I don't know if this post would make sense, but does anyone ever wish they were less? Less competent, less "bright", less "smart"? I'm not being braggy but I am pretty smart (not book smart but smart smart) and while objectively I am doing pretty good, I just constantly feel like I'm not living up to my fullest potential!
Should I be on the lookout for a better job (the present one is fine) or preparing to study more or, I don't know, to scale and scale? It feels like everyone has such high expectations of me and I hate making mistakes, even if it is a typo in a document
The anxiety that I'll never live up to my potential becomes so crippling, it becomes counter productive and like Dr. Strange, I forseen like a 100 different possible outcomes of every decision because I can't seem to turn my brain off! Ignorance is bliss and I so wish I could be ignorant
What’s the opposite of the impostor syndrome?
God complex
I swear, I swing between a superiority complex and "I've literally not done anything in life, look at so and so, they've done this and they've done that and they're younger/dumber/with less opportunities than me!"
I swear I'm not as vain as I sound here :/
Same here!
Since I was a child I was academically smart and people had high expectations of me. I guess that still stays with me even in the professional world. I always feel the pressure to do more, be more.
A lot of therapy has taught me that this feeling is because i probably feel that my work is my worth. That if i don't contribute enough I'm not worthy as a person. That's my case but could be something different for you.
But i definitely relate to the anxiety
I'm glad to know you're doing better and someone at freaking Google suffers from the same anxiety, I don't know, makes me feel less alone, thank you 💛
Ignorance is bliss. A lot of simple minded folks just enjoying life without being concerned about salary/switch, layoffs, fed rates, sensex, adani, chatgpt, startups and all kinds of shit going on in the world. At the end of the day you want to live a happy life right? And imo dumber folks live a happier life being satisfied in their small bubble. Which in a way actually makes them better....
Completely agree, absolutely!!!
I can understand this. Both board topper, good clg, good placement, resigned to explore, travel, understand society and to do higher studies. Then COVID happened. Doing PG & internship but not to the fullest. I know, I can understand.
It is actually an enxiety. Anxiety is the gap between who you are and who you think you should be.
You accumulate anxiety and frustration when you never take risks, because deep down, you know you can do better.
What they say is truely correct : better to take calculated risks, to try and fail instead of just wishing what could/would have happened.
And there is always an option, there is always a chance. We have to take a decision.
Completely! But with me, it's more like "I should've taken this risk" and then I think oh, it's too late now... Even though technically I know there are more things I could do today too, but I just... I don't know how to explain it... Can't
Get into space or look within. You’ll realise how small you’re and fortunate. Gratefulness will work wonders for you. “If you’re alone in a room and it slowly drives u insane then obviously you’re in bad company”
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