DerpyPancake
DerpyPancake

Does anyone ever wish they were... Less?

I don't know if this post would make sense, but does anyone ever wish they were less? Less competent, less "bright", less "smart"? I'm not being braggy but I am pretty smart (not book smart but smart smart) and while objectively I am doing pretty good, I just constantly feel like I'm not living up to my fullest potential!

Should I be on the lookout for a better job (the present one is fine) or preparing to study more or, I don't know, to scale and scale? It feels like everyone has such high expectations of me and I hate making mistakes, even if it is a typo in a document

The anxiety that I'll never live up to my potential becomes so crippling, it becomes counter productive and like Dr. Strange, I forseen like a 100 different possible outcomes of every decision because I can't seem to turn my brain off! Ignorance is bliss and I so wish I could be ignorant

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FloatingWaffle
FloatingWaffle
Cisco21mo

What’s the opposite of the impostor syndrome?

PrancingPickle
PrancingPickle
Student21mo

God complex

DerpyPancake
DerpyPancake

I swear, I swing between a superiority complex and "I've literally not done anything in life, look at so and so, they've done this and they've done that and they're younger/dumber/with less opportunities than me!"

I swear I'm not as vain as I sound here :/

DizzyBoba
DizzyBoba

grass is always greener on the other side

DerpyPancake
DerpyPancake

I suppose, yes, but if I was ignorant, I wouldn't know I was ignorant?

BubblyPotato
BubblyPotato

Don't know for anyone else but definitely for you considering your employment status lol

MagicalPanda
MagicalPanda
Google21mo

Same here!
Since I was a child I was academically smart and people had high expectations of me. I guess that still stays with me even in the professional world. I always feel the pressure to do more, be more.

A lot of therapy has taught me that this feeling is because i probably feel that my work is my worth. That if i don't contribute enough I'm not worthy as a person. That's my case but could be something different for you.

But i definitely relate to the anxiety

DerpyPancake
DerpyPancake

I'm glad to know you're doing better and someone at freaking Google suffers from the same anxiety, I don't know, makes me feel less alone, thank you 💛

GroovyBoba
GroovyBoba

Ignorance is bliss. A lot of simple minded folks just enjoying life without being concerned about salary/switch, layoffs, fed rates, sensex, adani, chatgpt, startups and all kinds of shit going on in the world. At the end of the day you want to live a happy life right? And imo dumber folks live a happier life being satisfied in their small bubble. Which in a way actually makes them better....

DerpyPancake
DerpyPancake

Completely agree, absolutely!!!

BubblyPotato
BubblyPotato

The whole fucking comment section is r/iamverysmart material lol

MagicalBagel
MagicalBagel
Amazon21mo

Lol true

BubblyPotato
BubblyPotato

Not to mention they probably mistook anxiety as smartness

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