BubblyPancake
BubblyPancake

Help me with my career

Hi Everyone, I’m in a very bad state in my career right now. I feel my IIM degree has become my embarrassment and a stand in my way. During the course and even 6 years later, I regret doing it and felt like I didn’t belong there. I’m a shy and under-confident person so I cracked CAT but during MBA, I couldn’t learn public speaking skills and interpersonal skills. I constantly fear that people would come to know that I’m some fraud and say ‘lagta nhi tum IIM se ho’😢. In all my jobs, I struggled working with the bosses and college and handling pressure. I even did a consulting job but struggled the most there.

After suffering a lot and talking to therapists and coaches, I thought corporate isn’t for me and quit my job without any offers thinking that I would figure out something. It’s been 3 months now and I’m still clueless about my life and what I want to do. I feel I deserve a less paying job but someone I’m ashamed to admit that I’m from IIM and I still want to do this. The constant pressure from the world has taken away my thinking power, risk taking ability and excitement to do things. I want to go into some non-corporate field, but now I’m so scared of everything.

I would really appreciate if you all can please suggest some options for me to make a comeback.

8d ago
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CosmicJellybean
CosmicJellybean
Student8d

First relax, I understand how you must be feeling right now especially in india, peer pressure, relative pressure etc.

Now I will suggest a few things that can help you, however it will take time, you said it had been 3 months since you left your job so think before taking any steps, I am only suggesting you doing it ultimately is your decision.

First it comes down to WHY Why do you have trouble with speaking to others 1)is it low self confidence
2)Introverted personality

If it is the first 2 then try these:

1> Do volunteering work : one approach would be to do some course but you have already done IIM so doing volunteering work is one option to develop speaking and interpersonal skills,

HOW : join some ngo nowadays there are a lot of ngo, join any you feel comfortable with

Benefits:

  1. you can stop whenever you want, ultimately you are not doing it for profit but for learning almost they might give you a certificate, another thing to add in your bio

  2. making connections, working with ngo you will meet a lot of people which might help you expend your connections

Ultimately volunteering is looked down upon but gives a lot of benefits

2> pick some hobby: try writing a novel, music, gaming or drawing, record some video of yourself while talking to yourself.

HOW:
for novels there is webnovel.com For music there is bandlab Gaming video there is youtube
You can find platforms for other hobbies

[WARNING] don't be mistaken, I am not suggesting opening a youtube channel or getting too much invested in some hobby.

To develop confidence taking to yourself while looking at a mirror is said to be the first step recording your videos is just taking it to another level

  • You might just find something you were good at but never knew...

Ultimately engaging in a hobby might be risky if you get too invested but for something to do side by side it's a good option.

Now it's not about settling for a low paying job because in the end even there you will have to face stress and problem with communication

Joining a low paying might be good if you go through a "one step at a time approach" but improving self confidence should be your priority if you want to make a comeback.

I am an ambivert myself, but once I start trying things improved.

If nothing else go in a random park try interacting with people, or just scream to get the stress out [not at people (⁠;⁠ŏ⁠﹏⁠ŏ⁠) but at some tree or at sky itself]

😊 believe me things will improve.

BubblyPancake
BubblyPancake
PWC8d

Thank you so much for your advice. I already feel light and see a ray of light at the end of the tunnel.

MagicalDonut
MagicalDonut

Hi, I can understand how overwhelming and stressful this phase of your life must feel. I strongly recommend trying the Art of Living Happiness Program. It has helped me significantly in managing stress, boosting my confidence, and improving my overall clarity of thought. The program involves breathing techniques, relaxation exercises, and meditation that bring noticeable transformation. You’ll find yourself feeling calmer, more centered, and confident in facing challenges. This could be a great step to regain your sense of direction and focus. You can DM me or visit the link ArtofLiving.org/ohp to learn very effective Breathing Technique Sudarshan Kriya taught it the program either online/offline

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