The past year has been the best! I'm engaged to my long-term partner, making the first person I loved, my last. I'm working in my dream company and dream role I've finally moved out and have a healthy distance from my controlling family I wish I could say all of the above but you know what they say "You plan. God laughs' My life has become a joke.
After years and years of nurturing my relationship and working on myself, I've achieved nothing personally or professionally. Being an overthinker, I'd detail everything from plan 'A' to plan 'Z' to ensure my dreams come true. I had an extraordinarily amazing relationship but when it came down to marriage he didn't have time to even think about it. I have a brilliant resume filled with distinction grades, extracurriculars, and leadership roles, and yet I couldn't score an interview let alone be shortlisted for any role I wanted. With no choice, I'm stuck in a job that I absolutely hate and have no interest in! And finally, after 26 years of living with my family and growing up to be a responsible adult and doing everything and more, they ask me, they still think the worst of me, call me names, hardly acknowledge my presence, and make me feel guilty for barely living my life.
I'm honestly so emotionally drained and feel like my whole life has been a struggle, hoping for things to get better someday. But all I feel is stuck. Everyone around me is moving on with their lives - getting married, moving to a new city/country, getting roles in dream companies and I'm nowhere close to anything I want.
Being a practical and logical person I would usually not take advice from random strangers on the internet but I'm keeping an open mind and I'd love to hear your thoughts on my depressing life! đź’”
People below 25 yrs don't bother commenting, unless you want to start a crowd fund for my therapy.
P.S. The last para is a joke. Don't come at me about it in the comment section. I do need therapy though, but can't afford it. Not from an experienced psychologist at least.
I suggest that you watch Kung fu panda (first part). There are too many deep lessons to be learnt there. I have read too many articles, watches numerous videos, read Gita etc - all boils down to my suggestion to watch Kung fu panda. Has helped me a lot. May it help you too.
Hey, you have already 50 percent won the war as you know what your pain points are. You will reach the place where you want to reach eventually, only those people face failures who are on a correct path to success.
Don't compare yourself with others literally this is biggest mistake we do in our lives, just try to think that some people also want to be at the place where you are currently. Just keep your heads up and don't stop believing in yourself, you are not doing any harm to others, just killing your own mind by having such thoughts.
You are young enough and can change your life still, though I know what I said is difficult to implement even for me, but if you make your mind no one can stop you. And for love it's not in our hands you cannot force someone to love you, nobody can, you have experienced it, some people don't even experience it. I haven't. Just be happy and cheerful and keep your morale high, you are already there just a few steps away from achieving your dreams buddy. All the best !!.
Yess. Thank you!!
I really thought of writing something and after 10 mins of just staring in screen, I can only say : "Life always have a funny way to help you reach your dreams. Don't stop the grind." And yes, I think this is a safe space for you. Go ahead and throw your anger on this post. You'll feel better.
Even though the way doesn't seem funny enough to crack a laugh, I'll keep grinding.....no other choice anyway!
So the biggest scam pulled by the world over us is "You do this you will be happy" "you get good grades you will be happy" "you get good job you will be happy" "you get married you will be happy" this goes on and on and on. Aren't the richest most successful people going to therapy also? IT'S A SCAM The sooner you learn about it the better. The only way you can be happy is to look at the shit you are drowning in and go "Right now things are the way they are, Even if I am happy or sad or angry or whatever things are the way they are what is the best way i can respond to this ". This is life
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