Why does this happens? How can we mitigate this. Aur bich m fas ham jaate hai. Give your opinions on like bahu saas ki choti si baat ko dil p kyu leti hai. I don't mind my mother in law for anything.
Pata nahi...par mummy ko bhi apni sasu maa se nahi banti hogi 😶.
Kahani ghar ghar ki.
Wahi bhai ye chalte kyu aaraha ye chij resolve honi chaiye
Pata nahi bhai. Well kuch hadd tak ye explainable bhi hai agar saas bahu ek chatt ke neche rehte hai toh.
Like ladkiya ati hai na ladko ke ghar pe, and not the other way round. Toh kuch bhi boli..it definitely is an adjustment on some level for them...kisi ke liye kum, kisi ke liye zyada...but still hai toh sahi.
And may be they worry ki pati ji unbiased nahi hai...and that they will bring in some amount of biasness for sure...and hence the ladai of pati ko apna banane ki and khunass saas ke liye .
And in some cases, bacche actually hote hai jinko pata hota hai ki mummy galat keh rahi hai ya something but still they expect the girl to adjust instead of correcting the parents....toh aur bhi zyada khunass
I think as the primary reason why Kalesh happens between a mother and a daughter in law is because-
Conflict happens when both of their insecurities clash against one another as the wife's only trusted person is the husband in a new household, and the mother's only pride is now prioritising a new lady.
Balance needs to be stricken by the husband in this case. He needs to make sure that constant reassurances need to be given to us wife through words and actions that he has got her back. And he needs to communicate to his mother that although he respects and loves her the most, he has a family to build now, and his priorities have not changed but shuffled.
But what should husband do when wife doesn't respect mother and not ready to go to hometown. How can I make my wife understand that she gave to ignore little little things and move on otherwise relations will deteriorate.
Try to communicate how you are stuck in between your mother and her. And do mention that although she is your priority and you'll always be by her side, you've certain obligations to fulfil and hence both of you have to face the society and not become a dinner table conversation for other relatives. And hence plan a hometown trip. Make sure you assure her and also really do take care of her when you are there at your mom's. Also, just to perk things up, plan a small trip or outting, just the two of you, on your way back home. Do let me know if this helps 💁♀️
It is about distribution of power, decision ownership, inertia to leave grihast phase of life(longest period) and lack of leadership skill in seniors. In hindu shastra, it is explained 4 phase of life. Most senior even their kids are well established in "grihast" phase of life, they parrent do not leave themselves from grihast phase. Honesty, the senior should move to vaanprast. So situation, happens like that their are multiple leaders in same family who feel themselves owner of all grihast event and decision making in each event. Hence the conflict. Finally with multiple conflicts, leader seperate themselves. This situation even grows up with multiple kids. Solution for future in my believe would be giving knowledge of four phase of life with real objective and thier responsibility based on each character our kids play, to make their life easier. For current situation, not sure you can just try to explain, ki mama !, I understand what you said, please let me take the desesion and risk"
But what to do when your wife is not respecting your mother? Whose side you will take.
Why do women do this? I mean everything would be going so fine and suddenly they would come up with something random to argue upon. And they lowkey love it, but if things go a little too far you are the one who will be blamed.
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