underway. Never been happier.
Sometimes life doesn't give you second chances, but life can give you first experiences and Marriages should be just that.
Marriages these days are too much done out of desperation and very less through care and consideration. Now if in a market you'd want a bunch of apples and you went there a few hours towards the end of the market, all you'd find are the rotten apples. (Just a figure of speech, no need to be offended) You can't pick one among them, because you already know the apples went through something you don't know. So why bother purchasing the rotten ones? The ships have sailed, the coast is clear, but enjoy the view. Who cares about getting into a boat. They didn't get to stay back and watch the sun set or the birds flying in the cold winter. You do.
